About Dating Advice For Women - Blaine Barrington

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach. He's the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System - the System that cracks the "Guy Code" and shows women how to find their Mr. Right and How To Inspire Your Man To Love, Cherish, Appreciate and Adore You. Blaine writes dating and relationship articles and provides powerful and effective relationship and dating advice for women. He shows single women who are ready for love how to meet quality men offline and through online dating.

Talking Dirty To Your Man

What Every Woman Needs to Know About Dirty Talk and
How To Introduce Erotic Sex Talk Into Your Lovemaking

If you’ve ever wondered whether talking dirty to your man is a sexual turn-on, let me say this:dirty talk

Most men get an erotic charge out of dirty talk in bed.

In fact, most men really do like it when a woman knows how to talk dirty to them because it instantly inflames their desire.

But just as talking dirty can be a turn-on, saying the wrong thing or fumbling around for the right words to say when you’re caught off-guard can be an instant turn-off.

That’s why it’s important that you know what to say so it doesn’t make him cringe or get turned off completely.

For some women who are in their 30s, 40s, 50s and looking for dating advice, talking dirty to a man might be a new technique in their seduction, flirting, or lovemaking skills particularly if they’ve never done it before.

What’s more, it could be something to introduce to a new partner or lover when you enter into a new relationship.

For other women, talking dirty to your man is going to be a natural extension of your lovemaking.

And for many women, talking dirty to your man is about getting to know each other on a totally different sexual level because it’s uninhibited and expressive and exposes deep sexual desires and feelings.

Your Romantic Date Leads To Dirty Talk
During Passionate, Hot and Steamy Lovemaking

Imagine going on a date with a hot guy you’re attracted to.

It’s not your first date with him.

You’ve dated for a short while now and even though there’s been talk about having sex, nothing has happened up to this point.

You trust him and you’d like to take the relationship to the next level – which means sleeping with him – after he’s made a commitment to you.

After all, you’re not looking for a one night stand.

And you’re not willing to give up the treasures of your body without him making a commitment to being in a relationship.

The adventure unfolds this way…

He takes you to a fancy restaurant for a candle-lit dinner.

The lights are dim.

Romantic music plays softly in the background.

The orange sun slowly dips below the horizon.

Your table is tucked away in a corner where you’re totally private.

It’s a romantic setting.

The food is heavenly.

The dessert is to die for.

The conversation is exciting and non-stop.

You’re feeling the intense attraction you both have for each other.

You have eyes only for him.

He’s handsome, witty, and charming.

He’s the perfect combination that you’re looking for – he’s flirtatious and yet he’s a gentleman.

This is a good man who you want in your life.

You know it’s the right time to have sex with him.

You want him so badly.

You start to flirt with him and tease him.

And then you pretend to get up from the table to go to the restroom.

As you pass by him you lean down, touch him on the arm, and whisper seductively in his ear, “Let’s go back to my place.”

He grabs your hand, looks directly into your eyes, and gives your hand a light squeeze.

He’s thinking the same thing.

He hurriedly pays the bill and you walk out of the restaurant holding each other’s hand.

It seems like a lifetime before you arrive home.

The air is charged with electricity.

As soon as the door closes, he takes you in his arms and kisses you deeply…passionately.

You melt in his arms and press your body into his…signaling your desire.

You wish this moment could go on forever.

It’s exciting.

It sends tingles down your spine.

You feel waves of pleasure coursing through your body.

His hand wanders down your curves.

He telegraphs his desire and lust for you.

There’s just a momentary bit of apprehension because it’s your first time with him.

But nothing is going to stop this moment…or the adventure to come.

You take his hand and you lead him to your bedroom.

Feelings intensify.

Your desire for him is inflamed.

You sense, then feel, his urgency.

As you continue to kiss each other deeply and passionately, you tug and pull at each other’s clothes in a frantic attempt to feel each other’s nakedness.

You’re burning with desire for him.

And you want him to take you.

Soon, you can no longer hold back.

You want him urgently now.

You pull him towards you, you open to his insistent but gentle urging, and you join as one.

As you’re enjoying the delicious feel of him, he whispers in your ear, “Talk dirty to me.”

It’s the moment of truth.

Do you say things that arouse him and take your lovemaking to new heights?

Or do you feel a moment of fear as it flashes by you that he might not think of you as a sexy lover?

Do you stumble and mumble, wondering what you should do next…and kill the mood?

Talking Dirty To Your Man Is A
Powerful Sexual Stimulant To Him

Have you ever wondered what it is about talking dirty to your man that turns him on so much?

It’s as though an “arousal switch” has been flipped and instantly inflames his desire for you.

And it makes him look at you with new respect and desire.

He lusts after you.

It keeps you on his mind when he’s not with you because he’s thinking, “Wow! She’s a Goddess!”

It’s like an addiction and he wants more of you.

In fact, he can’t get enough of you.

He craves a deeper connection…a different energy…something that’s completely unlike the plain vanilla sex that he’s experienced in the past or is used to.

Here’s why talking dirty to your man has such a powerful effect on him and drives him wild with desire and why you should add naughty and sexy talk to your lovemaking skills.

1. He Wants a Good Girl By Day and a Naughty Girl By Night

There’s something about a woman who turns into a tigress in the bedroom that surprises, shocks, and excites a man.

Perhaps it’s the fact that only he knows what she’s like behind closed doors.

Perhaps it’s the lure of the forbidden and unknown that excites him and turns him to putty in your hands.

Whatever it is, a woman who knows how to excite her man in the bedroom using her feminine wiles isn’t as common as you might think and that can be a powerful aphrodisiac to a man.

When the naughty girl in you comes out to play, he’s going to respond with lust, desire, and enthusiasm.

2. He Feels Like A Sex God And Sees You As His Sex Goddess

Most men are proud of their performance in the bedroom, especially if they know they can turn their woman on and take her over the edge.

They also like to know that they’re contributing to a woman’s sexual pleasure.

A woman who is silent or hardly reacts at all during sex, on the other hand, isn’t very exciting at all to a man.

It’s as though she lies there and can’t wait to get it over with when it could – and should – be one of the most exciting and wonderful times between a couple.

When she’s quiet, a man doesn’t know if he’s doing things the right way to stimulate and arouse her.

He might even think he’s doing something wrong.

And he begins to doubt his abilities in the love department and wonder what she thinks of his skill as a lover.

A vocal woman, on the other hand, is exciting.

She adds fun to the experience.

She’s an enthusiastic lover.

She awakens his dormant desire and lust for her.

And what man doesn’t like a woman who likes to have sex and make love with enthusiasm?

Her enthusiasm speaks volumes – it shows she’s excited to be with her man and she wants to bond with him in the most intimate way.

A woman who talks dirty to her man during lovemaking heightens and supercharges his desire for her and that can lead to exhilarating and memorable sex.

3. Talking Dirty to A Man Is The Pinnacle of Seduction And Sexual Expression

You and your man can try every position in the Kama Sutra.

You can try new scents and perfumes.

You can try new fetishes.

You can try role playing.

You can act out fantasies.

You can touch each other.

You can taste each other.

You can smell each other.

You can flirt.

You can entice.

You can make naughty suggestions.

You can tease.

You can tempt.

But ultimately there’s one thing that brings him to his knees and makes him surrender – and fall – under your seductive spell.

And that’s dirty talk.

Because dirty talk is the sexy talk of seduction.

It’s a man’s Achilles Heel that seduces and lures him and turns him into putty in your hands.

What woman doesn’t want that?

Of course, sexy talk is more than the effect of luring him and seducing him and inflaming his desire for you.

It’s also your ultimate expression of pleasure and arousal.

It’s the sounds you make.

It’s the words you use.

It’s the sounds combined with the words.

It’s the whispers that flow freely and seductively when you’re in another state of mind.

When you moan or cry out his name in the throes of passion it goes to the very heart of his arousal.

It triggers his hunger for acknowledgement, appreciation, and respect from the woman he loves.

When you tell him what turns you on and you start talking dirty it activates his erotic senses and it makes him feel the very essence of being a man.

4. He’s Turned On By Your Adventurous and Enthusiastic “Freak Between The Sheets” Lovemaking

You don’t know what a guy is like sexually – especially if he’s a new boyfriend.

He could be a skilled lover who knows how to please a woman beyond anything she ever imagined.

He might be a generous lover who likes to please you to the point of delaying or even sacrificing his own pleasure.

He might be a selfish lover who thinks only of himself and his own pleasure, forgetting that you seek to give and receive pleasure, too.

Or, he could be an inexperienced lover who needs patient guidance on how to touch and please a woman.

On the other hand, he doesn’t know what you’re like in bed, either.

You might be inexperienced.

You might have had only one lover in the past.

You might have had several lovers.

Everyone has different sexual experiences in their relationships.

Even if you’re not an adventurous “Freak Between the Sheets” lover, you can still show him signs of your enthusiasm through your sexy and erotic talk.

If you are a “Freak Between the Sheets” then you’re at a different level of lovemaking.

You’re a skilled lover who knows what she wants and knows how to turn a man on and get him hot for you.

You’re passionate about lovemaking and pleasing your partner with the gifts and treasures your body has to offer.

You know how to excite your man…

It could be with a smile.

It could be with a gesture.

It could be with clothing or lingerie.

It could be with the way you talk to him.

It could be with the sounds you make as he kisses you deeply or makes love to you.

You have the skills to inflame his desire – whether it’s talking dirty in bed or sexting him with naughty and suggestive texts or dirty chat on IM or online that get him all fired up and hot for you.

You have a collection of exciting and stimulating sex toys (affiliate) for both you and for him to heighten the lovemaking experience.

You exude sexual confidence and you have a no-holds-barred attitude that shows you’re up for the challenge and you know what you’re doing in the bedroom.

New positions to try? No problem.

Fantasies? You bet.

Fetishes? Why not.

Role playing? Let’s do it.

Talking dirty to your man? Absolutely!

They’re all part of being alluring that can lead to adventurous and enthusiastic lovemaking.

You’ll try almost anything at least once as long as it’s legal and isn’t painful.

You’re a man’s dream Sexual Goddess.

Sexy Talk Adds a New Dimension
To Your Lovemaking

Naughty sex talk has nothing to do with being shy or tentative.

It’s for the confident woman.

It’s for the woman who’s aroused and who wants to arouse her man.

It’s for the woman who wants to, and knows how to, please her man.

It’s for the woman who uses it as another lovemaking tool in her arsenal of sexual skills.

It doesn’t have to be vulgar.

Because it’s not necessary to be crude or smutty to be effective.

It’s about being confident in your ability to know – and say – the specific words and phrases that turn a man on.

If you are shy or you’re hesitant trying suggestive and sexy language when he says, “Talk dirty to me,” then all it takes is knowing the right words and phrases – your dirty talk “lines” – to say and then start using them.

How To Introduce Dirty Talk
To Your Lovemaking

When you’re with a new lover you don’t know whether he’s into talking dirty or not.

So here are a few tips on how to talk dirty…

1. Start Slowly

Thrill him with your words of seduction.

Tantalize and titillate with your flirty and erotic whisperings.

Tell him how good he feels.

Tell him how good he smells.

Tell him how good he tastes.

Tell him how hot you are for him.

Tell him what a great kisser he is.

Tell him how good he is as a lover.

Tell him how sexy he is.

Tell him how you wanted him last night.

Tell him how you fantasized about this moment the first time you met him.

Tell him he’s on your mind all the time.

What man doesn’t want to hear that – and more – from his woman?

His ego will go through the roof.

And he’ll want to perform and please you even more.

2. Find Out If He’s Into Sexy Dirty Talk

If you’ve been getting a green light with your initial seductive compliments, ask him if he’s into dirty talk.

Some men are.

Others aren’t.

Those who aren’t can be turned off immediately, thinking it’s crude, obscene, or unnecessary.

If he’s never tried it before then broach the subject openly and talk about it to find out his thoughts and beliefs.

If you like to use naughty and erotic talk during sex, let him know you do and see how he reacts.

Tell him what you like to hear.

Tell him what words and phrases turn you on.

If he’s into it, he’s going to be an enthusiastic participant.

On the other hand, you might want to ease into it with something flirty and complimentary.

He makes you hot just thinking about him.

He makes you frisky.

He makes you wet.

If he begins to reciprocate then chances are you’re both into the same thing.

3. Know (And Agree Upon) The Limits and Boundaries

There are different degrees of sexy and erotic talk and you don’t want to kill the mood by using the wrong words.

When your man tells you you’re naughty, it’s titillating and fun.

When he calls you a slut it could be insulting or hurtful or degrading to you.

When you call him your Sex God he’s thrilled.

When you call him your slave, he might not be so thrilled. In fact, he might find it demeaning.

You like his manly, hairy chest.

He thinks he has man boobs and it embarrasses him.

You think he’s huge down there.

He thinks he’s small or average at best.

And he’s insecure about it.

You should be able to get a good idea of which parts of his body he’s proud of by the way he walks around or by the comments he makes.

If he’s into working out at the gym or he flexes his muscles around you, then you know he’s proud of his body.

If he walks about naked or almost naked you know he’s uninhibited and shows pride in the way he looks.

Where you think specifics might be misinterpreted, broaden your scope of reference.

Talk about his total body instead of a specific body part.

Tell him you love running your hands all over his manly body and feeling his muscles.

Then lead into more erotic talk about how it makes you feel.

Words have a powerful effect on people, depending on their context.

Choose words that are positive and build up your partner’s esteem and confidence.

Using words like manly, strong, muscular, rugged, tough, brawny, strapping, and hunk, for example, trigger images of manliness, vigor, and strength in his mind and make him feel protective and larger than life.

Using words he can instantly connect with show you admire him and want him and get turned on by him.

4. Ramp Things Up

Combine your words of seduction with sounds of pleasure.

Moans of pleasure, ooohhhs, aaahhhhs, sighs, and crying out in ecstasy all indicate your appreciation of his skills and show him he’s giving you pleasure.

Show him how much you’re enjoying what he’s doing.

But don’t stop there.

Tell him what you want to do to him.

Or tell him what you want him to do to you.

Sometimes you’ll tell him while you’re having sex.

Other times you’ll send sexy text messages to get him in the mood before a date or before he comes home to you.

5. Be Aware Of How You Say Erotic Talk

Chances are your sounds of passion are going to be short, choppy, and whispery.

Sometimes barely discernible.

Sometimes loud.

But what about sexy talk and seductive talk?

Keep it short.

Whisper it.

Say it louder.

Make it a command.

Make it a request.

Make it assertive.

Make it authoritative as though you’re in control – which you are.

Make your voice “breathy” like Marilyn Monroe used to.

Make your voice “husky” like Mae West’s voice was.

Make your voice sound sexy and seductive (and it will definitely sound that way if you whisper naughty things to him).

Three Levels Of Sexy Erotic Talk

If you’ve never tried dirty talk before, think of it as having three different levels, because there is a level for everybody, ranging from tame to outrageous…and ranging from short phrases and three- and four-letter words to filthy and vulgar.

1. Suggestive Erotic Sex Talk

You talk suggestively using passionate and flirtatious words and phrases.

Phrases like, “I think you’re hot” or “You don’t realize what you do to me when you say that” or “I’m getting frisky just thinking about that” or “You’re making me all tingly down there.”

2. Explicit Erotic Sex Talk

Your next level is more explicit.

You’re saying things that can verge on being vulgar…but you don’t quite reach that point.

You talk about how you feel.

You talk about what you want to do to him.

You talk about what you want him to do to you.

You tell him where you want him to touch you.

You’re descriptive but you don’t go over the edge and take things to the extreme with your words.

3. Vulgar Dirty Talk

The highest level is vulgar dirty talk.

This goes beyond being suggestive, flirtatious, or seductive.

Now you’re at the “porn” level and vulgar category.

It’s raw.

Unfiltered.

Shocking.

To some, this level is going too far.

It borders on or can be viewed as humiliating, degrading, and demeaning.

To others, it excites and spurs them on.

Until you know otherwise, it’s safer to assume that anything you consider to be degrading, demeaning, or humiliating is off limits and shouldn’t be said.

After all, you want this to be an exciting experience, not a mood killer.

The best thing about talking dirty to your man, though, is that you have total control over what you say.

And you have a fair amount of control over what you can expect from your man when you set boundaries and limitations although, to be fair, in the heat of passion some things could slip out that go beyond the expected boundaries.

Dirty Talk Ideas

If you want your man to think about you every waking moment of the day…

If you want your man to fantasize about having sex with you…

If you want your man to think of you as his Sex Goddess…

If you want to heighten your lovemaking and take things to a higher level…

If the thrill has gone from your sex life and you want to add a new dimension to your lovemaking to make it sizzling hot again…

Then now is the time to add sexy dirty talk to your repertoire of lovemaking skills.

If you want to know the exact words and phrases that turn your man on before sex, as well as things to say during sex and after sex,  then check out this dirty talk video here (affiliate) for dirty talk ideas.

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But there’s more. And it transcends talking dirty to your man because…

Having Him Adore You and Cherish You
Is Much More Powerful Than Dirty Talk

Have you ever noticed how some women not only find a good man, they KEEP him?

Not only does their relationship seem to get better and better with each passing year, but her man is so devoted to her and has eyes only for her.

As thrilling as dirty talk can be in elevating your game in the bedroom, it’s not as long lasting as something else in your relationship.

In fact, some could even call what I’m about to show you a powerfully effective way to addict a man to you and only you.

Where sex and lovemaking are the dessert of your relationship, what I’m about to show you is much more powerful than dirty talk because it goes to the core of a loving and enduring relationship.

If you want to be the woman he can’t live without and the woman he adores, then find out more about How To Inspire Your Man To Love, Cherish, Appreciate and Adore You here which includes a Free Special Report of 40 things to say during sex (as well as before and after sex). It’s a free bonus that includes 40 Seductive Dirty Talk words, lines, scripts, and ideas. Use them in the bedroom or use them in texts. They’ll have a profound effect on his desire for you.

After all, what woman wouldn’t want a man who loves, cherishes, appreciates, and adores her?

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How To Make Your Man Adore You

 

Signs He Wants To Commit

“When a woman is interested in a man she will look for signs he wants to commit if he’s not making it obvious and she wants him to be her boyfriend.” Blaine Barrington, Dating Coachhow to keep a man

Men can be hard to read when it comes to relationships, especially if you’ve been dating for a while and want to be exclusive.

Commitment is one step up from how to keep him interested

When you want to keep him interested in the early stages of dating it’s because you’re afraid to lose him.

Eventually, though, you’ll want to go from casual dating to exclusive dating and being sexually monogamous.

When you meet a guy you’re interested in you will invariably wonder whether he’s looking for something more than just casual dating.

He’s fun to be with. The chemistry is sizzling. The sex is off-the-charts amazing. And you feel a real connection with him.

Now you’re wondering whether it’s a casual thing or whether he wants something more, because you want a commitment from him.

But you’re not sure he wants the same thing.

Just because you’re dating each other doesn’t mean he wants to commit to you.

He may enjoy your company and have fun with you but he doesn’t want to be “tied down” and be a couple.

Most men, though, will want to be exclusive.

Guys don’t always tell you they want to commit to being exclusive with you. Instead, many times they do so by their actions.

Whether it’s “boyfriend and girlfriend,” or “couple,” or “partners,” or some other “label” the end result is the same – you’re exclusive. You’re monogamous. You do things together as a couple. And your friends and family consider you a couple.

Sometimes there won’t be “the talk” so you’ll be looking for signs he wants to commit.

There are two types of commitment:

1. Commitment to be in a relationship

This is where you want to be exclusive, not date anyone else, and be sexually monogamous.

This doesn’t mean you want him to love you forever.

It simply means you want him to love you for the time you’re together and see if things progress further to marriage.

2. Commitment to get married

This is where you want to be engaged and ultimately married to a man.

This is totally different from wanting a guy to be your boyfriend and is the next level in dating.

I’ll first focus on signs he wants to commit in a relationship and he wants something serious.

It’s obvious that when you’re looking for signs he wants to commit that you want to be exclusive with the man you’re dating. You don’t want him multi-dating and spending time with other women.

You’re interested in him or falling for him and you want to see if things progress and he’s The One.

Some couples will have “the talk” about where things are going. Usually it’s the woman who will bring things up since men are notoriously slow in making a commitment – or at least expressing their commitment.

Sometimes, especially if he’s smitten with you, a man will come right out and say he doesn’t want to date anyone but you.

Other times you’ll just fall into exclusivity without any discussion at all.

It’s wise not to automatically assume that because you’re dating one man that you’re exclusive with him.

There has to be some commitment on his part or you might be in for a surprise and discover he’s seeing other women or he doesn’t consider that you’re exclusive.

The fact that a man wants to be exclusive with you indicates he wants to get to know you better to see if you’re compatible and whether things can develop into something more.

There’s no time limit to when you should be in a committed relationship. That will depend on the circumstances and how often you see each other.

At some point, though, you’re going to ask yourself, “Where is this relationship going?” if he hasn’t made a commitment.

The Player and The Commitmentphobe

One of the things many women are wary of is being hurt by a player or commitmentphobe.

The player is charming and says all of the right things. He’s smooth. He’s fun to be with. And he usually focuses on sex as his goal.

The commitmentphobe is very similar in his tactics. You can be wined and dined and made to feel like a princess only to have your heart broken in the end.

If he moves fast and overwhelms you with attention and then loses interest in you as things become more “serious” or you show you want things to be more serious then chances are you’ve got a commitmentphobe on your hands.

Fighting and jealously can also rear their ugly head. You want a commitment and he’s not ready for one. He shows interest in other women and you feel ignored and disrespected, like you’re not a priority.

That’s why it’s important to look for signs he wants a relationship instead of a short term hookup or fling.

Signs He Wants To Commit

1. He Makes You His Priority

One of the strongest signals that he wants to commit is when you come first.

He might want to hang out with his buddies but because you’re special to him you become his priority – which is the way it should be.

When you need his help with something – whether it’s fixing your computer or picking out an outfit or moving into a new place – he’s there to give a hand.

If you always feel that you come last, then you’re not important to him because it’s easy for a man to make you his priority if he wants to commit to you.

2. He Considers Your Feelings

He tries to understand and see things from your point of view.

He considers your feelings, too.

He tries to please you. He knows what’s important to you. For example, you want to go to the family dinner and he had made arrangements to hang out with his buddies. A guy who is serious about wanting to have a relationship with you is willing to give up some things knowing it will make you happy.

That doesn’t mean that you should be selfish or act selfishly. It just means that some things are important to you and he knows it and he’s willing to compromise.

3. He Tries To Win Your Heart

He does things for you to please you.

And he also shows that he wants to be part of your life.how to keep a man interested - girl gets great guy

He plans proper dates instead of suggesting you “hang out” with him or with him and his buddies.

These dates are times to have fun together and to get to know each other better.

They’re also an opportunity to see how much effort he puts into the date and how important being with you is to him.

He tries to “woo” you.

In the old days that would include serenading you.

These days it’s a little different…

He brings flowers and gifts.

He remembers your birthday.

He wants to be with you on special occasions like Thanksgiving or Christmas.

He visits your friends and family with you.

He makes time for you even when he’s crazy busy.

He doesn’t play games and he doesn’t keep you wondering whether he likes you or not – he shows you with signs of affection like holding hands or kissing you.

He becomes part of your life instead of someone you see occasionally.

He’s available to do things with you instead of taking a rain check because he thinks going out with his buddies is more important.

And you, pretty woman, will do well to thank him and show you appreciate all that he does for you if you want him to stay around and have eyes only for you.

4. He Tries To Impress You

A guy who wants to commit will want to make sure that he’s on your mind all or most of the time.

What better way to do that than to do things that impress you.how to keep a man interested in you - girlgetsgreatguy.com

Things that other guys in your life have never done before.

In olden times he would have tried to impress you with his daring-do or exploits.

He might have been a swashbuckler or a gunslinger or fought a duel for your honor.

These days he’s a lot less adventurous, although he tries just as hard to show you how he feels about you.

That might mean he brings you breakfast in bed.

That might mean he makes a romantic dinner for you.

That might mean he takes you to a fancy and expensive restaurant.

It might mean he fixes things around the house for you.

It might mean he buys you nice gifts or flowers.

It might mean he looks hot in a t-shirt and jeans and handsome in a suit.

Most importantly though is the way he treats you. He’s attentive. He’s respectful and courteous to you and your friends. And he shows you that you’re number one in his book.

5. He Asks You About The Relationship

Men and women send out signals of interest and attraction.

But sometimes those signals can be confusing and you don’t really know where you stand with a man.

While you might be sending him signals that you’re interested in him and would like him to make a commitment, he might not pick up on those subtle (or not so subtle) signs.

Some guys are happy with the way things are. And some guys are inexperienced in dating and don’t know what signals to look for that indicate you want something more than casual dating or hanging out together.

If he wants to be with you or he’s ready to commit he’ll ask you what you think about being his girlfriend or what you think about being together and how you both get along.

He’s going to reveal how he feels about you. This is his way of having “the talk.”

Or he might say he likes you and wants you to be his girlfriend.

Or he might say that he wants more than a friendship. That’s a very strong sign he wants to commit and that he’s sexually attracted to you.

6. He Gets A Little Jealous

Jealousy isn’t always a good thing in relationships. It can go too far to the point where a man can be both demanding and controlling.

But there is such a thing as “mild” jealousy – which indicates that you mean more to him than he’s probably letting on.

It can also mean that he wants to be exclusive with you and he isn’t interested in dating other women.

When a man becomes jealous of other men it means that, in his mind, he considers you “his” and he doesn’t want other guys in the picture. He particularly doesn’t want an ex in the picture.

Truth is, no man wants competition – especially if you’re the prize and he wants you.

He might also be jealous of other people, not just other men. That can include your friends and family. He could even be jealous of your work.

If he doesn’t feel he’s seeing you enough because you’re busy or you’re hanging out with friends or family, he might get jealous that he’s not your priority.

7. He Makes Plans That Include You

He starts to see you fitting into his life and you’re a part of his life.

He’s excited to see you and wants to have a good time with you.

He starts to include you in his plans.

He no longer thinks only of himself. He’s thinking more about being a “couple.”

His plans might be special occasions like birthdays or holidays or he might arrange dates or a weekend getaway or short trips.

8. He’s A Man Of Action

He might have the gift of the gab but in the end it’s whether he follows through with his actions that really counts.

He gets things done that he promises he will do.

There is a saying that “actions speak louder than words.” In other words, a guy will do what he says he will do. If he says he will phone, he does. If he says he will arrange a date, he does. It’s a pretty good rule to follow in dating because it’s a sign of how interested a guy is in you.

When you first start dating a guy, unless you’ve been hurt badly before and you’re distrustful, you’ll probably take what he says at face value.

Over time, though, if he doesn’t follow through you’ll begin to be skeptical about what he says.

If he says he’ll phone to arrange a date and doesn’t do that or he cancels plans with a flimsy excuse, chances are this isn’t a guy who you’d want to be with anyway.

If he says something and doesn’t do it, pretty soon it becomes obvious he’s not someone whose word you can count on.

When a woman is important to a man he makes sure he follows through with what he says. He’s a man of his word and you can rely on what he says.

Occasionally he might stumble and disappoint you, but in general you know he’s dependable and when he says he will do something he will do it.

9. He Makes You Feel Safe And Loved

He has your back. He looks out for you. He stands by you.how to please your man - girlgetsgreatguy.com

He makes sure you’re safe.

If you’re sick he takes care of you.

If you get out of work late at night he confirms you’ll have someone from work escort you to your car so you’re safe.

If your car breaks down he comes to help you or arranges for someone to help you.

These are signs a man cares about you.

If someone threatens you in some way he’s there to protect you or stand up for you.

This isn’t just about physical safety, although that’s part of making you feel safe.

It’s also about emotional safety and knowing you can rely on him.

If you have a problem he’s there to help and offer advice and try and fix things to make them right.

10. He’s Your Emotional “Rock”

He has your back. He’s there to comfort you when things go wrong in your life.

He tries to give you perspective when something is troubling you and he tries to make your life easier when you’re stressed out. He might listen to you. He might take you out on a date to distract you. He might cook for you. He might give you a massage or back rub.

They’re all indications that he’s there for you and is concerned with your well-being.

11. He’s Consistent In Calling Or Texting You

If a guy is interested in you and wants to be your boyfriend he’s going to keep in touch with you.

He’ll want to stay in touch with you either by calling you or, more likely, texting you.

If there are large gaps in when he contacts you – like a few days – or he only contacts you when he wants a “booty call” then it’s a huge red flag and it’s an indication that he’s not serious about wanting a committed relationship with you.

12. He Wants To See You A Lot

A guy who wants you as his girlfriend wants to be with you a lot.

He’s not happy just calling or texting. He wants the personal interaction in real life so you can have fun and experience things together.

In fact, spending time together is the only way you can get to know each other and determine whether you’re compatible.

13. He’s A One Woman Man

When you first meet a guy he might be multi-dating.

There’s nothing wrong with him doing that.

But as he gets to know you and you spend time together he might stop dating other women.

If he does stop dating other women and he makes a point of telling you, it’s a sign he’s making you exclusive – a sure sign he wants to commit to you.

If, from the start, he’s only dating you, then you have to look for other signs he’s looking to a commitment because just because he’s dating only you doesn’t mean he’s committed to you.

14. He Tries To Please You

Guys like to feel that they can make a woman happy.

So he’s going to do his best to make sure you’re happy if he wants to make a commitment.

Your role, on the other hand, is to show your appreciation for what he does for you

This is very important: The more he feels appreciated and respected by you, the more likely he is to want to commit to you. (Lack of appreciation for what he does for a woman is one of the main reasons a guy will vanish or disappear.)

15. He Wants To Get To Know You Better

Some women wonder whether a guy wants to be in a serious relationship or whether he just wants to hookup or have a fling and then move on.

This is where other signs come into play. A guy who wants a hookup or something that isn’t serious is more likely to be flirtatious and talk about sex all the time.

His focus is on sex, not on getting to know you better.

A guy who wants something serious and wants to make you his girlfriend will take the time to get to know you.

He wants to be sure that you have qualities he’s looking for in a girlfriend. He won’t waste time with someone he feels he’s not compatible with.

16. He’ll Wait To Have Sex With You

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The guy who pushes for sex early on is usually looking for a hookup or a fling and not a long term commitment.

Also ask about his past dating history. If he has a history of short term relationships he might be a player or a commitmentphobe.

If he’s been married or together with a woman for a long time, that could be a good sign he’s looking for a commitment rather than a fling.

The exception could be if he just broke up with his girlfriend or is newly divorced, in which case you could be the rebound girl – and that’s a huge red flag.

The guy who wants you to be his girlfriend will wait for sex.

When he waits for sex, he’s being respectful and putting you first instead of his own needs.

Just because he waits for sex (and waits until you’re ready to have sex) doesn’t mean he doesn’t desire you or want you.

Typical signs of desiring you or wanting you sexually include:

 >> He flirts with you

>> He shows off his body – the six pack abs or the ripped chest or biceps

>> He kisses you a lot – he likes to cuddle but he doesn’t take it any further

>> He touches you a lot – he hugs you and he holds your hand

>> He sends you suggestive and flirty messages and alludes to sex all the time

Some women might be wondering whether the fact that he waits to have sex with you is a sign that they’ve been friend zoned and he wants only a friendship, instead of being considered as his steady girlfriend.

If you’re friend zoned there will be no or very little flirtation and very few if any sexy comments that signal sexual interest.

On the other hand, a guy who is only interested in sex with you will send out sexual signals all the time.

If he keeps getting rejected by you he will eventually move on if he sees he has no chance with you.

That doesn’t mean he might not be persistent. It just means that eventually he’ll see you’re not going to be another one of his easy conquests who melts from his flowery and seductive words and he’ll look for someone who is easier to persuade to have sex with him.

17. You Become Part Of His Life

The man who wants you as his girlfriend will include you in his life.

He will make plans with you.

He’ll introduce you to his friends and family.

He will include you in activities that he enjoys, including activities with his friends and family.

You become part of his “inner circle” – the people who are important to him in his life.

Just because there’s commitment doesn’t mean you’re compatible or that things will work out in the long run.

The hurtful side of commitment can come when you’re together.

He’s fooled you by staying together longer than he should have. You feel there is commitment from him but you discover that there really is none.

He’s no longer in love with you and just wants the sex. It’s disappointing and hurtful because you’re expending feelings, time, and energy trying to make things work and he has no intention of taking things any further. He’s only there for the sex.

If he’s not scared to do so, a man will give off signs he wants to commit or he wants to be exclusive.

One thing is for certain though: When a guy shows signs he’s willing to commit it means things are serious and he wants to be your boyfriend.

Signs He Wants To Commit To Marriage

There’s a big difference between signs he wants to commit to a relationship with you and signs he wants to settle down and get married.how to keep a man - girlgetsgreatguy.com

Men are notorious for not showing commitment – especially when it comes to marriage. In fact, women are more likely to want marriage sooner than men.

The commitment to get married is an important step to a man and there are specific things that he feels he must do or accomplish before he will take that step.

Some men, for example, take their “provider role” very seriously and want to be on financially solid ground before getting married and having a family.

Subtle signs he’s ready to commit to marriage and settle down include….

>> You both share the same vision of the future together

>> You’re both compatible in many areas

>> He says (and shows you) he loves you

I cover many more subtle signs he’s ready to commit to marriage and settle down in the Girl Gets Great Guy System.

I also cover what to do if he keeps delaying in making a commitment to marriage and how to know if he’s a commitmentphobe or whether he will eventually marry.

Now that you know the signs he wants to commit and you’re in a relationship, it’s important to keep your man. It’s more than about knowing his love language or making his favorite meal.

There are specific “man keeping” techniques so he’ll adore you and cherish you. These are techniques savvy women use to keep their man after he’s made the commitment to be exclusive.

When you invest so much time and energy into wanting to be exclusive with a man, why wouldn’t you want to keep him if he’s good to you?

Discover these special techniques to keep your man here.

In the following video, Steve Harvey talks to a guest whose boyfriend won’t take the relationship to the next level – which is marriage. He explains three things a man needs before he will commit to marriage.

How To Keep Him Interested

“How to keep him interested is a common question women ask about men, especially if they are afraid of losing him. Here are 16 Fail-Safe Ways that work whether or not you’ve found a keeper.” Blaine Barrington, Dating Coachhow to keep him interested - girl gets great guy

Whether you meet a new man or you’ve been dating for a while or you’re now in a monogamous relationship the question invariably arises how to keep him interested.

It’s no secret that a man can lose interest and disappear. After all, with online dating and social media there’s so much choice out there that a guy can move on quickly and not give you a second thought.

Ultimately, though, you’re probably asking the question because of one of the following…

1. You’re afraid to lose him
2. You had sex with him too soon
3. His behavior and feelings towards you have changed
4. Something has changed in the relationship – things aren’t as fresh, new, and exciting as they used to be (the thrill has gone)
5. You feel insecure – he hasn’t made a commitment and you’re not sure where you stand with him
6. You’ve found a great guy and you want things to work out because you’re tired of dating losers, players, and commitmentphobes

There are ways to keep a guy interested in you without playing games or manipulation.

Sometimes it’s about the chase that keeps a guy pursuing you.

But what if you’re already in a relationship?

What do you do to keep a guy so that he has eyes only for you?

There’s nothing worse than thinking he’s losing interest and looking elsewhere.

It can be frightening to think that you might lose him, especially if you’re in love with him and you’ve invested time and energy to make things work – which you will have if you’ve fallen in love.

You want things to work out.

You want him to be happy.

And you want him to make you happy.

It doesn’t matter what type of relationship you’re in – whether it’s a new, you’re dating, or you’re a couple – there are ways that work as long as you’re compatible and he’s still interested in you.

How To Keep Him Interested – 16 Fail-Safe Ways That Work [Checklist]

1. Be Slightly Mysterious and Intriguing

Want to know how to drive your guy crazy and keep him thinking about you?

Add some mystery to your life.

It keeps him off balance and curious about who you are.

This is the way to keep a guy wanting more of you.

In the beginning when you’ve met a new guy you don’t have to tell him your life story.

You’re not an “open book” in the sense that he knows all about you within a couple of weeks or months.

It takes time to get to fully know someone. But if he knows all about you so quickly he might think you’re “boring” and move on.

In the early stages of a relationship he wants to get to know you.

He wants to know what you’re like as a person and as a woman.

That intrigues him because he’s assessing whether you’re “The One” for him.

He wants to find out if you’re the woman he can’t live without.

You get to know someone over time.

You hang out together.

You do things together.

You socialize with each other’s friends and family.

You create experiences and make memories together.

And little by little you get to know each other.

You get to understand how he interacts with other people who are close to him.

You get to know his preferences and quirks…just as he gets to know yours.

This is the time when you discover whether you’re compatible with each other.

This is when you find out if your lives can blend and whether the relationship will last over the long term.

2. Take Care Of His Sexual Needscouple kissing - how to make him happy in bed - girl gets great guy

While it’s not the most important element of a relationship, sex is usually very important at the beginning or when you’re dating someone new.

Sex is important to most men. It’s the driving force if he’s attracted to you. It’s what keeps him chasing you – the “thrill of the chase” so he can win your prize.

Men have sexual needs just like you do. And a sexually happy man is much more likely to stay invested in the relationship rather than looking for someone else or exploring an open relationship or marriage.

When a man suggests an “open marriage or relationship” it could mean he’s not satisfied with the sex.

That’s why it’s important to keep him interested sexually, too.

A man wants a lover.

But sometimes you have to be the sexy sex kitten or sultry vixen, too.

Sometimes he wants a woman who is adventurous in bed so things don’t get boring.

Use sex and affection to keep him happy in bed and show your love, desire, and appreciation for him as a man.

For a man, one size doesn’t fit all when it comes to sex.

There are different sexual turn ons (including dirty talk) and turn offs, depending on the man.

Some men are turned on by what you do. For example, you get ready for work but then go back to bed to snuggle with him or kiss him or tempt him.

Others are turned on by how you look after a gym workout.

Still others are turned on when you talk dirty or naughty to them.

In fact, many men are turned on with naughty talk and it’s so easy to add to your sexual repertoire.

Keep the sexual tension alive by being flirtatious and sassy.

Know how to touch him.

Know how to turn him on.

Know what he likes.

Know how to keep him happy in bed.

Be adventurous as long as it’s not painful, either emotionally or physically (and it’s legal).

Keep in mind that it’s not all about him. Your sexual needs have to be met, too.

Let him know what you like.

Men like to think they’re pretty good in bed and they know what they’re doing.

Truth is, most men don’t know their way around the female body and have little idea how to please a woman.

So if you have to “teach” him things or where to touch, do so in a way that doesn’t bruise his ego or make him feel inadequate or inexperienced.

Be adventurous in the bedroom. Put fun into your lovemaking. That might mean acting out fantasies, role playing, or trying new things.

Be open to experimenting with or suggesting new things in a safe environment as long as you both are in agreement.

Mix things up and suggest new ideas.

Transform your bedroom into a “love nest” so it’s conducive to lovemaking without distractions like a TV.

Surprise him with new lingerie or fun things to do or experiment with to excite him (and you).

There’s a Special Report that shows you The Four Spellbinding Ways To Quickly Give Your Man An Erotic Charge That Inflames His Lustful Craving For You. It comes as a free bonus with How To Inspire Your Man To Love, Cherish, Appreciate and Adore You.

How To Make Him Chase You After You’ve Slept With Himcouple holding hands - how to keep a man interested in you

One of the biggest mistakes a woman can make is having sex too soon with a man.

It should be more than a couple of weeks or a couple of dates before you sleep with him. Because chances are that if you have sex with him too early you’ll not only wonder how to keep him interested but you’ll also find he starts pulling away or distancing himself from you.

Don’t be misled into thinking that by having sex with a guy when you don’t know him very well he’ll bond with you and stay with you. Sex is sex to a man, not a bonding experience.

For some men – especially players – it’s the conquest that counts. After that they lose interest and then they move on.

What if you’ve become his booty call?

A booty call should be on your terms, not his. You don’t just jump at his command. You’re in control. You have the power.

Here’s what to do if you’ve had sex with him and he’s starting to pull away:

Make your time together exciting (in and out of the bedroom).

Give him positive and amazing experiences when he’s with you and make him realize what a catch you really are.

You want him to miss you and you want him to want to see more of you.

You want to avoid making sex the only reason he wants to see you.

That means doing exciting and fun things outside of the bedroom.

This is the way you get him thinking about you and wanting more of being with you.

After all, who doesn’t want to be with a sexy woman who is fun to be with?

Tease him playfully and challenge him. You’re going to kick his butt at a video game or at a game of pool or at tennis or other sport.

Alternatively, ask him to join you in something that’s fun. Maybe it’s to try out a burger joint you know has awesome burgers. Maybe it’s a steak house. Or a pizza joint. Maybe it’s a BBQ. Maybe it’s a fair. Maybe it’s surfing or sailboarding or jet skiing.

If he says no or makes excuses not to hang out with you then he shouldn’t be your priority because he’s not making you his priority.

Do you see what’s happening here? You’re in control. Instead of you chasing him, you’re encouraging him to chase you.

You don’t have to cut him loose completely if he’s not showing interest but reduce your interactions with him. Pursue your own interests instead of focusing on him.

When you do hang out with him continue to make those experiences awesome but dial back or eliminate the sex.

He’ll start to realize that sex with you isn’t something that he’s automatically entitled to.

Either he’s going to pursue you because he’s interested in you or he’ll move on – in which case you look for a quality man who will make you his priority and woo you and treat you the way you want to be treated.

3. Maintain Your Style And The Way You Look

Grooming is very important. You want to smell good and look good for your man.

Men like to be proud of the woman on their arm.

They want her to look attractive.

If he lusts after you chances are he’ll find you attractive even if your hair is unkempt or you’re wearing sweats or yoga pants.

But he may be extremely attracted to you when you’re wearing your LBD, high heels, and makeup.

You don’t have to be “arm candy” to make a man proud of you.

He’s attracted to you for many reasons.

One of those reasons will be the way you look.

It might be the way you dress. It might be the way you wear your hair. It might be your curves. It might be your fashion sense.

It might even be the way you move, how you toss your hair, or how you coyly look at him.

Whatever it is (and the best way to find out is to observe his reaction to things you do and what he compliments you on), it’s something that you want to highlight – and maintain – because that attracts him to you and only you.

And that’s the whole point – you want him to be interested in you and not other women.

Most men want their woman to be fit and healthy.

Eat healthy.

Exercise. Even walking can help you lose weight and feel fit, invigorated, and put you in a good mood.

4. Be Fun To Be With

Most guys are looking for a woman who they can do fun things with.

They’re not usually looking for a woman who is a couch potato or whose biggest adventure is to go to the spa or to the salon and have a manicure or pedicure or facial.

A guy wants to do things. He wants to get out and about. He might want to play sports. He might want to travel. He might want to participate in a hobby.

He might want to go bungy jumping or sky diving or do extreme sports or go rock climbing or mountain biking or scuba diving.

That doesn’t mean you have to always participate in these things unless you like the adrenaline rush the way he does.

But you can support him in his interests.

The worst thing you can do is not support him in his interests because those are important to him. They validate him as a man. There’s nothing worse than complaining you never see him or discouraging him from doing the things he wants to do or likes to do.

Being fun can apply to the little things, too. You can try different foods. You can go on small trips or weekend getaways. You can go hiking or kayaking or fishing or crabbing or camping or quadding.

Many guys are looking for a woman who isn’t afraid to get a little dirt under her fingernails and yet is also able to clean up and look stunning in a little black dress and high heels.

Be open to trying new things with him – it shows your interest in having experiences with him and getting to know him better. Best of all, it bonds him to you because you’re fun to be with.

Being fun also applies to the bedroom. Create an atmosphere that excites and thrills him. That can include new techniques, acting out fantasies, or having special theme nights and dressing up.

5. Be Adventurous

Being fun to be with can also include being adventurous.

If you’ve ever watched The Bachelor or Bachelorette on TV you’ll know this to be true: There’s a correlation between adrenaline and attraction.how to keep him interested by being adventurous - girl gets great guy

When Jake Pavelka was the Bachelor he took Vienna bungy jumping. The very fact that they were scared about what they were going to do drew them closer together and attracted him even more to her.

Men like a woman who’s adventurous. Doing extreme sports, in particular, like mountain biking or rock climbing, or bungee jumping or sky diving are adrenaline rushes. And doing them with their partner can bond a man closely to his woman.

In fact, a study showed that there’s a direct effect between adrenaline and arousal. Being involved with your guy in sports or hobbies that are exciting and get the adrenaline pumping can cause him to find you more attractive and arouse him.

Of course, you don’t have to participate in bungee jumping or sky diving. It could be some other adventure like going on a roller coaster or going on a water slide or hang gliding or hiking up a volcano or dirt biking or scuba diving or sailing or going on a safari, or river tubing or white water rafting.

Sometimes all it takes is to be fun to be with. Someone to laugh with. Someone who enjoys the simple things in life like strolling in the park or sightseeing or people watching while eating an ice cream cone or going to a restaurant or pub with friends.

6. Give Him His Freedom

Men like their freedom.

Your man doesn’t like to feel that you’re keeping tabs on his every move.

He wants to do his own thing.

And he expects that you will want to do your own thing, too.

In the early stages of a relationship you might be calling or texting him a lot. And he may be doing that, too.

But don’t freak out when he doesn’t respond to you instantly.

And don’t freak out when he doesn’t call you back right away.

If you do, it makes you look clingy and needy. And men don’t like that in a woman. They begin to feel closed in and pressured to be “on call” all the time, and that takes the fun out of the relationship.

Follow your own pursuits and passions. Don’t have your whole life revolve around him. Otherwise he’ll feel stifled and that’s a sure way to lose a guy.

Create a relationship where your man wants to be with you rather than wanting to escape from you because he feels confined when he’s with you.

7. Show Your Appreciation For The Things He Does For Youhow to make a man adore you - girl gets great guy

If there’s one way to differentiate yourself from other women it’s this: Show your man that you appreciate him.

Show him that you appreciate what he brings to the relationship and the things he does for you – even if it’s something small or even insignificant to you.

He brings you a coffee. He fixes something for you.

Of course many of these things you can do yourself. But when he feels he’s helping and you thank him for that you’ll earn extra points in his eyes – even if he’s done something small for you.

If you want to know how to keep a guy interested because you’re afraid you’ll lose him, then showing your appreciation can go a long way to keeping him.

Many men thrive on praise. And they thrive on doing things for their woman that earns that praise.

If you don’t believe me, try it sometime. Thank him for doing something for you and see how his chest puffs out and how his mood changes.

Praise works wonders on a man.

There’s another side to keeping him interested. And that’s being different from other women he’s dated or been in a relationship with. You have to differentiate yourself from them in some way. And that way is to appreciate him and show your appreciation.

8. Don’t Be A Drama Queen

Men hate drama.

They don’t like scenes.

They don’t like small things blown out of proportion.

They don’t like to be the one to have to calm things down over something that is minor or insignificant.

In fact, a drama queen is a turn off.

Instead, they like someone who can go with the flow.

A woman who is “chill.”

A woman who accepts things without making a big deal about them.

A woman who can laugh or shrug something off.

It’s one thing to freak out over seeing a huge spider or a mouse or a snake.

It’s a totally different thing when you dump on him and make him feel like an ass because he was ten minutes late picking you up for a date or he didn’t text you back because he was busy at work.

Or when you create a scene at the restaurant because the waiter made a mistake with your order.

Or you make him feel bad and criticize him for selecting a restaurant that you don’t like (when he thought he was doing the right thing and showing you a good time.)

9. Don’t Overinvest In The Relationship Until He Commits

Many women complain that they’re the only one in the relationship who is trying to make it work.

Usually, when a man isn’t trying very hard to make things work, it means he hasn’t made a commitment to you.

In fact, he could be multi-dating and you’re just “one of many.”

Commitment is a tricky issue because it’s difficult to know when there is commitment unless it’s talked about.

When you first meet someone there is NO commitment.

It’s merely the beginning stages of dating to see if there is a connection.

When you start dating a guy – either steadily or occasionally – there isn’t necessarily any commitment until you’ve both agreed you’re a couple and you won’t date anyone else.

Just because you think you’re in a committed relationship doesn’t mean he thinks the same way.

Some men will never commit because it makes them feel tied down – and freedom is important to a man.

If the man you’re dating or in a relationship with isn’t making a commitment then it’s wise to protect your heart because he just might break it.

Multi-dating is the perfect way to ensure you protect your heart.

Some women prefer to date one man at a time. Others don’t believe in multi-dating at all.

When you multi-date you arouse his competitive nature which makes him chase you.

A prime example of lack of commitment is the “booty call.”

This is the guy who phones or texts you late at night to “see what you’re up to.”

And then he either wants to come over or have you come over to his place.

There is NO commitment in this case. He’s using you for his own sexual pleasure.

When you succumb to a “booty call” you’re giving him the freedom to selfishly do as he pleases without making a commitment to you – and that’s the exact opposite of giving him freedom in a committed, monogamous relationship.

10. Make Him Work To Win Your Hearthow to inspire a man to love, cherish, and adore you - girl gets great guy

By their very nature men are hunters.

They enjoy the thrill of the chase.

Men are also driven to accomplish things.

They’re focused on winning.

And you’re the prize to win.

So it makes sense to make a man work to win your heart and your treasure.

If you fall for him too quickly and he doesn’t have to put any effort into wooing you, or you have sex with him too early and his curiosity is satisfied, then you’ve taken away the incentive for him to get to know you better and to win you over.

This isn’t about playing games with him or frustrating him. If you do that, you’ll lose him for sure.

But if you playfully tease him and entice him and encourage him, you’ll keep him chasing you and coming back for more – which is exactly what you want, isn’t it?

11. Don’t “One Up” Him

Maybe you’ve traveled more than he has.

Maybe you make more money than he does.

Maybe you’ve had a raise or a recent promotion and he’s stuck in a dead end job and he’s feeling discouraged.

Sometimes you reveal these things in an attempt to bond with him – especially when you’re just getting to know a guy.

Trouble is, revealing these things in the early stages can have the very opposite effect of bonding with him.

You can lose a guy quickly if he thinks you’re “better” than he is or if he doesn’t feel he’s in the same league as you.

It’s a guy thing and an ego thing. But you still have to be aware of how a man thinks if you want him to stick around.

Ultimately, a man likes to think that his partner is his equal, not his superior.

12. Be Playful

Even if you’re the serious type, do things that are playful.

Tease him playfully.

Do something out of the ordinary that surprises him (in a good way).

For example, if he’s teasing you or flirting with you, turn around as playfully scratch his chest with your fingernail.

13. Text Himsexting and keeping the romance alive in a relationship

Texts are the perfect way to keep connected and are how to keep a guy thinking about you when you’re apart.

While it’s a good idea to limit how many texts you to send him while you’re apart, an occasional text to let him know you’re thinking of him will keep you on his mind.

Keep your texts short. And don’t overdo it. Otherwise your texts become a nuisance.

If you have something planned for the day or evening there’s nothing wrong with being playful, seductive, flirty…and sexy.

14. Be Interesting

If you have your own interests and hobbies and pursuits it makes you much more interesting.

You have things to talk to him about.

You have things that he might be interested in doing with you.

You might do things that he can relate to.

If you’re interested in online games, for example, he might be into that too.

Shared interests can bond you closer to each other.

The key is that you become more interesting to him because you have your own life and you don’t depend on him.

And you become more fun to be with because you have experiences to talk about and share with him.

15. Highlight Your Compatibility With Him

A guy might be losing interest because he’s worried that you aren’t compatible with him.

A relationship is only going to be successful if there’s compatibility. Not just in one or two areas but in many areas.

The more areas you’re compatible in, the better.

If you and your man are only compatible because you both like to hike or go sailing, for example, chances are it won’t be enough to bond you together in the long term.

But if you have many things in common – your beliefs and values are the same, you have similar ideas about finances and raising children, you have similar religious beliefs, you enjoy doing some (or many) things together, and so forth – then highlight those common things in a subtle way when you’re with him.

Being compatible doesn’t mean you have to be joined at the hip all the time. What it does mean is that while you both have your own passions and interests, you can also share common interests and enjoy doing them together. That increases the odds of staying together.

Those compatibilities will come out in the things you do together as well as the things you talk about. You can use this to your advantage by simply commenting on how you both enjoy the same things or have similar viewpoints.

When you and your guy are in agreement with the things you talk about or you say things like, “This is fun to do with you” or “We think a lot alike, don’t we?” it plants the seed in his mind that you both get along well together.

Also keep in mind that while you may be trying to keep him interested in you, you should also be determining whether there really is compatibility that makes him “The One” for you in the long term. You may find, in time, that there are things about him that you don’t like and decide he’s not for you.

16. How To Keep Him Hooked: Show Him How Important He Is To You 

If you keep him interested, you’ll also want to keep him hooked. Here are fourteen things to get a guy hooked when you’re in a relationship with him…

1. Be kind. Avoid saying hurtful things to him.
2. Be thoughtful and considerate.
3. Be non-judgmental and loyal.
4. Stand by him. Have his back – be his “ride-or-die” chick (not in the literal sense) who is in it for the long term and who is willing to accept the good and the bad.
5. Make him feel wanted and desired. Don’t take him for granted.
6. Don’t put him down or belittle him or embarrass him in front of his friends, family, colleagues, or strangers.
7. Don’t tell him what to do. (Men resent bossiness.)
8. Don’t try to change him. (Men resent that, too.)
9. Know how to please him – inside and outside of the bedroom. Be affectionate. It keeps him coming back for more.
10. Appreciate him and show your appreciation with compliments and actions.
11. Praise him and compliment him – even for the little things he does for you.
12. Be positive. Find joy in your own life. Avoid complaining or being negative.
13. Make him feel needed. If you’re so independent that you don’t need him, he will look elsewhere because men are “wired” to help women.
14. Make him feel energized and better about himself when he’s with you.

It’s easy for a guy to break up or disappear if you were someone who wasn’t kind and considerate and who thought only of yourself.

On the other hand, you’ll definitely stand out if you’re kind, fun to be with, show your loyalty and affection, make him realize you’re a good catch, and make him feel like he’s the only man in the world worthy of your love.

How To Keep Him Interested – Secrets Savvy Women Use

If you’ve found a really great guy and you want things to develop further, the checklist above is just the start.

Whether you want him to chase you or you want the relationship to develop and flourish over time, these sixteen ways are just the tip of the iceberg.

There are many more techniques that savvy women use to keep a man interested.

Imagine waving a magic wand that keeps your man interested in you and makes him more attentive, more affectionate, more loving, and more caring.

If…

> You’re wondering if your man still loves you or even cares about you
> The romance and passion have disappeared
> You feel unloved and unappreciated
> You’re worried the spark has gone and that he might be thinking of finding someone else or cheating on you

…then discover how to inspire your man to love, cherish, appreciate and adore you, including…

>> How to rock your man’s world in the bedroom

>> The secrets to an amazing relationship – 23 powerful ideas that nurture your relationship and help it grow with each passing year

>> The savvy woman’s technique for getting a man to do what she wants without nagging or chastising or becoming frustrated

>> The quickest way to melt his heart and inspire him to adore you

>> The weird trick to get him to appreciate you so he never takes you for granted again (Works amazingly well when you set the stage)

>> The secrets to keeping your man close so he doesn’t pull away or look elsewhere for love and affection

>> 7 easy, but amazingly powerful, ways to bond and connect with him so he appreciates having you in his life every day

Click The Following Link To Discover How To Inspire Your Man To Love, Cherish, Appreciate and Adore You

Why Do Guys Disappear

“One of the biggest mysteries for women is why guys disappear and then come back. I’ll explain why men act so interested at first and then disappear.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach

A lot of women ask, “Why do guys act interested and then disappear?”how to get a boyfriend

You’re not alone in asking this because it’s a common question by many women.

It’s one of the great mysteries of dating and relationships and rarely will you discover the real answer to your question.

Sometimes it has to do with the guy himself. Other times it has to do with you.

I’ve explained some reasons why guys disappear here.

It usually starts out like this:

A guy shows interest in you.

You may or may not be interested in him.

But he persists.

You start paying more attention to him.

Eventually, he gets up the courage to ask you out and you say, “Yes.”

You go on a date and it’s fabulous.

There’s a spark. There’s chemistry. You’re feeling it.

You both have lots to talk about.

You like him.

He’s hot.

He’s funny.

He’s got charisma.

He seems to be really into you.

He texts.

He calls.

He pays lots of attention to you.

You feel special when you’re around him.

You feel like you’re his priority.

He talks about a future with you (huge red flag because while he may do that, he’s only making talk, not being serious).

Worse still, you think you might be falling for him.

You’re starting to think, this could be The One.

All of the signs are pointing to a relationship and beyond – which is what you’re looking for.After all, you’ve dated enough losers and deadbeats in the past.

Now it’s time to find a quality guy to settle down with and you think this guy is The One.

Then things start to unravel.

He’s not as attentive as he used to be.

He doesn’t text as much.

He makes excuses why he can’t see you.

Things start tapering off in the relationship – if things have gotten to that point.

It’s as though he’s fading away.

Eventually, he disappears.

He doesn’t answer your texts.

He doesn’t answer his phone.

He doesn’t respond to your messages.

You finally realize he’s ghosted on you and that it’s over.

It leaves you disappointed and heart broken.

Even if he and you had arguments you still loved him.

You start to question what went wrong.

You start to question whether it was something you did.

There are different scenarios with why a guy disappears – commonly known as “ghosting.”

Guys can disappear after the first date, after several dates, or even when you’re in a relationship.

1. He might disappear after dating you for a while.

This is fairly common.

And usually it’s because he’s discovered that he and you aren’t meant for each other.

There might not be that sizzling hot chemistry that was there at first.

You and he might not be compatible.

He might be a player who grows bored and starts looking for other women.

He might be a commitmentphobe who is starting to feel pressured to make a greater commitment and decides it’s time to break up.

2. He might disappear before you’re in a committed relationship.

You’ve been casually dating for a while but there’s no commitment to get into a relationship.

3. He might disappear after you’ve been seeing each other for a while, things are serious, and you’re in a relationship.

The relationship might have gotten stale and boring.

The sex gets boring.

You know each other well enough now.

There might be things about you he doesn’t like.

In any case, he feels that things aren’t working out and breaks up with you.

4. He might disappear after you’ve been on just one or two dates and it seemed like things are going to progress to something more serious.

Sometimes you’ll go on a date with a guy and he’ll talk about the “future” with you. It doesn’t mean he’s envisioning a future with YOU specifically, it just means he’s envisioning a future with someone.

While it’s nice to hear, don’t get swept up in this future planning. It’s meaningless in the early stages of dating and in the early stages of a relationship.

Some of it is bravado. Some of it is thinking out loud. Some of it is dreaming on his part. He’s not serious and is caught up in the moment and with his attraction to, and interest in, you.

One thing to keep in mind is that the reason a man disappears might have nothing to do with you.

It might have everything to do with him.

For example, he might feel inadequate around you. He might feel that he’s not man enough for you and that you overshadow him.

He might be looking for someone who is more feminine. Alternatively, he might be a beta male who wants a take charge woman who shows her masculine side more than her feminine side.

Here Are 14 Reasons Why A Guy Disappears:

1. He Doesn’t Think You’re Interested In Him

Some guys just don’t get a woman’s signals that she’s interested.

So you have to give him signals that indicate you like him and you like being with him.

If you show your interest by dating him, being available to date him, and being affectionate, he’ll soon get the message you’re interested in him.

2. He Doesn’t Feel The Attraction Or Chemistry

This happens a lot with online dating.

He looks good on paper so you strike up a conversation with him.

Things go back and forth and you feel you’re falling for him even if you’ve never met him yet.

Then when you do meet you realize there’s no spark.

This is a case where he’s just not into you – in other words, there’s no attraction, even if you’re attracted to him.

3. He Gets Scared

Some guys get scared when they think their freedom is at risk or the commitment is greater than they can handle – especially if they feel overwhelmed.

If he feels pressured to see you all the time or you have “the talk” with him to see where things are going he could very well disappear because he thinks you’re getting “too serious.”

Other times, the relationship moves way too fast. So fast that when he stops to think about it, it seems like a “commitment” to him and he’s not ready for that.

He’s just not on the same page as you are. You want more from him, he’s just getting used to having someone in his life.

The best thing to do when things seem to move too fast is to slow down the pace.

4. He’s A Player, Bad Boy, or Commitmentphobe

The player and bad boy are in it for fun and a good time.

So once the newness of the relationship wears off they’re looking around for someone else.

The commitmentphobe on the other hand is scared. He’s happy with the way things are and doesn’t want things to change. He won’t commit any further and when he feels the pressure of a greater commitment, he’ll run the other way.

5. He’s Not Available

Some guys aren’t available emotionally.

They’re still getting over an ex or they’re just not ready for a relationship – especially if they’ve just broken up with someone or have just gone through a divorce.

Dating a newly divorced man or a separated man or a man who has just come out of a relationship can be a risky proposition. Emotionally he’s not ready – he has things to sort out in his life and that takes time. In this case, you could become the “rebound girl” and you’ll have expectations that are unrealistic – you want a relationship, he’s happy with just dating.

Eventually, when he gets his life back together he’ll either break up with you and break your heart or he’ll just disappear.

6. He’s A Lazy Dater

He doesn’t want to put the effort into dating or a relationship.

You become the one who wants to make the relationship work.

When he first met you it seemed like a good idea to get involved with you but he soon gets immersed in his own life and you’re no longer on his mind.

7. He Has Unrealistic Expectations

Some men are very picky or too picky, to the point that their “must have” list is so extensive that no woman can meet their unrealistic expectations.

This is the type of man you should avoid anyway because you’d never be able to live up to his expectations.

8. He May Feel You Don’t Have Time For Him Or You’re Putting Him Off

It’s not that he’s looking for an excuse. But if he senses or feels that you don’t have time for him or that you’re playing games or making it hard for him to get to know you, he’ll disappear.

9. You Didn’t Have Sex With Him

It’s no secret that guys want sex. That’s one of their key motivations for being in a relationship. A guy who is genuinely interested in you and wants to be in a relationship with you will wait for sex until you’re ready.

Some guys want sex too soon. In fact, that’s their main motivation for showing interest. It has nothing to do with having a relationship. It’s all physical.

If they don’t get sex, they move on – which is best for you if you’re looking for a committed relationship.

10. Something Isn’t Right In The Relationship

Maybe the relationship isn’t what he expected. Maybe he feels restricted by having a girlfriend. He can’t go out and have fun with his buddies like he used to.

Maybe the sex isn’t stellar.

Maybe he’s having sexual problems or he feels inadequate for some reason.

Maybe you’re just not compatible, you disagree and fight a lot, the infatuation you had with each other as you were getting to know each other has disappeared and reality about each other sets in – and you don’t like what you see in him or he doesn’t like what he sees in you.

11. You Have A Sexually Transmitted Disease

Some STDs are common including herpes.

If your date or potential boyfriend is disease free then he may not want to get involved with someone who has an STD.

He might be polite and say he wants to see you again but after thinking about it some more he might not contact you again.

12. He’s A Casual Dater

You don’t like to hear it, but he might be dating more than one woman.

If he is dating more than one woman then it means you’re not his one and only or his priority. He’s enjoying dating but he hasn’t made a commitment to one woman – who you thought was you.

Contrary to what some people think, just because a man dates several women and disappears doesn’t mean, in my opinion, he’s a jerk or that he’s stringing you along – unless you’ve asked him whether he’s dating other women and he’s told you he isn’t.

He has a right to date other women unless it’s agreed you’re both in a relationship.

This is where you should be asking the RIGHT questions (which are included in the Girl Gets Great Guy System) to determine where you stand in a “relationship” or whether there is any relationship at all because he might not even think there is a relationship at this point.

This is also where you should be looking for the signs he’s making you a priority or wanting to spend time with you.

13. He’s Confused

For some men being in a relationship can confuse them.

On the one hand they enjoy being in a relationship.

But, on the other hand, they like their freedom.

A man can see a relationship as having to give up his freedom and having to answer to someone.

Being in a relationship has certain expectations and responsibilities and a man might not be ready for them.

He might not be prepared to give up some – or all – of his freedom for the relationship.

So he gets confused on what he should be doing and what his priorities and responsibilities should be. He feels pulled in two different directions and that can become frustrating to him.

As well, he might be getting mixed signals from you – you might like him and like being with him but he doesn’t know that and has to guess how you feel about him.

That confuses him.

If he guesses wrong and thinks you’re not into him, then he’ll decide to disappear because it becomes too much trouble to play the guessing game.

There’s nothing wrong with showing your interest in him and showing affection so he knows he’s not wasting his time.

14. You’re In A Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationships are difficult to begin with. You and your boyfriend live separate lives most of the time and usually don’t see each other that often.

In a long distance relationship, it’s easier to disappear simply by no longer staying in touch because long distance relationships aren’t easy to maintain at the best of times.

When a guy disappears there’s a reason. It may or may not have anything to do with you. And it may be for a reason that is valid to him but seems silly to you.

One thing to remember is that a guy won’t always tell you the reason why he disappears. He will just vanish without any explanation because a guy doesn’t like arguments and drama.

Chances are you’ll never know why men disappear on you. The thing to remember though is that it may have nothing to do with you at all. It’s unrealistic to put the burden on yourself and ask what you did wrong. Truth is, you might not have done anything wrong at all.

You may be the perfect date or the perfect girlfriend but he’s either not mature enough or ready for what you offer in a relationship.

Most of the time you just have to accept that he’s vanished and move on.

The only reason you question why he disappeared is because you’re into him and you’re hoping for something more – whether it’s a committed relationship or even marriage.

You’re going to experience guys disappearing in your dating life. It’s one of those things that happen with dating.

And it will almost certainly happen until you find the right guy for you. Because the right guy will stick around and get to know you and see where the relationship ends up.

The 12 reasons I’ve outlined above are just the tip of the iceberg. While it can help to know the reason why a man has disappeared, it’s not always possible to know the real reason.

In the Girl Gets Great Guy System I cover the top 11 reasons why a guy disappears including what women do wrong that cause men to disappear and 30 specific “Guy Reasons” why a man decides to disappear that have everything to do with him and nothing to do with you.

When a man ghosts or disappears it doesn’t mean he’s inherently a bad person. Sometimes that’s just how men are and it’s difficult to understand them and their actions. It can be confusing and frustrating for you.

Try not to let the fact that a guy disappeared on you affect your dating. There’s nothing wrong protecting your heart until you’re reasonably sure you’ll be in a relationship but it doesn’t mean you close off your heart to all men because of a few who decide to disappear. Those men aren’t relationship ready for one reason or another.

Keep in mind that if he disappears he may be doing you a favor. It gives you the opportunity to concentrate on finding a man who’s right for you.

If a guy has disappeared or ghosted on you, you might be a little hesitant to take another risk.

Things To Do To Avoid Being Ghosted:

1. Know Your Must-Haves or Non-Negotiables

Your must-haves or non-negotiables are those things you definitely want in a relationship and that will make you happy in a relationship.

They’re not superficial like the color of a guy’s hair or how tall he is. Instead they include things like compatibility, values, morals, character, and personality.

2. Be More Selective

When you know your must-haves and non-negotiables you’re more likely to choose a guy who’s seriously interested in a relationship.

You’ll be able to more quickly eliminate men who are looking for “fun” or who aren’t available.

3. Date More Than One Man

Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket. Instead, date more than one man so that if he chooses to disappear, you’ve got other men in your dating queue.

This minimizes the heart ache when someone disappears.

The thing to keep in mind, as I’ve said in the Girl Gets Great Guy System, is that when a man wants to be in a relationship or he wants to be with you he won’t disappear.

He may pull back for a while but in the long run he will want you in his life because he doesn’t want to lose you and he can’t live without you.

How To Tell He Might Stick Around Or That He’s A Keeper

There are no absolutes and there’s never any guarantee that a man won’t disappear even if you’re in a relationship.

There are some subtle signs that he might stick around. As you’ve already guessed, I say “might” because there are no guarantees in dating and relationships.

You could find someone and be in a relationship. He could tell you how attracted he is to you. He could tell you that you’re the whole package – bright, ambitious, beautiful, sexy. Even so, he could still eventually break up with you.

Here are two indications that a man might be serious about a long term relationship and a more serious commitment:

1. Consistency

He’s consistent in the things he does. He contacts you. He spends time with you. He doesn’t disappear for a week or two and then reappear.

2. He Gets Involved In Your Life

A guy who is interested in you will want to spend time with you. He will want to eventually meet your friends and family and even work colleagues.

Most importantly, though, he will want to be a big part of your life. You will be his priority, not an afterthought.

Why a guy ghosts on you or disappears on you is only the tip of the iceberg because there’s a lot more to knowing and understanding men.

If men are ghosting or disappearing on you, it very likely means you need to update and improve your dating skills.

Many of the “skills” you acquired when you were a teenager no longer apply today.

Dating has changed a lot since high school and college or university.

You’re mature. You’re independent. You’re raising – or you’ve raised – your family and the kids have flown the nest.

It’s your time now.

It’s your time to find the love of your life…your soulmate.

The man who will love, cherish, and adore you.

The man you will spend the rest of your life with.

Most of the men you come in contact with today are divorced. Many have children. Some will be single dads. Others will share custody.

Now you have to sift through men who are deadbeats, losers, commitmentphobes, players, scammers, and just plain unavailable.

While there are no guarantees in dating or relationships, there are new tools and skills you can learn to reduce the risk of a guy ghosting or disappearing on you…and having your hopes dashed and heart broken…again.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System will show you those little-known techniques and skills to help you find your Mr. Right. Take a moment to check it out right now.

Here’s the link again for the Girl Gets Great Guy System that shows you little-known techniques and skills to help you find your Mr. Right. 

Dirty Talk – The Language Of Desire

Talking Dirty To Your Man:
The Powerful Aphrodisiac That Unleashes
Your Man’s Lust and Desire For You
And Transforms You Into His Sexual Goddess

What will you do when your man says to you, “Talk dirty to me?”

I can remember the moment vividly.

It still haunts me to this day.

My boyfriend and I were making love.

It was hot, passionate, exhilarating.

I could feel those familiar waves building deep inside me as he worked his magic on me.

I was getting closer and closer.

All of a sudden he whispered in my ear, “Talk dirty to me.”

I almost froze when he said those four simple words.

Don’t get me wrong.

I’m no prude when it comes to sex.

I know what my man likes.

I know how to seduce him and arouse him.

But dirty talk?

I’d never done sexy talk like that before in my life.

I didn’t know what to say.

In fact, I was dumbfounded.

Tongue-tied.

Confused.

I mumbled, “You feel so good.”

“What else?” he asked.

“Ummm. I don’t know,” I said.

He chuckled and said, “It’s okay. You don’t have to talk dirty to me.”

I didn’t say anything, but I felt as though I had let him down.

I Didn’t Have A Clue
What To Say!

I know it sounded lame.

But what do you say to turn your man on?

Here was the man I loved with all of my heart.

I’d do almost anything to please him.

But when it came to dirty talk and talking dirty to my man I was like an innocent newborn baby.

That’s when I knew I had to do something about it.

I wanted to please him.

He didn’t say another word about it but I just knew he was disappointed.

We already had a great sex life.

Lots of variety.

Different positions.

Touching.

Caressing.

Licking.

Kissing.

It was nothing short of thrilling.

But maybe something WAS missing and I just never knew it before.

I always thought he was satisfied with our sex life.

But that night he revealed a sexual fantasy – a sexual desire – that I’d never known about before.

My man is a wonderful lover.

Skilled.

Loving.

Tender.

Assertive.

I couldn’t ask for a better lover.

But for once, I was stunned and confused when he asked me to talk dirty.

Talk dirty?!?

“What does he mean, talk dirty?” I thought to myself.

I felt I had let him down.

I had always considered myself a good lover.

Attentive.

Enthusiastic.

Vocal.

But sexy dirty talk?

That was a new one on me.

Truthfully, I love sex.

There’s nothing quite like that bond you have when you’re intimate with the man you love.

The closeness.

The intimacy.

The safe feeling.

And I also love pleasing my man.

If you’re like me, you know your way around your man’s body.

You know where to touch him to get him hot and bothered.

But have you ever thought that he might have a sexual fantasy – a sexual desire – that he secretly wishes you’d act out for him, but he’s afraid to ask?

Thinking back it suddenly dawned on me he had used dirty talk on me and I never realized it.

It wasn’t anything crude or vulgar.

But whenever he’d used erotic dirty talk it gave me an extra thrill.

The thrill of knowing that he wanted me.

That he desired me.

That he lusted after me.

Now it was my chance to turn the tables and show him how I felt about him.

I wanted to satisfy his sexual desire even though our sex life isn’t boring by any means.

And while my boyfriend didn’t bring up the topic again, I knew that adding dirty talk to our lovemaking would thrill him.

I was more embarrassed about not knowing what to say than actually talking dirty.

Talking naughty is so intimate.

Raw.

Provocative.

Sexy.

Dirty Talk:
The Secret “Love Code” That
Triggers Your Man’s Arousal Instincts
And Drives Him Wild In Bed

As I cuddled beside him after our lovemaking, I had this uneasy feeling.

In fact, a jolt of fear hit me in the pit of my stomach as I suddenly realized something.

What if I wasn’t satisfying him sexually and he wasn’t saying anything?

It bothered me that I couldn’t satisfy my man the way he wanted to be satisfied.

What if he was losing interest in me because I couldn’t please him in bed?

Let me tell you, finding a good man who is also a good lover isn’t easy.

I don’t know about you but I want my man to adore me.

I want him to have eyes only for me.

When he’s frisky and in the mood I want to make sure he’s thinking about me, not fantasizing about being with some other woman who turns him on with her sexy words.

I’m sure you’re the same way.

You want your man to adore you and have eyes – and thoughts – only for you.

And what better way to do that that satisfy one of his sexual fantasies….sexy, erotic, dirty talk.

Ask any skilled lover and they’ll tell you that the way to a man’s heart is through satisfying his sexual appetite.

I can tell you that I don’t want to lose my man to another woman or leave him sexually unfulfilled just because I don’t know how to totally satisfy him in bed.

You see, men aren’t just visual.

A woman’s naked body certainly turns a man on.

But men also like to hear our sounds of passion.

And while my boyfriend liked to see me naked, he also liked to hear me gasp, groan, moan, and cry out.

When he asked me to talk dirty to him, my man was telling me in no uncertain terms what aroused him…what turned him on.

I knew that whispering a few erotic and sexy words in his ear would make him see me in a new light – hotter, wilder, sexier.

What man doesn’t want his woman to be hot, wild, and sexy?

I was determined to surprise him and thrill him.

Next time I wasn’t going to wait for him to ask me to talk dirty.

I was going to whisper in his ear naughty things that turned him on.

Have You Ever Experienced This?

Perhaps you’ve experienced the same thing.

You’re not quite sure if you’re pleasing him enough in bed.

There’s that lingering doubt in the back of your mind.

Maybe there’s more you can do.

Or he’s never told you that his secret fantasy is to hear you talk dirty to him.

Or maybe your lovemaking is getting a little too predictable and boring and needs to be spiced up.

The beauty of dirty talk and whispering erotic words in his ear is that you can be as seductive or as sexy as you want to be.

You don’t even have to touch him to turn him on!

Sexy words don’t have to be crude or vulgar to turn your man on.

It’s really up to you and your man what you say to arouse each other.

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Dirty talk in bed isn’t just about telling him what he has to do to turn you on.

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What you think of him as a lover.

What you think of him as a man – your man.

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Dirty talk or erotic sex talk is like a powerful, spell binding aphrodisiac that makes your man’s heart pound with desire.

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Top 7 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Vanish Or Disappear

“Why men vanish or disappear is one of the most frequently asked questions from women. Men disappear or vanish for a number of reasons and you have no control over that. Sometimes it’s a good thing that a man disappears – it saves a woman from heartbreak and investing time and effort into trying to create a relationship with an unavailable man.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coachwhite-roses

You can still remember that last date you had with him.

It was so much fun.

He was handsome.

He was gallant.

He was funny.

He complimented you and told you how sexy and crazy smart you were.

You flirted with him and teased him.

You held his hand as you walked along the beach as the sun was setting.

At the end of the date he told you how much fun he’d had.

And then he leaned in and kissed you passionately.

And as he held you after the kiss he whispered that he’d call you.

You’re on cloud nine.

Romance is in the air.

You think he’s The One.

You think about him all the time.

And then you wait for his call.

One day goes by.

Two days go by.

Three days go by.

And then you get that sinking feeling in your stomach.

And deep down you know he won’t call.

And then you start wondering what went wrong.

It was a perfect date.

You were both into each other.

You connected with him like no other.

You were both happy, laughing, and having fun.

You were enjoying each other’s company.

At least it seemed that way on the date.

Truth is something probably didn’t click for him.

It might have been something you did.

It might have been something you said that turned him off.

Maybe he didn’t like the way you kissed.

Or it might be all about him.

We’ve all been there. We’ve all had those great dates that seemed like there was something there only to find out that the other person wasn’t interested or wasn’t “feeling it.”

If you consistently can’t get past date one or two or three with men then there’s a good chance that either you’re picking the wrong men (in which case you’re probably not asking the right questions to “vet” them before you meet them) or you’re doing or saying something wrong that turns them off.

Top 7 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Vanish Or Disappear

You’ll never know why he disappeared. Some of these reasons might seem frivolous or lame. But to a man, they’re very real. And the outcome is the same: He disappears.

Here are 7 possible reasons why he disappeared:

1. He’s A Commitment-Phobe

Some guys are terrified of commitment. To them, commitment means being tied down and not being able to do the things they enjoy.

And if he’s a “player” there is no way he’ll look for anything long term.

Commitment-phobes don’t want to get involved in a relationship. And if things seem like they could get serious then they’re out of there before they get into a relationship.

2. He’s Not Available

He might be dating a number of women.

Or he might already be in a relationship.

Worse still he might be married and you’re the affair he’s having on the side.

Or he just might not be emotionally available.

He might have just separated or gotten divorced and needs time to heal before jumping back into a relationship.

He might be getting over anger. He might be getting over being hurt.

In this case you become the “rebound” girl. He’ll look to you for support, sympathy, and sex. And once he’s healed, he’ll most likely look for someone else.

Or he might still be in love with his ex. If he is still in love with his ex, instead of accepting who you are and your unique qualities, he’ll make comparisons to see how you measure up.

If he’s a widower he might still be grieving. He’s jumped back into dating because he’s looking to fill the void left after his wife passed away. In which case, he’s not really ready to date or be in a committed relationship.

He needs time to heal from his grief before he can start fresh. And that can take a year or more before he’s ready to start a new relationship.

Whichever is the case, be thankful you didn’t hear from him before things got really serious and he broke your heart.

3. He’s Not Into You

He doesn’t feel the chemistry.

He doesn’t find you attractive.

And he might have been telling you that you’re sexy and attractive so he doesn’t hurt your feelings.

In any event, he’s too polite to tell you that he doesn’t feel anything and doesn’t want to see you again.

4. He’s Looking For A Playmate

Some guys are players and they’re looking for sex.

They want a woman who is “easy” and wants to have sex without any strings attached.

He doesn’t want to take the time to get to know you or to spend time romancing you. All he wants is to have sex with you and move on.

Fortunately, you’re not that kind of girl. And had you succumbed to his charming ways and slept with him you would have regretted it.

5. You Weren’t Fun

He didn’t like your personality. He found you boring. And he’s looking for someone who is fun and who excites his imagination.

Perhaps you asked boring questions. Don’t make it a job interview or an interview for a husband. Keep things light.

Or perhaps your answers to his questions were boring. If that’s the case you might need to brush up on your flirting techniques.

If he found you boring then you weren’t compatible with each other from the beginning. And meeting him in person confirmed that.

6. You Weren’t Feminine Enough For Him

Some guys like a girly girl – a woman who dresses sexy.

If you came straight from work, you might be wearing your work clothes instead of something more feminine.

Many men want to see your feminine side. And some women – especially if they’re successful and independent – don’t know how to tone down their masculine side so that they come across as an attractive woman.

In fact, some women are so independent that they take care of things themselves and don’t give the man a chance to lead. And that’s a relationship killer.

7. You Show Your Anger And Hurt From A Previous Relationship

It takes time to get over the hurt and heart break of a previous relationship or a divorce. And if you jump into dating too soon your emotions are likely to spill over or rear their ugly head on a date.

You haven’t gone through a dating detox to rid yourself of the emotions that are still fresh on your mind.

In fact, you’re probably not ready for dating – and it’s too early to date – if that’s the case.

If your date asks you what happened in your previous relationship or why you got divorced, you might be tempted to talk about your horrible ex and how he cheated on you or left you in financial hell.

Or you might be tempted to badmouth him for leaving you and your kids when they’re so young and vulnerable.

Your bitterness, anger, and hurt are fine to dump on a close, understanding friend.

But to a potential partner? To someone who’s looking for someone who is ready for a relationship your bitterness, anger, and hurt could be enough to scare them away.

The point is, you don’t have to go into detail. You simply say you grew apart or keep it vague and use the term “irreconcilable differences.”

How To Protect Your Heart From Disappointment

No matter how good the dates were, realize that you’re not in a relationship after one or two dates.

You’re not in a relationship if you’ve been chatting and texting for weeks or months and you think you “know” him.

You’re not in a relationship if you’ve never met him in person.

You’re not in a relationship if you sleep with him – it doesn’t bond him closer to you by having sex with you.

You’re not in a relationship until you meet him and spend time together over several months.

You’re not in a relationship until you’re both exclusive – in other words, both of you are no longer dating anyone else.

Until you are in an exclusive relationship, the best way to protect your heart is to date several men.

And keep this in mind:

Rejection is all about your mindset.

Yes, it does hurt when someone rejects you.

But every time you meet a man and he “rejects” you or disappears, that’s okay. It means you don’t have to waste time with him and you’re one step closer to finding your Mr. Right.

Key Points: Why A Man Vanishes Or Disappears

1. Ask questions before meeting a man – his answers to your questions might give you clues regarding his availability and desire for a relationship.

2. Find out how long he’s been divorced or widowed or how long he’s been single. Ask him how long his past relationships have been. If they’re short relationships he could be a player or a commitment-phobe.

3. Be feminine. Don’t wear work clothes to a date. Let him take the lead. Let him do things for you.

4. Be fun. Avoid asking him questions that turn him off and make him feel like he’s in a job interview.

5. There is always a reason why a man disappears or vanishes. You might never know that reason but if it’s happening a lot you’re either not asking the right questions to “qualify” a man or you’re doing something that turns men off.

6. When he disappears or vanishes you’re one step closer to meeting Mr. Right.

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> Confused when a man doesn’t commit

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Flirting Techniques

“Flirting techniques are some of the easiest and simplest ways to attract a cute guy’s attention. Be sure to practice your flirting techniques every opportunity you can get.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coachsunset

Knowing how to flirt is one of the most powerful ways to attract a guy.

Flirting is about coming across to a man as interesting, fun, and unique. It can even have mysterious undertones to it.

It can drive a guy crazy…in a good way.

Because it gets him interested in you and thinking about you.

Best of all, many flirting techniques can be done without saying a word!

Sometimes there is just no better way of getting a man’s attention than by flirting.

As I’ve said in the Girl Gets Great Guy System, there really is a man out there for you.

You just have to find him.

That means you don’t pass up an opportunity to connect with someone you find attractive.

Flirting is simply being yourself and showing your personality in a way that makes a guy interested in you.

You want to get his attention and see where it leads – hopefully it will lead to being asked out on a date so you can get to know him better.

Have you ever gone to a party or function and seen a woman with men vying for her attention? Chances are you have. And chances are you’ve noticed that in many cases she’s not the most beautiful woman in the room.

She has something about her that instantly attracts guys to her.

And that quality is that she’s perfected her flirting skills.

She’s fun to be with and guys like to be with her because she makes them feel good about themselves.

Flirting is your way of taking the initiative instead of waiting for the guy to make the first move.

Some flirting techniques are subtle signals that encourage a man to approach you.

Because, let’s be honest, as macho as many guys like to think they are, they still fear being rejected by an attractive woman like you.

Flirting 101 – The Smile

One of the most effective ways to flirt is with a smile.

If a guy shows an interest in you, your smile will signal to him that you’re interested in him.

If he picks up on that signal and approaches you, it’s a wonderful opportunity to get to know him to see if you’re interested in him.

It could lead to a date and even to a committed relationship.

And it all starts with flirting.

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Other Flirting Techniques

There are many ways to flirt apart from smiling at a man.

For example, casually touching his arm as you’re talking to him or complimenting him in a flattering way are two other very effective flirting techniques.

Show your interest in him and bond with him by casually touching his arm as you’re talking to him:

Do this if you’re sharing a joke or letting him in on something like a tip or a secret or a confidence if you’re just trying to keep his attention.

Casually touching his arm is a more intimate gesture but it’s an instant way to bond with him.

And it signals that you like him and you’re interested in him.

(Keep in mind, though, that what is considered flirting – and totally innocent fun – in one country can be considered offensive – especially for religious reasons – in another country and could even lead to arrest. You should also be mindful of the fact that some men can interpret your flirting (including lightly touching his arm) as being sexually available – which should not be your intent when you meet someone new.)

Tossing your hair or running your fingers through your hair can also be flirting signals. They are ways to draw a man’s attention to you and can be effective when you combine them with a smile.

The Indirect Flirting Approach

The Indirect Approach is particularly effective when you’re out doing something, having fun, and you notice a cute guy you’re dying to talk to.

You need to be a happy, bubbly, and fun to make this work to your advantage.

That’s important because he then sees you as a fun person because you are having fun!

Your approach is to include him in what you’re doing in some way.

You can do this in one of several ways…

It might be to make a joke.

It might be to challenge him teasingly.

It might be as simple as saying to him, “I think I need to improve my (basketball) skills or technique.” and laughing at the same time.

 Best Places To Flirt

 An English study performed by The Social Issues Research Centre in 2004 found that the following were some of the best places to flirt:

1. Workplace

2. Bars, pubs, night clubs

3. Racetracks

4. Parties

5. Universities and colleges

6. Academic and business conferences

7. Sports and hobbies (except those sports where participants are serious competitors)

8. Internet (chat rooms, instant messaging)

Two key commonalities with the above places is a shared experience or a fun environment.

Don’t let the above list deter you from flirting in other places, though.

You have to actively look for opportunities to use your flirting skills.

Build Your Confidence In Flirting

You can’t build confidence in flirting and approaching men without practice.

Because practice and confidence go hand in hand when it comes to flirting.

So get out there and flirt.

Initiate conversations.

Talk to all types of guys – whether they’re married or not.

And whether they’re your “type” or not.

Your objective is to hone your flirting skills because one day you’ll need them for a guy you’re interested in meeting and getting to know better.

Guys who are interested in you will respond to your flirts and advances. Don’t get discouraged if a cute guy doesn’t respond – there may be a valid reason including he’s in a relationship or not ready for a relationship.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

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The Top Relationship Killer When You’re Over 35 – The Bonding Trap

“Sometimes it’s what you say on the first date or two that will hurt your chances for a promising relationship. Be mindful of what you say!” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coachhearts2

I’ve talked about this before in Why He Disappeared.

But it’s such an important topic that I thought I’d revisit it in case you missed my previous article (which you can read here.)

I’d like to talk about how you can sabotage a promising relationship before it even gets off the ground. And it usually happens on the first or second date.

It’s what I call the Bonding Trap.

It’s an easy trap to fall into and you have to be aware of it.

As a dating and relationship coach for women over 35 I see this quite often with single women who are dating in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and older and looking for a relationship.

The Bonding Trap is where you share “information” about yourself to bond and get closer to the guy you’ve just met.

Relationship Baggage

We all have some sort of relationship baggage. It could be divorce, abuse, a sexually transmitted disease, a broken heart, or cheating, for example.

After all, by the time you reach 35 you’ve had a fair amount of life experience.

You’ve dated.

You’ve broken up with men.

You might have been married and divorced.

You might have had difficult or abusive relationships.

You might have children.

And when you meet a promising new man, you want him to know the real you.

There’s the mistaken belief that by sharing your relationship baggage, you’re “bonding” with the guy and getting closer to him. (And it’s not just women who fall into this trap. Men fall into it as well.)

Problem is, it scares him off.

It’s too early. And it’s too much information.

When he asks a question like, “When was your last relationship?” or “What happened in your marriage?” or “How come you’re single, you’re so beautiful?” or “Do you date a lot?” many women feel it’s the opportunity to “tell the truth” and reveal every sordid detail (that usually stems from bitterness, hurt, anger, or disappointment) about their past relationship or divorce or dating experiences.

Don’t be surprised if he asks you about your past relationship – it’s one of the most common questions asked.

And be prepared with an answer that doesn’t turn him off or scare him away.

Of course, you’re not just restricted to relationship baggage.

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Life Baggage

Your life plays a role, too.

I call it your life baggage.

This includes….

> Your financial problems like debt or bankruptcy.

> Your health problems like diabetes or high blood pressure or a chronic illness or therapy sessions with your psychologist.

> Your sexual issues like low libido or, alternatively, a high libido.

> Your family issues such as divorced parents, an alcoholic father or mother, a family member in prison, or estrangement from your children.

> Your self-image and low self-esteem issues like thinking you’re not attractive enough, or you’re not sexy enough, or you’re too fat or too skinny or your boobs aren’t big enough.

> Your overall personality and demeanor including your sense of humor, your nature, and your honesty.

> Your addictions like drugs or alcoholism which you’re struggling with or have overcome.

> Your career problems like being fired or being unable to hold onto jobs.

> Your minor or major brushes with the law including speeding tickets or driving under the influence.

> Your beliefs about men, dating, and relationships because they can hide unresolved anger issues from past failed relationships.

For example, you might believe – based on your personal experience or what has happened to one of your close friends – that all men are liars or cheaters.

And during the date you make a comment that you’re willing to bet that the new guy you’ve just met is like all other men and that he lies or cheats.

Can you guess his reaction when he hears that? And can you guess who won’t get asked out on a second date after making a statement like that?

When you open up about your past too soon, you’re making a grave error.

It’s not sexy. It’s very unflattering. And it’s definitely a turn off.

Instead of bonding and bringing you and your new guy closer, it becomes alarming to him.

It sets off alarm bells and changes the upbeat mood of the date.

The mood and the date become much too serious way too soon.

He wonders what he’s gotten himself into…or what he could be getting himself into.

He wonders if he wants to be involved in your life with its unique set of problems and issues when he has his own to contend with too.

He begins to think…

> Does he want to meet your parents if one of them is an alcoholic?

> Does he want a sex kitten with a high libido when he’s slowing down and needs prescription medication to satisfy a woman?

> Does he want to help you through your debt or bankruptcy problems when he has his own money and an impeccable financial track record?

> Does he want a woman who is needy, clingy, sarcastic, and dishonest when what he is looking for is a woman who is confident, assured, sweet, and honest?

> Does he want to be involved with you when you share custody of your children and your ex shows up at the door every week with them so you can spend a few hours or have an overnight visit with them?

> Does he want to take the chance that you’ll get hooked on drugs again or fall off the wagon and be inebriated when he comes home from work every day?

Don’t get me wrong, here. I’m not saying to lie or mislead someone.

What I’m suggesting is that you pick the right time to tell someone about certain details about your life that are private.

Let him get to know you a little. And give yourself a chance to get to know him.

Don’t flood him with all the bad news right at the beginning.

If there is a connection then he’s more likely to accept your “baggage.”

After all, he has baggage too.

And he can probably relate to some of your issues.

But when he meets you, he’s looking for someone who is fun to be with, not someone who dumps all of her problems on him like it’s a therapy session.

As the relationship progresses and you go on more dates, these things will usually become more apparent as you talk about various parts of your life.

When you meet someone new, you’re looking for similarities and common interests or experiences to establish a bond. That’s normal.

Don’t be in a rush to share your baggage and dump it all on him on the first date or two – it can turn a guy off quickly and ruin a promising relationship.

If you find the conversation moving into dangerous “baggage territory” then steer things in another direction and keep the conversation upbeat and fun.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

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When You Shouldn’t Give A Guy A Second Chance

“Sometimes the guy you meet is Mr. Wrong right from the get go. It’s part of dating and something you have to go through to find your Mr. Right.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Advice how to get a guy to like you - girlgetsgreatguy.com

In one of my articles I mentioned that many women are too picky and that they don’t give (nice) guys a chance.

They make snap decisions and turn away guys who could be perfect for them.

That’s not to say that every guy you meet will be right for you.

There’s ONE special guy out there who hasn’t yet found you.

In the meantime, you’ll date a lot of nice – and not-so-nice – guys before you find your Mr. Right.

What Would Make You Turn Down A Second Date With A Guy?

Imagine this dating scenario….

You met this guy online.

He seems nice.

You both have things in common.

He makes you laugh.

He asks you out on a date.

And you say, “Yes!”

You meet at a restaurant.

You sit down.

And you start talking.

It’s back and forth, question after question.

And then, as you gather more information about this guy, you start to see patterns emerge that send up red flags.

Things like…

>> “Do you mind if I smoke?” (OMG. He smokes. Ewwww. He never told me that!)

>> “My divorce just got finalized. I’m so glad I’m free. I’ll never marry again.” (Huh? I thought you wanted a relationship?)

>> “I’m not close to my kids. I haven’t spoken to them in a few years.” (What’s wrong with you if even your kids don’t like you?)

>> “I’ll have another drink, please.” (I’m not counting but isn’t this his fifth drink?)

>> “Come on, have another drink with me.” (Looks like he needs a drinking buddy, not a partner.)

>> “I live with a roommate and we share expenses. I’ve been “between jobs” for a few years now.” (Translation: He’s unemployed. Maybe even unemployable. But sometimes, this isn’t a deal breaker – it just depends on the circumstances. He might be an entrepreneur who just sold his stake in a company for millions of dollars and he’s looking for the next idea to start a company.)

>> “I’ve been divorced two times. Marriage never seems to work out.” (Oh? Why is that?)

>> “How many one night stands have you had?” (I’m flabbergasted that you’re even asking me that question)

>> “I’ve had 100 first dates. Never seem to get past the first date with women.” (There has to be a reason, don’t you think?)

>> “I’ve never married. Actually I’m looking for someone who is in her 30’s. You seem a bit old to me.” (Then why did you ask me out?)

>> “I think I retired too early. Not much money left. But I sure enjoy being a beach bum.” (Good news! There are some wealthy beach bums out there. He’s just not one of them.)

>> “So you don’t think I look like my photos on my online dating profile? They were taken about 15 years ago.” (Does he look better now or then? And if he looks better now, why wouldn’t he post those photos? Perhaps he’s playing with you.)

>> “Yeah, I’ve put on a little (!) weight since the photos I showed on my profile.” (Liar. That’s a lot of weight.)

>> “Well, everybody exaggerates their height in online dating profiles. Heck, if I had told you I was only 5 feet 5 inches would you have gone out with me? (Maybe. Maybe not. Why not charm me with your personality and we’ll see where things go.)

>> “So how do you like my unshaven, scruffy look? I thought I’d show you my rugged side.” (Not very impressive when he doesn’t clean up for his date. But don’t be fooled. He could really be a millionaire who wants to find a woman who likes him for who he is, not for his money.)

>> “I have a few health issues I didn’t mention to you when we were chatting. Heart problems. Bit of a problem in the bedroom, too. Is that a deal breaker with you?” (What exactly are you trying to say here, buddy?”)

>> “I said in my dating profile that I was looking for a long term relationship. But I’m really happier with a Friends With Benefits arrangement.” (I’m out of here.)

>> “I have a confession. I’m really 65, not 55.” (Really?!? As if I couldn’t tell. Why did you lie?)

>> “I hang out with a lot of celebrities. You know…like (name of celebrity) and (name of celebrity).” (Am I supposed to be impressed?)

>> “I actually live in San Diego. Thought I’d widen the scope when looking for someone.” (Oh? San Diego’s a pretty big city. It must have some eligible women. Besides, I don’t want to drive for two hours for a date.)

Many of these are red flags that shouldn’t be ignored.

And they indicate he’s not the type of guy you’re looking for.

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Top 4 Deal Breakers

Obviously your deal breakers shouldn’t be frivolous. They have to be major things that affect a relationship.

These can include…

1. He Blames Others For His Misfortunes – Especially When It Comes To Dating And Relationships

This guy is pretty easy to spot.

Because he’ll soon unburden himself on you…looking for your sympathy.

He’s the type of guy who doesn’t take responsibility for his own actions…or the outcome of those actions.

Everyone else is to blame for what has happened to him.

His wife didn’t understand him.

His boss doesn’t understand him.

His kids don’t understand him.

2. He Doesn’t Show You He’s Interested In You And He Doesn’t Try To Please You

If he’s interested in you he should be trying to please you in some way.

Instead, it’s all about him.

There are lots of ways a man can show his interest in you without going overboard.

He might not send you a dozen roses with a love note every day but he’s considerate and tries to make you happy in other ways…

He chooses your favorite restaurant.

He does your laundry or mows your lawn while you’re at work.

He takes you to that chick flick you’ve been dying to see.

He cooks a surprise dinner for you when you’ve had a hard day at work.

3. He’s Into Himself, Not You

This type of guy is self centered…and selfish.

Everything is about him.

And he comes first.

He talks about himself and doesn’t get to know you.

You’d think he’d at least show some interest in you by asking you questions and learning more about who you are as a person.

That’s kind of important when it comes to being involved with someone.

4. He’s A Liar (Or A Game Player)

It’s the little lies that start the ball rolling.

The lie about his age.

The lie about his relationship status. (A definite deal breaker if he’s married.)

The lie about his weight…or height.

What else has he told you that isn’t true?

Or he likes to “test” you…to see how you react.

He tests your reaction to things he does or tells you.

It’s not a good way to start out any relationship.

And dating and relationships aren’t about “testing” the other person. It’s about having a connection.

There are going to be times when you make a hasty decision about a guy – and it’s going to be wrong. Because he’s a nice guy who will make someone a wonderful partner.

But there will be times when you just know in your heart of hearts that the guy sitting across for you just isn’t the type of guy you could see spending the rest of your life with.

Look for the signs that he shows you – either directly or indirectly.

And if he’s wrong for you, move on to the next guy.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who wants to find her one true love.

It’s for the woman who:

– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Never seems to be able to keep a good man for long
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
– Wants to have more dates with quality men

Click the following link to find out more about the Girl Gets Great Guy System

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Why You Get Discouraged With Dating After 40

“One of the biggest issues you’ll have with dating after 40 is waiting around for that guy you met – or went on a date with – to call you.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach love heart

No doubt about it. It can be discouraging when you wait for a guy to call you…and he doesn’t.

It was bad enough when you were younger waiting around for that dreamy boy in school or college to phone you.

But when you’re dating after 40 (or older) it seems even worse.

And there’s a reason for that…

The pool of eligible men shrinks more and more as you mature.

So it’s harder to find a quality man to have a relationship with.

And it can be more than that.

You’re at a point in your life where you’re more mature and more established. You know what you want.

Trouble is, you want “it” now. And “it” is a great relationship with a wonderful man.

You don’t want to wait.

Which Of These Dating Situations Have You Experienced?

Of all the problems women have with dating after 40, it’s the “Why doesn’t he call?” question that I see the most often.

Why he doesn’t call can be part of why he disappeared after a date (and never called again, even though his parting words were, “I’ll call you.”)

Or it can be why he didn’t call when he said he would…but eventually phones you.

Or it could be why he didn’t call when you expect him to.

I’ve already discussed why he disappears after a date and you don’t hear from him again.

It could be something you said or did that turned him off.

Or it could be something about him that makes him decide not to pursue you or a relationship with you.

There can be legitimate reasons why he doesn’t call when he said he would – and they might not have anything to do with you at all.

His reason could be work related.

It could be family related. There may be a family emergency or an illness in the family.

You have to keep in mind that at the very beginning of a relationship or when you’ve just met a guy, you’re not usually his priority unless he doesn’t have much of a life.

In most cases, you’re a small part of his busy life at this point.

He has his work, his friends, his activities, and his family – all of which (unfortunately) take priority over you.

The “I’ll Call You” Scenario In Dating

Let’s say, for example, he said in a casual sort of way that he’d call and you haven’t heard from him.

Two days later…no call.

Five days later…no call.

A week later…you pick up the phone…and it’s him.

Or here’s another real life scenario…

You “meet” a great guy online.

You email each other.

You message each other.

You talk on the phone.

And you get into a routine to go online each night to either message each other or talk on Skype.

It’s usually a pre-established time but if you don’t happen to make arrangements beforehand you still go on and he’s there waiting for you.

Only something happens one evening…

And he’s not waiting for you.

In fact, you can see that he’s online but he hasn’t come on to say “hi” to you or to “talk” to you.

Do You Say Things Like This When You’re Discouraged With Dating?

What is going through your mind when you don’t hear from him?

Probably things like….

> I knew he was too good to be true.

> Nobody loves me.

> I’m being dumped again.

> I’m not attractive enough to have a man in my life.

> I did something wrong that screwed up a promising relationship.

> I feel like a failure.

> I feel all alone.

And then you get mad at him.

You feel he has disrespected you.

You feel that you’ve been rejected.

You now accept that there won’t be a relationship.

Or, if you’ve been dating him for a short while, that the relationship is over.

After all, you think, if he really cared about me he wouldn’t leave me hanging. He could have at least picked up the phone.

And you nurse your wounds by saying you don’t need a man in your life.

Is Something Really Wrong With The Relationship?

It’s very easy to get into this negative thinking when in fact, there might be nothing wrong at all – at least from his point of view.

He may genuinely be busy and doesn’t want to phone you until his schedule is clear so he can ask you out.

Or he may want to give you your space not knowing that you miss him and you want to see as much of him as you can.

This isn’t about making excuses for him. It’s about taking a different perspective on things.

Let me ask you this:

If you were busy in your life, with your work, friends, family, and activities, would it matter so much if he didn’t call you within a day or so?

Chances are it wouldn’t.

Because you’d be busy. Your mind would be occupied with other things.

You’d let this promising relationship progress naturally – the way it’s supposed to progress.

Too often we’re in a rush to escalate a relationship instead of taking our time.

If you don’t hear from him and he disappears from your life then he’s done you a favor because he’s not right for you.

He’s saved you wasting time on him. So now you can move onto the next man.

You’re disappointed, of course.

You might have even had your heart set on this man.

So you’re feeling heartbroken.

But be thankful you didn’t waste months or years on him if he’s not ready for a committed relationship.

If you didn’t have much invested in the relationship you’ll get over your hurt quickly and you’ll be able to move on.

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How A Smart Woman Reacts When A Guy Says He’ll Call And He Takes Longer Than Expected

Now…

…how do you react to his call when he does phone you (or in the online example, when he messages you)?

This really is the moment of truth.

This is where many women make a huge mistake.

And they kill any hope of a relationship.

By this time they’re all wound up and ready to lash back at him.

They’ve worked themselves into such a state of mind that they’re not thinking clearly.

All they want to do is lash back and make him feel bad about not phoning sooner.

So this is your opportunity to show him how you’re different from other women.

If you give him a hard time, he’ll either back off, distance himself, and eventually disappear.

Or, he’ll immediately be out of there.

You won’t hear from him again.

If you’re cold to him, he’s going to wonder what he did wrong.

And he’ll retreat.

He’s going to feel thankful that he found out about your true personality and how you treat him before things got more serious.

But if you’re cheerful and let him know you’re glad to hear from him, he’ll not only be surprised and pleased, he’ll immediately see that you’re not like other women he’s dated.

And that can be a good thing because it could lead to a wonderful, fulfilling relationship.

This is all about mindset and how you see things.

It’s about thinking positively instead of negatively.

What To Do When He Doesn’t Call

You now know what to do if he takes his time calling you.

So let’s recap what to do in the three situations I’ve described:

1. He disappears after you had an amazing date with him?

So what?

Sure it hurts.

Sure it makes you sad.

Sure it makes you mad.

But…it’s his loss, not yours.

There are other guys out there who are looking for a smart, attractive woman like you.

2. He doesn’t call when you says he’ll call?

So what?

Live your life.

Stay busy.

Don’t focus on one man.

If he calls then make him feel welcome instead of scolding him and making him feel bad.

3. He doesn’t call when you think he should.

So what?

He doesn’t know when he “should” call you based on your “rules.”

Throw away those “rules” if you have any.

Do things you enjoy.

Keep your mind focused on other things in your life, not just one man.

It all boils down to living your life…and what your expectations are.

Because reality is, he hasn’t made a commitment to you. He isn’t part of your life…yet.

Right now he’s nothing more than a prospective boyfriend or partner.

If you are in a relationship, talk to him. Let him know what would be nice, not what you demand from him.

If you keep that in mind you’ll shield your heart from hurt and live a happier life.

And you’ll increase your chances of ending up in a happy relationship with a great guy because you won’t have turned him off with an attitude that scares guys away.

Why you get discouraged with dating after 40 is because you haven’t yet found anyone and you’re not in a loving relationship. But there’s no reason to let that overshadow your search for a quality guy and ruin your chance to have a wonderful man in your life.

Don’t get hung up on the “I’ll call you” promise that guys make.

If they do call you that’s an opportunity to see if things can go further.

If they don’t call you, that’s okay. You have a life to live and other guys to pursue.

As long as you keep busy, don’t focus solely on one guy in the beginning, and don’t let negative thoughts creep in, you’ll be fine.

And you’ll attract men who want to be with you and who want to please you.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who has experienced any of the following:

– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Has had her heart broken too many times
– Intimidates men without meaning to
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
– Wants to have more dates with quality men

 

Download Blaine’s FREE Special Report, 7 Best Places To Find Mr. Right, his exclusive list of places where great guys hang out.

 

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Why He Disappeared

“You will encounter all types of men who seem perfect for you. Their actions will speak louder than their words.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach roses2

Have you ever met a man where you thought, “You had me at ‘hello’” – where you thought he was interesting and maybe even perfect for you?

It’s not unusual to meet a guy who at first blush seems almost too perfect to be true.

He’s good looking. He’s charming. He’s fun to be with. He’s attentive. He says all the right things a girl wants to hear.

The Perfect Date

He takes you on a date.

He wines and dines you.

The setting is romantic.

You look into each other’s eyes and smile at each other.

There seems like an unspoken message that passes between the two of you.

You might even be impulsive and grab his hand and give it a squeeze to show you like him even though you only met a few hours ago.

The date eventually comes to an end.

You hug him.

You give him a little kiss.

As he is leaving he says, “I’ll call you.”

And you’re thrilled to hear him say those three words.

To you, they promise a future with a great guy.

You go home and dream about him.

You replay the date over and over again.

You fantasize about what your future would look like with him.

It’s like having a teenage crush on the boy at school.

The Waiting Game – It’s Part Of Dating

And now you wait to hear from this new man in your life.

A day passes.

“He must be busy,” you think.

You might even start cancelling plans you had with friends for fear of missing his phone call or not being available to see him.

Then two days go by.

“I wonder why I haven’t heard from him?” you say to yourself as that little panicky feeling starts to set in.

On the third day you begin to come to the realization that he might not phone you.

Finally a week has gone by.

No phone call.

No email.

No text messages.

Nothing.

With a sinking feeling you now realize you aren’t going to hear from him again.

And then you get discouraged…and sad.

And you start questioning yourself.

Here you thought you were attractive and fun to be with (which you are) and he had a good time with you and he doesn’t phone you even though he promised he would.

Are You Looking For Answers When He Doesn’t Call?

By this time you’re not replaying the date so much as you’re looking for answers why he didn’t phone you.

> Did you do something wrong that turned him off?

> Did he really like you or was he only pretending to like you?

> Why would he say he’d call if he had no intention to do so?

> Should you wait to hear from him before you look for someone else?

And you might be thinking things like…

> Why does this always happen to me?

> I’m going to give up on dating.

These are the things that probably go through your mind after going on a great date and being disappointed when the guy doesn’t phone you.

Why He Didn’t Call You

Let’s examine what happened and what you can do about it.

First, you will never know what really happened.

He might have had cold feet or not felt any chemistry.

He might have had second thoughts about wanting to date you or about even being in a relationship.

He might have been turned off by things you said or did.

He might have found someone else he was interested in.

He might have been married or in a relationship.

He might have had a situation – family or work – come up that meant he couldn’t phone you when he planned to. And then he got embarrassed that so much time had passed and was afraid to phone you. Because in his experience he’ll get a cold reception and be made to feel like a jerk for taking so long to phone.

Do you see how the possible explanations can go on and on?

He might have genuinely liked you and in the moment he promised to call you.

Or…which is just as likely, he said, “I’ll call you” as a way of parting so things wouldn’t be awkward.

It could be his way of saying he’s not interested without coming out and saying those exact words and hurting you.

After all, “I’ll call you” is totally different from “Are you free on Saturday night?” or “I’d like to see you again. When are you free?”

In fact, if a guy does say to you, “I’ll call you” take it with a grain of salt and start onto the next guy in your dating funnel. Because chances are he won’t phone. If he does, that’s great. If he doesn’t it’s no big deal.

Did You Do Something That Turned Him Off?

Maybe you did do or say something that turned him off.

Maybe you revealed too much information to him about your abusive ex or about your health or about your sex life or about your sad childhood or how you don’t speak to your siblings or to your grown up children.

Maybe you didn’t want to appear needy so you told him you’re independent and you don’t really need a man in your life.

Maybe you have four cats and he’s allergic to cats.

Maybe you didn’t dress appropriately and tried to squeeze into an outfit that wasn’t very flattering.

If you did turn him off somehow, you will never know…unless, of course, you already know that you said or did something that you wish you hadn’t (and you’re mentally kicking yourself for doing it).

What you need to realize is that when you first meet a guy, you shouldn’t – and definitely don’t – commit with all of your heart.

It’s not love at first sight.

You don’t know this guy.

Even if you’ve traded emails and phone calls and text messages for weeks before you meet, you still don’t know who he is.

And what’s happened is that you’ve invested your feelings in one guy who you don’t know anything about in real life.

Your first meetings and dates are where you find out if you like him.

This is the discovery period where you get to know him.

It’s not the time where you commit to him.

Remember, relationships take time – even if you have been emailing and chatting before you met.

You’re not in an instant relationship just because he’s no longer someone you talk to “online” and you’ve now met him in person.

How To Approach Dating

This is where men approach dating a little differently that women.

Men go on a date thinking, “Let’s see if she’s nice and whether I like her.”

Women go on a date thinking, “I wonder if he’s The One.”

Do you see how very different those two ways of thinking are?

Men can shrug off disappointment easier with their expectation. Women, on the other hand, set themselves up for hurt – especially when they pin all of their hopes and dreams on one guy.

In the meantime, you’ve been putting off meeting other guys.

And, instead, you’ve been caught up in self doubt and hurt because this one date that you pinned everything on didn’t work out.

Avoid Doing This When Dating

What do you do to avoid this in the future?

First, you change your expectations.

Your expectations should be to get to know the guy to see if he’s boyfriend material.

Secondly, you avoid concentrating all of your efforts on one guy.

Have a couple of other guys in the background and get to know them too.

Don’t pin all of your hopes on one guy only to discover he’s not the one for you.

Yes, he looked promising.

But in reality you knew nothing about the guy in real life.

And it doesn’t matter what he’s told you in emails or phone calls, you really don’t know this man until you’re with him and you talk to him and you spend time with him and get to know him.

I realize how hard this is for many women. (It happens to guys too.)

It’s especially difficult if there aren’t a lot of good prospects out there.

If you “met” online, then chances are you revealed things to him that you haven’t told other people.

You might be a little embarrassed about what you said to him.

You might have even flirted a little with him and said racy things and gotten a little carried away.

How To Shield Yourself From Dating Disappointment

There’s only one way to shield yourself from major disappointment and hurt.

And that’s to not concentrate on just one guy.

As the saying goes, have more than one iron in the fire.

That’s not cheating or being unfaithful.

You’re not in an exclusive relationship with this guy.

He hasn’t committed to you and you haven’t committed to him.

If one guy doesn’t work out, so what?

You explore things with the next guy.

And the next.

Until you find the guy who’s right for you.

Be smart about dating.

Be brave.

Stay strong.

And stay the course.

Because you will find your Mr. Right.

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Dating Advice For Women – Attracting Mr. Right

“There are lots of good men out there waiting for a loving relationship. You just have to find that one man who is ideal for you.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach dating advice for women - attracting mr. right

No dating advice for women would be complete without shattering a myth that many women hold onto.

Because one of the most common comments many women make is that there are no good men left. Or that they can’t find their Mr. Right.

The truth is, there are LOTS of good men out there.

The problem many women have is that they don’t know how to find the guy who’s right for them.

They might know how to attract a man but they don’t know how to attract the RIGHT type of man.

Sometimes that’s because they make the same mistakes over and over.

Other times they give up hope – or they’re afraid – because they were in a bad relationship before and don’t want to repeat that experience.

And what happens is that they close up and are unapproachable.

Not only that, but they’re not open to finding a great guy simply because they’ve convinced themselves that there are no good men left.

Know What You Need From A Relationship

This is entirely different than what you “want” from a relationship.

Needs are the essential things in a relationship that make you happy with the guy of your dreams.

For example, you might want to retire early.

But you need a guy who is loving and caring.

Your “want” is something that would be nice to have. But it’s not critical to having a wonderful relationship.

Know What Type Of Man You’re Looking For

Many women end up with the wrong type of guy simply because they really don’t know what they’re looking for in a man.

And sometimes they’re attracted and drawn to a specific “type” of guy – even knowing that he’s not relationship material.

For example, some women are attracted to the bad boy because he offers fun and adventure. But he might not be long term boyfriend material simply because he dates women for a short time before moving on.

Write down the top qualities and attributes you desire in a man.

You might, for example, be looking for a tall guy. Or a guy who has a college or university degree. Or a guy who is into biking, and mountain climbing, and skiing.

And, you might want a man who is caring and understanding. Or you might want a man who is loving and who “gets” you.

Once you have your list of top qualities and attributes, decide on those things that are the most important.

You have to know what is important to you. These are the things that will make you happy in a relationship.

Once you’ve finished doing that, keep an open mind.

Be open to the possibility that the guy you are looking for or who you will eventually meet could be much better than the man you’re looking for.

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Go Where The Guys Hang Out

There’s no use saying there are no good men left if you don’t go out and meet new guys.

You have to take action here – go to places where the type of guys you want are hanging out.

That might be the gym. That might be the grocery store or supermarket. That might be a specific class at college. That might be a bar or pub or tavern.

It might be a cafe or deli or coffee shop. It might be a sports field or a hardware store.

It might even be a specific department in the company you work for.

Talk To New Guys

Sure, guys might approach you and chat you up.

But, again, you have to take action – especially if you see a guy you’re attracted to.

This is about striking up a conversation.

That might strike fear in your heart – to approach a guy you’re attracted to and start talking to him.

But how else are you going to know if he’s “The One” if you don’t do that if he doesn’t approach you first? Are you going to let a great guy get away simply because you were too afraid to talk to him?

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that the guy should make the first move. Sometimes you have to make the first move if you see an opportunity to get to know a great guy.

If you get tongue tied then start out with small steps and simply approach a guy – any guy – and ask for the time or for directions. Or make a comment and see what he says in return.

Keep it simple so you can build your confidence.

Most guys will be flattered that you spoke to them. And they will definitely take notice of you.

If they’re attracted to you they might even start asking you questions and get to know you better.

Give Him A Chance

One of the main reasons women don’t find a great guy is because they don’t give men a chance.

You shouldn’t jump to conclusions and think he’s not your type or there’s no chemistry without getting to know him better.

That’s why some women find the great guys while others keep searching all the time and wondering why they can’t find a good man.

You have to give things time. If he at least seems decent and not some creep then take the time to find out more about him.

You just might find that the guy you’ve been looking for is right under your nose and you never considered him before.

How To Attract A Man

Don’t waste your time with the wrong guy.

You could find yourself years older having wasted some of your best years if you pick a loser.

Instead, imagine finding a great guy with whom you can have an amazing relationship.

If you’re ready for love and you want to know where the great guys hang out and how to catch and keep one then the Girl Gets Great Guy System might be exactly what you need.

It also includes a fantastic checklist to help you decide whether you’ve chosen Mr.Right or whether you’re wasting your time.

If you want to find, catch, and keep a great guy then check out the Girl Gets Great Guy System.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who has experienced any of the following:

– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Has had her heart broken too many times
– Intimidates men without meaning to
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
– Wants to have more dates with quality men

 

Download Blaine’s FREE Special Report, 7 Best Places To Find Mr. Right, his exclusive list of places where great guys hang out.

 

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Dating Advice For Women: Questions To Ask Men

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“A date isn’t an interview or a confessional. You’re being judged on the things you say and do during a date. Leave a first good impression and your chances for a second date are much higher.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach

When it comes to dating advice for women, one of the first questions many women ask is what questions should I ask?

It’s a great question because when you’re getting to know someone who you’re interested in for a relationship it’s common to ask questions.

This is especially true with online dating where it’s easier to ask questions and not feel that you’re pressing too hard to get to the answers that are important to you.

But it can be a trap if you’re not careful. The questions you ask and the answers you give can turn a guy off.

Keep in mind that when you meet someone – online or offline – and you want to know something about them you don’t want to make it look like it’s an interview.

So you don’t ask things like, “What are your goals?” Or, “Where do you see yourself in 5 year’s time?” Or, “What are your strengths and weaknesses?”

Those aren’t the types of questions you ask – although some of that information may come about through casual conversation.

For example, he tells you what he does for a living. And then he says that in five year’s time he expects to be promoted to a higher position or move on to another job.

Instead of these “interview” type of questions, ask another type of question.

These are what I call initial “qualifiers” to see if it’s worthwhile moving forward with the guy you’re interested in.

Common questions from women – whether you’re on a date or you’re on an online dating site – can include the following:

1. Have You Ever Been Married?

These days “single” can mean never been married or divorced and no more ex in his life.

With online dating you’ll usually find a section about marital status.

Some guys have been married and divorced. Some men are widowers. Some are separated from their wife.

Others are married and looking for an affair or a no strings attached arrangement.

And others have never been married. They may be confirmed bachelors, they may be players, they may be smooth talkers, or they may not have found the woman they’re searching for.

2. Are You Seeing Anyone Right Now? [or] Do You Believe In Monogamy?

This question is sometimes disguised to mean whether he’s sleeping with anyone or whether he has a relationship with someone that he hasn’t disclosed.

This is a particularly important question since most people want to have an exclusive relationship.

With sexual disease prevalent, it’s not unusual to expect exclusivity in a relationship – especially if you’re intimate with a man.

If you ask, “Do you believe in monogamy?” it could reveal whether he’s sleeping with other women or wants to date a number of women instead of just one exclusively.

3. What Do You Do For A Living?

It’s common to ask this question. In fact, it’s probably one of the most frequently asked questions. The man you have your eye on may be a professional. He may be unemployed. He may be “between jobs.” He may be an entrepreneur. Or he may be underemployed or unemployable because of his age or for health reasons.

It will be up to you to decide which is acceptable to you. Some women don’t mind helping their man financially. Others have done it all their lives and are now looking for more security from a man who has a good job.

These days with housing and living costs so high, it’s nice to know that the man you’re dating has either a good job or has some financial resources to fall back on if the relationship progresses and especially if you decide to get married.

4. Tell Me About Your Family – Your Parent, Your Siblings, Your Children

We all like to know something about the other person’s family. After all, if things were to progress, you would eventually meet his family.

It’s also nice to know something about his relationship with his family. For example, is he close to his parents and his children.

If he’s an older man, it’s likely that his children are grown up and on their own. And sometimes that can be important in a budding relationship.

Some people like children but don’t want to raise any more children. So that could be a deal breaker for them when considering dating a man.

5. What Do You Like To Do For Fun?

This question will give you an idea about whether the guy you’re interested in is a fun guy. Whether he likes to travel. And whether the two of you have common interests.

It’s also interesting to know something about his passions, interests, hobbies, and how he spends his free time because it can open up new opportunities for things to do together.

Of course, if he’s into hang gliding or rock climbing or base jumping or bungy jumping or skydiving, he might be a little too adventurous for you.

Even worse, he might encourage you to take up extreme sports when you’re deathly afraid of them and prefer to have your feet firmly planted on the ground.

6. How Long Have You Lived In Your Town or City?

People move. And sometimes you’ll find a common town or city where you have both lived. Or you may have mutual friends from the same town or city.

It’s always easier to relate to someone if you have something in common or a shared experience.

7. Do You Drink, Smoke, Gamble, Or Use Non-Prescription and Prescription Drugs?

In other words, what sins do you like?

You don’t have to ask this question outright. For example, you could ask, “Have you ever been to Vegas?” or “Have you tried (name a casino)?”

In most cases, you’ll get some idea about a person’s “sins” on the first date or two. For example, he may order a lot of drinks if you’re at a restaurant. Or he might reveal his favorite pastime is getting together with the guys and drinking. Or he may excuse himself to go outside for a quick smoke.

Most online dating sites have a section for this so you can see what a man’s habits are.

And if you’re looking for someone who doesn’t smoke or do drugs and is a light drinker then it’s important that you know right from the beginning so you can qualify or disqualify him as a potential romantic candidate.

Drugs can be a major issue – and a deal breaker – for many people.

Even prescription drugs can be a red flag since they can affect a person’s behavior and even their sexual performance.

8. What Are You Looking For In A Partner?

This is a great question to ask any man you’re interested in because it gives you an idea what his expectations are.

He might, for example, be looking for casual dating. Or a one-night stand. Or a friend with benefits.

He may be looking for a companion for social outings and travel. He might be looking for someone to talk to and do things with as an activity partner.

Or he might be looking for love and a long term relationship with the possibility of marriage if things work out.

Some guys might also tell you they’re not interested in raising any more children – especially if their own children are grown up. So, if you’re a single parent with young children, he probably isn’t a candidate for a relationship.

If he asks you the same question, it’s best to be candid about what you’re really looking for so as not to lead him on.

But you have to be careful how you answer. For example, if you say you’re looking for a husband it will very likely scare him off.

It’s best to keep it general in the beginning. Instead, you might say you’re looking for someone to enjoy fun times with and see if a relationship develops.

Of course, if you’re only looking for intimacy then it’s best to disclose that right at the beginning and say you’re looking for a lover or for a no strings attached arrangement.

If you’re only looking for a friend or companion then he may not be a good choice if he’s looking for a lover or a future wife.

Avoid the type of answer like “an honest man” or “a guy who isn’t a loser” or “a nice guy.” These types of answers can signal bitterness from previous bad experiences with men and can reflect poorly on you.

When asking questions you don’t want to appear as though you’re prying or trying to complete a man-catching checklist.

You want to keep things casual and light.

The trouble is that when you’re considering dating a guy, you want to know that your time is well invested and you don’t want any surprises that could be deal breakers.

On the other hand, you don’t want to turn the guy off with your probing questions.

Of course, the tables can be turned on you as the man asks you questions.

Questions like:

1. What Happened In Your Marriage?

This is a question that could still cause you pain or anger if you’re recently divorced and starting all over after many years of what you thought was a happy marriage until your ex-husband ran off with a younger woman.

And it’s up to you whether you want to go into the details. If your ex husband was a cheater or had an affair or multiple affairs it’s entirely appropriate to mention that. Or you can simply say you and your ex-husband grew apart or you fell out of love and only stayed together until the children were grown up.

2. How Old Are You?

Many online dating sites ask you to indicate your age. Most people are reasonably honest about this question.

Some women are embarrassed to think that they’re looking for a relationship in their later years when their dream was to be married all their lives to one man.

It used to be that a man would never ask a woman’s age.

But times have changed.

It’s your choice whether to tell him specifically how old you are.

If the relationship progresses he’ll want to at least know when your birthday is. Or he might allude to how old you are by making remarks about specific events in history – for example, when the Beatles came to America.

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3. How Many Relationships Have You Had In The Past?

This is a cute way of asking how many men you’ve slept with.

It might even give him an idea of your experience as a sexual partner.

It’s not a question you need to answer or divulge.

It’s your personal business.

4. What Would You Do If You Found Out You Were Pregnant?

This is an oblique way of asking whether you’re sexually active and whether you use birth control.

It’s a question that eventually has to be answered if you’re intimate with the man you’re dating.

But as an initial question from someone you don’t know very well it’s up to you whether you answer it.

5. Do You Enjoy Sex?

For a lot of women sex questions are a turn off until they get to know a guy and think there is a connection.

Be prepared for this question from guys. Because, let’s face it, most guys are interested in sex in a relationship.

But use your common sense, too. It’s not a topic that should be encouraged in the beginning. If the question is asked in the first email or two – and you don’t know each other very well – then it’s inappropriate.

You should get to know each other first before delving into the “sex” questions which will include things like preferences, forbidden practices, birth control, condoms, sexually transmitted diseases, and being tested.

6. How Would Your Friends Describe You or What Would They Say About You?

It’s another great question. Generally you want to be able to bring out your good points about your personality and qualities.

It’s a tricky question because he might be looking for the negative qualities you have – you might get angry quickly or you might be a critical person. Or you might be jealous or you might be needy or desperate.

These qualities are guy turnoffs. And, in a guy, they’re very likely turnoffs for you too.

Obviously you want to put your best foot forward when answering questions from a prospective relationship candidate.

You want to keep things upbeat and positive. You don’t want your potential lover to wince and duck his head at the thought of being savagely mauled by your overprotective Chihuahua or the thought of the front door being smashed open by a jealous ex husband or boyfriend as your new lover has you in his arms making mad passionate love to you.

The thing to keep in mind with asking questions is that the answers to many of them will come as you get to know the man you’re interested in.

And be prepared for the answers you ask be asked of you.

Find The Man of Your Dreams Who Makes You Happy

Just as there are questions to avoid asking, there are also topics to avoid talking about.

In the Girl Gets Great Guy System – which is dating advice for women who want to find the man of their dreams – I not only show you how to ask questions without it seeming like he’s applying for a “position” in a job, I also cover 15 different topics to avoid discussing on the first date because they can change the mood and instantly turn guys off.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who wants to find her one true love. It’s for the woman who:

– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Never seems to be able to keep a good man for long
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
– Wants to have more dates with quality men

Click the following link to find out more about the Girl Gets Great Guy System

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How To Ruin A New Relationship

“Treat a new relationship gently – it could develop into a commitment that lasts a lifetime.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach. love hearts

You meet a guy and you’re really into him…and he’s really into you.

It looks promising.

He’s everything you ever wanted in a guy.

He’s fun.

He’s romantic.

He’s handsome.

He’s smart.

He’s a manly man.

And even though you’re in the infatuation stage where he can do no wrong, you think he might be The One.

But there are ways to spoil a budding relationship that showed so much promise.

And it’s a pity because a beginning relationship can be spoiled so quickly if it’s not nurtured properly.

Here are the top two ways to ruin what could be a promising relationship:

1. Playing Games

Playing games with a guy can be a huge turnoff.

And it’s one of the quickest ways to lose a guy.

Guys like to chase a woman.

They’re wired for it.

And the guy who is chasing you should be working to win your heart if he’s interested in you.

But don’t play games with him.

That’s more likely to annoy him than encourage him.

Instead, encourage him to date you and court you.

Return his calls or text messages quickly.

Don’t frustrate him and leave him hanging when he shows a willingness to be with you.

Don’t keep him guessing whether you’re interested in him.

You don’t have to profess your undying love to him or use the “L” word.

But you should show him you’re interested in him and you’re open to seeing him and spending time with him.

Don’t blow him off when he asks you for a date.

If you can’t make the day or evening that he suggests, suggest another time. Don’t let him get away with a “I’ll phone you another time to set something up” because he might not phone you again.

Let him know you’re disappointed you can’t make the original date and be sure to make firm plans for a new time that is good for both of you.

And don’t cancel on him again – unless it really is a true emergency.

Show your interest in him.

Be fun to be with.

Make him feel excited to be with you so he will want to continue seeing you.

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2. Having Sex With Him Too Soon

Let’s face it…it’s no surprise that he wants to sleep with you.

That’s nature’s way.

It doesn’t make him a pervert to have those feelings because it’s a natural thing between two people who are in love.

But having sex too soon can spoil everything.

I know what you’re thinking…

He’s hot.

He’s handsome.

He’s got a gorgeous body.

He has a great smile.

He makes you feel wonderful.

And you’re feeling frisky.

Your hormones are working overtime especially when you’re around him.

You just want to rip his clothes off and get rid of all of that sexual tension that is building up inside of you.

Big mistake!

It’s nature’s (unintentional) trap.

And, if you’re not careful and if you’re not strong, you’re going to fall right into it and perhaps even regret it down the road.

It’s especially difficult if you haven’t been in a relationship for quite a while.

Along comes your perfect man and you want to show him how much you appreciate him and love him.

I get how you’re feeling.

But here’s my suggestion:

If you want the relationship to develop, let it progress naturally.

It’s okay to keep him interested with kissing and touching but that’s the limit until you are ready.

Don’t have sex (including oral sex) until you’re in a committed relationship where you are exclusive to him.

And that means he makes that commitment to you.

You’re not asking him to marry you.

Instead, you’re asking him to commit to being exclusive with you.

That’s the defining point in the relationship to see if it will progress to something more.

You don’t want him sleeping around.

You definitely don’t want to be another notch in his bedpost.

And you don’t want him to satisfy his curiosity about you sexually and then move on to another woman.

You want to be his one and only.

When you give yourself to him you want to feel – and know – that he’s yours and you’re his top priority.

Keep in mind that giving yourself to him doesn’t mean he’ll automatically bond with you or be closer to you and want to be in an exclusive relationship.

Bonding with you is much more likely to happen when he’s in an exclusive relationship with you.

And, it should go without saying that you should be taking normal precautions to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

That means testing for STDs and seeing the results, not just taking his word for it.

In fact, it’s wise to discuss these topics before you are intimate with him.

Not only is that being smart about sex it’s also about protecting yourself.

After all, you don’t know where the relationship will go.

Everything looks wonderful now.

But things do change and there’s no guarantee you’ll be together forever.

And you don’t want to be left to raise a beautiful child by yourself or left with an incurable sexual disease.

Both of those things could affect both your future and a future relationship if you were to break up.

Every new relationship takes time to develop and mature.

And some things – especially sex – shouldn’t be rushed. Because the things you do early on in a new relationship can either spoil a good thing or help it to mature into something wonderful and long term.

Avoid making him jump through hoops to date you. And don’t have sex with him until he’s made a commitment to you and you’re in an exclusive relationship.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who finds herself in any of the following circumstances:

– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Has had her heart broken too many times
– Intimidates men without meaning to
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
– Wants to have more dates with quality men

Download Blaine’s FREE Special Report, 7 Best Places To Find Mr. Right, his exclusive list of places where great guys hang out.

 

GirlGetsGreatGuy.com – the site that gives dating advice to women and shows them how to find their Mr. Right – wishes to thank Stephanie Berghaeuser for the beautiful photo used in this article. Image credit: Love (c) Stephanie Berghaeuser Image #1039712 freeimages.com

Why You Are Picking The Wrong Guys

“Qualify your guy.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach. why you are picking the wrong guys

Many women find that they are in a committed relationship for years and then they break up.

They wonder what they did wrong when it looked so promising at the beginning of the relationship.

One reason for the eventual breakup is that you might be dating the wrong guy(s) because….

…you’re not qualifying them.

That is the one thing you can do that can save you not only wasted years of being in an unfulfilling relationship but also heartache.

Sometimes you’re overlooking important things that you want from a relationship because you’re attracted to the guy and he makes you happy.

You might have known that you weren’t completely compatible right from the start but ignored it or thought that he’d “change” after he was with you.

That’s a perfectly natural thing to do.

When I talk about “wrong” guys that doesn’t necessarily mean they were “wrong” in the beginning.

Sometimes things change and you have no control over them.

What your guy wanted when he first met you changes over time as the relationship progresses and matures.

Here’s an example:

You meet a great guy. There’s chemistry. There’s romance.

You talk about what you both want from a relationship and you’re both in agreement.

Then, over time, he changes his mind.

Perhaps at first, for example, he wanted children like you did. But as time goes on he decides he doesn’t want children.

But you still do.

In that situation, if you really do want children then you’re no longer compatible.

Do you know what good salespeople do when they talk to a prospect or customer?

They qualify them.

They ask questions to see whether their prospects and customers would be suitable candidates for what they’re selling.

Or they find out what their prospect or customer wants so they can deliver the goods to them.

If you’ve ever bought real estate or you’ve watched shows on TV like Property Brothers you’ll know what I mean.

In Property Brothers, Drew, the real estate expert, finds out what prospective buyers are looking for and then goes out and looks for fixer upper properties that can be upgraded to have many or all of the features the prospective buyers want. Of course, he also knows what the buyers’ budget is so he can scout for suitable properties.

Traditional realtors do the same thing only they usually look for properties that already have most of the features the buyers want.

This technique – qualifying buyers – isn’t just limited to realtors.

Professional salespeople qualify their buyers all the time and a true professional will make it sound conversational instead of peppering his or her prospect or customer with question after question.

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Your List of Relationship Non-Negotiables

Qualifying a guy means you should have a list of your non-negotiables.

Non-negotiables are those things you MUST have in a relationship.

They are what I call your “Must Haves.”

Keep that list to no more than 5 of the most important things you want out of a relationship.

Order them in importance if you want to – from most important to least important.

Remember, the longer the list of non-negotiables the harder it will be to find the guy who can satisfy ALL of your requirements.

And don’t be tied down to that list of non-negotiables.

If the man you meet has most of the things that you want in a relationship, you might be perfectly happy with that especially if your must haves are listed in importance.

Your list of non-negotiables can include such things as: a man who wants children, a man who is kind, a man who is romantic, a man who is funny, a man with similar beliefs or values, and a man who is generous.

These non-negotiables are what qualifies a guy as boyfriend material or husband potential.

How To Qualify Your Man

How do you find out if he “qualifies?”

You ask him questions and get his thoughts on things that are important to you.

I’m not suggesting you do this on the first date or two.

But in time you and your man will talk about things that are important to you both.

You might discuss having children.

You might discuss where you want to live.

You might discuss career plans.

You might discuss owning a home.

You might discuss wanting to travel.

You might discuss your dreams and hopes and plans for the future.

Also keep in mind that your relationship should be progressing towards what you want – whether it’s exclusivity or marriage.

If the guy you’re with doesn’t want children (and you do) or he doesn’t want to date exclusively (and you do) or he doesn’t want to get married (and you do) then you’re not compatible and you’re wasting your time with him.

And you have to decide whether you should stay together or break up so that you can each find someone who is more compatible.

Even when you qualify a guy, there’s no certainty that things will work out.

People’s circumstances do change and sometimes it’s beyond their control.

But at least you know there’s a better chance of compatibility and a future together if you know early on in the relationship that you both want the same thing.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who has experienced any of the following:

– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Has had her heart broken too many times
– Intimidates men without meaning to
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
– Wants to have more dates with quality men

 

Download Blaine’s FREE Special Report, 7 Best Places To Find Mr. Right, his exclusive list of places where great guys hang out.

 

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Dating Advice For Women: What To Avoid Doing On The First Date

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“Sometimes you will do things on a first date that turn a guy off. If you know the things to avoid doing or saying, it increases your chances to get a promising relationship off on the right foot.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach.

One of the main purposes of online and offline dating is to attract men and eventually find the guy who is right for you.

You may have to go on several dates with a number of men until you find a guy you’re interested in or attracted to.

Your first date is very important because it could be the beginning of a long term relationship that eventually leads to marriage.

It defines whether there will be other dates and whether you’ll have the opportunity to get to know the guy you’re with even better.

It’s important that you treat the first date seriously even if it later turns out that nothing comes of it.

The first date in particular can be awkward since you don’t know each other very well.

Even if you met on an online dating site and exchanged emails to get to know each other, there’s still that awkward period where you meet in person and get to know what the other person is like.

Put your best foot forward and dress for the occasion.

Look attractive.

Look sexy without going over the top.

Show respect for the guy you’re meeting by being on time.

Be enthusiastic about meeting him.

Smile and laugh.

Initiate conversation if you need to in order to avoid awkward silences.

If there is a spark or initial chemistry then there’s a excellent chance you’ll have a fun time and enjoy yourself.

But there are ways to sabotage a date without even knowing that you’re doing so.

Here are 6 tips on what to avoid doing on your first date:

1. Avoid Asking Too Many Questions

I realize you want to know everything about the guy as quickly as possible. It helps you decide whether or not he has relationship potential.

But you shouldn’t be approaching the first date as an opportunity to see whether the guy is husband potential. And you shouldn’t make him feel that way, either.

No guy likes to feel as though he’s applying for a job on a date and has to answer question after question.

Some questions, of course, are appropriate and expected.

Questions like: How long have you been single? Why did you break up? Have you been married before? How long was your last relationship?

Questions to avoid are those about his health or his finances. You’re not his doctor nor his banker. Answers to these types of questions always seem to emerge relatively quickly once you get talking to someone. So have patience and look for clues that he’s not healthy or his financial situation is disastrous – or better still that he’s strong as an ox and he’s financially sound.

Use the date to get to know him to see if there are common interests and whether he is worth getting to know better.

2. Avoid Arriving For Your Date Late

First impressions count – even in dating. Showing up late for your date can spoil an otherwise fun time especially if something specific has been planned – like an outing or a reservation has been made.

If you’re chronically late, plan to arrive early so you can ground yourself before meeting your new guy

3. Avoid Monopolizing The Conversation

Usually when getting to know a guy you want to share information back and forth.

There’s a give and take as you exchange information about each other.

You’ll want to know about his work, his hobbies, where he grew up, his education, and his family. Many or all of these things might have been covered if you met on an online dating site. (It’s usually best to keep some information in reserve so you have something to talk about when you meet.)

Don’t talk about yourself all the time. And don’t monopolize the conversation.

If you’ve got children or grandchildren don’t start pulling out their photos and gushing over them. He wants to get to know about you first.

Be sure to find out about him and then contribute your background so he knows more about you.

4. Avoid Talking About Past Relationships

Past relationships is one of the most common questions asked on a first date.

There is no bigger turnoff than talking about past failed relationships or the faults of your last ex-boyfriend or ex-husband.

Guys usually want to know the reason you’re divorced or why you broke up with your boyfriend but you don’t have to go into specific detail.

You don’t want to give the impression that you’re not in demand or that you were so wounded by your last relationship that you’d (almost) given up hope of finding someone.

A general response that things didn’t work out or that you grew apart is sufficient and much better than talking about the lying, cheating so-and-so that he was.

You don’t want to make it sound as though – or give the impression that – you’re bitter or that you hate men or that you’re emotionally cold towards men in particular after your last relationship experience.

5. Avoid Excessive Drinking

A woman who is drunk or tipsy is a turnoff to men. Not only that, it can be dangerous to her safety.

Know your limit (Patti Stanger of Millionaire Matchmaker suggests a two drink maximum, but even that might be too much for you) and keep a clear head.

Keep in mind that you don’t know this guy.

You don’t know if you can trust him and you don’t know how safe you are with him.

6. Avoid Professing Your Love Or Affection For Him

It seems strange to suggest this since it’s only a first date.

But if you’ve met each other online through an online dating service, chances are you’ve formed some “feelings” for him even before you meet him.

If he measures up to your idea of what he is like in real life, there’s a tendency to tell him how you feel about him.

To do so is a mistake.  It makes you sound needy which can turn a guy off.

Instead, play it cool.

The first date is a chance to get to know each other and to see if there is chemistry and potential compatibility.

So take it slowly. Be fun. Be playful. Be flirtatious. And have a good time.

If the first date is a success then there will be many more opportunities down the road to get closer to your guy and tell him how you feel about him.

How To Attract Men And Find Your Mr. Right

Finding the RIGHT guy isn’t easy.

And when you DO find him, you don’t want to spoil things and lose him.

But how do you determine whether he’s the guy of your dreams or a loser?

And how do you know how to keep him once you’ve been successful in catching him?

If you’re tired of being single and you’re ready to love one great guy then be sure to take a few minutes to check out the Girl Gets Great Guy System.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System shows you step-by-step how to find the guy who is right for you and how to keep him.

Click the following link for more information about the Girl Gets Great Guy System and how it can help you find the guy of your dreams.

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How To Make Your Man Adore You

“When your man adores you he stays faithful to you and has eyes only for you. These are just a few of the many techniques you can use to make your man adore you.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach how to make your man adore you

Once you’ve found a good man, it’s important to know how to melt his heart and make your man – whether he’s your boyfriend or your husband – appreciate you, love you, desire you, become “addicted” to you, and adore only you.

Being in love and having great chemistry and sizzling, hot sex aren’t the only ingredients that keep a relationship together and enduring.

There are other things that round out a relationship to create a unique bond and keep it strong year after year.

If you can master the following techniques – as well as other techniques I reveal in How To Inspire Your Man To Love, Cherish, Appreciate and Adore You – you have a much better chance of keeping your man happy, satisfied, and in love with you.

Your man wants someone who “gets” him – someone who knows him like no other person does.

If you “get” him and he knows it and feels it to his very core, you will form a close,unbreakable bond with him.

When your man adores you, he will feel closer to you and he will try to do things that make you happy.

Because ultimately, a man wants to make his wife or girlfriend happy. Men are “wired” that way. And he’ll go to great lengths to make a woman happy if he feels appreciated, respected, admired, and loved.

If you don’t believe me, think about what a man says when he gets involved with another woman. He says, “My wife (or girlfriend) doesn’t understand me.” And the “other woman” does. She does the things your man seeks from his relationship – the things that, if you can give them to him, will keep him happy and faithful to you.

1. Keep The Attraction Alive By Being Feminine

He was originally attracted to you because of your femininity…and probably your sexiness. After all, attraction is what makes him interested in you in the first place. Attraction is the reason he wants to get to know you better.

Even if you know how to drive a big rig or fix a car engine or swing a hammer on a construction site, he still looks for and desires your feminine and sexy side.

Show him your feminine side – whether it’s by wearing a sexy little black cocktail dress and high heels, or leather pants and high boots, or sexy lingerie.

Flirt with him. Be playful. Be sexy.

Keep the attraction alive by taking care of yourself, making sure you look attractive and smell wonderful, and wearing clothing and lingerie that accent your best features.

Maintain your grooming to a high standard. Looking comfy is one thing, looking frumpy is another thing entirely.

Eat healthy foods. Exercise. Watch your weight. Glow. Smile. Laugh. Be positive. Be affectionate.

Make him proud to have you on his arm.

Attraction isn’t all about sex and chemistry. Nor is it all about physical attraction.

There are many more elements that go into being attractive to a man and inspiring him to appreciate you and be the only woman he wants in his life.

Here are some more suggestions on what makes a man adore a woman…

2. Make Suggestions Sparingly

From time to time your man might ask you for your suggestions.

This is where you have to tread very carefully and lightly.

Because while he might want – and need – your suggestions, he might also resent or take offense when you give him suggestions (even when he has asked for your help!)

It makes no sense really, until you realize that most guys like to think they have all the answers and they know everything.

So when they ask someone for help it makes them feel inferior and feel like a failure.

For example, if your man has built his business from the ground up and he asks for your help he might feel that he has let you down and that your suggestions are a way of criticizing him.

When he asks for suggestions, tread softly. Don’t overdo it, even though you mean well. And even if he insists he wants or values your suggestions.

Above all else, don’t get caught up in the notion that you’re giving “constructive criticism.”

Criticism in any form is destructive. It can be hurtful. It can be demoralizing. It can break someone’s spirit and enthusiasm.

Instead of saying, “You’ve been doing that wrong. Do it this way” try something like…“Have you considered trying it this way to see if that gives you better results?” or “If it were me, I’d try this way.”

Of course, in any relationship or marriage it doesn’t have to be something you do or don’t do. Instead, there can be something missing.

It might be the romance. It might be the passion. It might be the lust. Or it might be something else.

Whatever it is, sometimes you just need a little guidance and new ideas to put the sizzle back and heighten the romance and passion and excitement.

After all, you came here looking for answers because there’s something that’s not right in your relationship.

If…

> You’re wondering if your man still loves you or even cares about you

> You’re feeling alone in your relationship

> You feel you’re the only one who does anything in the relationship and he’s not pulling his weight

> The romance and passion have disappeared from your relationship

> You love your man but he’s clueless about you and your wants, needs, and desires

and you want him to love you again or show more love towards you…

…then click the following link for How To Inspire Your Man To Love, Cherish, Appreciate and Adore You and discover how to capture and recapture your man’s heart!

After all, wouldn’t it be wonderful if there were more romance and passion, more love and caring, more touching and affection, more harmony and peace in your relationship so you feel loved and special all over again, just like it was when you and your man first met and started dating?

3.  Understand His Needs  

If you haven’t guessed it by now, your man has needs.

Some of those needs will be different from those you have.

Others will be the same.

Many of those needs will come as no surprise to you.

He needs sex and intimacy.

He needs to be loved, appreciated, and adored by you.

He needs your respect.

He needs your support so that he knows you have his back.

He needs someone who understands him.

He needs time alone in his Man Den.

He needs time to do his own thing – whether they’re hobbies or sports.

He needs time to hang out with his buddies.

His needs are very important to him.

If his needs are fulfilled he will feel satisfied and not seek them elsewhere.

4.  Treat Him Right

Treat him as though he is the most intelligent, loving, funny, loyal, and attractive man in the world.

After all, there are things about him that you admire, respect, and like about him, otherwise you would never have fallen in love with him in the first place.

Make him feel desired and wanted…the way you would want to be treated.

5. Don’t Judge Him, Stand By Him

Avoid being like a critical parent.

He doesn’t want someone to tell him when he’s done something wrong – that just makes him feel like a little boy who’s been naughty or bad.

He’s looking for a partner, someone who is by his side and who supports him.

Sometimes that can be difficult – especially if he makes silly (or even stupid) decisions.

Ultimately, though, a man wants his girlfriend or wife to be his biggest fan. He wants someone who can cheer him on and who will stick by him through thick and thin.

6. Don’t Disrespect Him

A man doesn’t want to feel disrespected.

In fact, being respected by the woman he loves is very important to him.

Respect his right to have beliefs and values that are different from yours rather than ridiculing them or scoffing at them.

Avoid looking for ways to capitalize on opportunities to belittle or humiliate or embarrass him and that make him feel small and unappreciated.

7. Make Him Feel Loved, Valued, And Appreciated

When he’s least expecting it*, go up to him or go up behind him, wrap your arms around him, give him a big hug, kiss him and tell him how much you love him and value him and appreciate him in your life.

He’ll be thrilled to hear your words of love!

(*A word of caution: This technique can be very distracting. Don’t do this when he’s concentrating on something like a computer program or game or working intently on something like a project or using power tools or fixing the car.)

There are many more techniques you can use to make your man adore you.

Keep in mind, though, that these tips are just the beginning.

By using these – and many more – techniques you’ll go a long way in keeping your man happy and true to you.

A savvy woman knows how to treat her man so he has eyes only for her.

She knows the secrets that make her man happy that she’s in his life.

She doesn’t have just one or two secrets, though.

She knows dozens and dozens of ways to love, appreciate, and excite her man and make him feel like he’s the luckiest guy in the world.

Best of all, she uses these secrets all the time in subtle ways that work like magic on her man.

If your boyfriend or husband is…

> cold

> distant

> unloving

> or has shut down and created an emotional wall

and you want him to love you again or you want him to be more loving…

…then click the following link for How To Inspire Your Man To Love, Cherish, Appreciate and Adore You and discover how to capture and recapture your man’s heart!

You’ll find 101 ways – the secrets savvy women know – to add more love, respect, passion, and excitement to your relationship. Plus, you’ll find ways to ignite the passion in your relationship so he desires you, wants you, and can’t live without you. (Who doesn’t want that in their relationship?)

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How To Attract A Man

“Sometimes the problem isn’t about being able to attract a man. It’s about being approachable so the RIGHT man can get you know you.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coachhow to attract a man

Knowing how to attract a man is a common problem many women have.

Surprisingly, attracting men isn’t really that hard to do.

Often the problem is not about knowing how to attract men.

It’s knowing how to attract a man who is right for you.

It’s knowing how to attract a great guy who you’d like to have a relationship with…and perhaps even marry down the road if things work out.

First, examine why you find it hard to attract a man because it might be something that you’re doing and you don’t even realize it.

Are You Finding It Difficult To Attract A Man?

When you say you can’t attract men you might mean that men don’t approach you.

If that’s the case then you need to think about WHY men don’t approach you.

It could be that you’re so attractive that men automatically think you’re unavailable.

As well, you should also consider whether you’re approachable.

If you hang out with a lot of guys or friends, then a guy who is interested in you won’t approach you because he’s intimidated. He wants to approach you when you’re alone, not when you’re with a friend or a group of friends.

Do you find that men don’t speak to you in a way that signals that they are interested in you?

If that’s the case, then you might be Friend Zoned – and that can be a difficult situation to break out of.

Usually, being Friend Zoned occurs when guys see you as one of them – not as an attractive woman…even though you are.

It might be the way you dress. It might be the way you speak. It might be the things you do that are masculine instead of feminine.

You might ride dirt bikes with the best of them.

You might fix cars and drive hot rods.

You might drive a 4×4 truck and go muddin’ in the back roads.

You might like going hunting and fishing with the guys.

If you’re doing things just like one of the boys, then guys usually won’t see you as a romantic interest but rather as a buddy.

It doesn’t mean you stop doing the things you love or stop hanging out with the guys.

It just means you have to be feminine and show to the guys you hang out with that you’re an attractive woman.

And finally, do you find you don’t know what to say when you meet a guy who you’re interested in?

Being tongue tied isn’t all that unusual – especially when you see an attractive man. If you’re tongue tied it hinders your ability to approach the guy and start a conversation – and that can lead to missed opportunities.

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Turnoffs That Don’t Attract A Man

While it’s always good to know how to attract a man, you should also know some things that repel a man.

These are things he finds unattractive in a woman.

For example….

1. A woman who is needy or desperate is a huge turnoff to a man.

This is the woman who is too eager. She has no mystery. Everything is an open book – which is not necessarily a bad thing but it’s as though she wants an instant romance or love affair so she can be in a relationship.

This is the type of woman who needs a man in her life – either because she’s at that age where she wants to be married and have children or she’s insecure and needs a male presence in her life.

A guy might not know it from looking at her but once he’s talked to her for a while he’ll sense her desperation for wanting to have a man in her life.

(The secret? The needy woman has to be more independent but still be feminine.)

2. A woman who is too independent repels men.

This is the very opposite of a needy woman.

This can sometimes be the woman who says, “I’m attractive and I have a nice personality. And yet, men don’t approach me or ask me out on dates.”

The independent woman shows her masculine side.

She wears “masculine” clothes (like business suits or pant suits) or works in an industry or has a career that pits her against men all the time.

She’s proud of the fact that she can take care of herself and hold her own against men.

And there’s nothing wrong with that at all.

Trouble is, men want a woman who is feminine.

A woman who shows her feminine side.

A woman who dresses up in a sexy dress and high heels.

A woman who takes care of her hair and makeup.

That’s what attracts a man to a woman and what turns him on.

Not only that, men want to feel useful.

They want to feel that they can take care of a woman and please her.

The independent woman doesn’t show her femininity nor does she allow men to help her which is a BIG mistake.

(The secret? The independent woman has to switch off her “masculine” side and switch on her “feminine” side.)

3. Being a drama queen is unattractive to men.

Guys really don’t like drama at all.

They prefer a woman who is cool under pressure and remains positive and fun to be with.

The woman who complains about the smallest things or creates a scene or makes a fuss will find herself very quickly without a man.

(The secret? The drama queen has to chill out, remain cool, and not let things bother her.)

For the top 5 turnoffs for men you’re invited to download my FREE Dating Mistakes Special Report here.

Three Things You Can Do If You Want To Attract A Man

 

 1. Make Yourself Approachable

Men look for signs before approaching a woman.

If she’s at a club with her friends most men are intimidated to approach a woman who they are attracted to.

If a woman is sitting alone a man is more likely to approach her.

But just being approachable isn’t always enough.

You might have to encourage a guy to approach you.

If you see someone you like or you’re interested in, look at him and smile at him.

This is a signal to him that you’re interested in him. (And hopefully he’ll take the hint and introduce himself.)

 2. Build Your Confidence

Have you ever seen a confident woman around men? She talks. She flirts. She laughs. She has men hanging practically on her every word.

What makes this type of woman so confident around men is that she knows what to do and say.

And it’s that confidence that’s attractive to men – and attracts men to her.

Of course, some women are naturals when it comes to being confident. They know what to do to attract men.

They’ve learned their flirting skills.

They know what works and what doesn’t work.

If you feel unsure about your flirting skills then you have to develop them.

That involves learning how to approach men instead of waiting for them to approach you.

That means you also have to develop conversational skills.

 3. Build Your Conversational Skills

Have you ever noticed that when you see a cute or attractive guy, you get tongue tied and you can’t think of a thing to talk about?

For many women, that’s perfectly normal.

The quickest and easiest way to overcome being tongue tied is to talk to men all the time – whether or not you’re attracted to them.

Talk to them in grocery stores, in lineups, at the bank, at the coffee shop. Make small talk just to get things started.

Talk about the weather. Talk about the items on the menu. Talk about something that strikes you as funny.

This gets you into the habit of being approachable and interesting because you’ve taken the initiative to start a conversation.

Then, when you do see an attractive guy you’re interested in you’ll be able to start a conversation quickly and easily and see where it goes from there.

In the Girl Gets Great Guy System, I talk about how to be approachable in greater depth because it’s one of the most important skills to have when you’re trying to attract the right man for you.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who wants to find her one true love.

It’s for the woman who:

– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Never seems to be able to keep a good man for long
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
– Wants to have more dates with quality men

Click the following link to find out more about the Girl Gets Great Guy System

How To Get The Guy

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Places To Meet Single Men

“Be proactive. Get out there and meet men. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a spectator or participator. The important thing is to meet guys. You just have to make sure they’re quality guys. Meeting quality men is one of the most effective ways to find your Mr. Right.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coachplaces to meet single men

Many women approach dating and relationships with a single goal – to find a good man as soon as possible. And that’s perfectly understandable.

After all, being involved in a relationship with a guy is what you want when you make the decision to look for a good man.

But it can put guys off if you come on too strong. They sense something isn’t quite right. They might even think you’re desperate. So you have to be more subtle in the way you approach it.

Instead of approaching having a relationship as your goal, I’d suggest changing your focus to this…

Meeting a guy is all about getting to know him as a friend.

So you approach guys as someone you’d like to get to know as a friend…at least at first.

(But, for goodness sake, don’t say to a guy – especially with online dating – that you want to be friends first. It’s a huge turnoff for guys.)

This doesn’t mean you put him in the Friend Zone.

It means you start out by thinking of him as a friend and getting to know him.

Because, ultimately, if you do get into a relationship, the friendship you have is just as important as the sex.

Probably more so because the sex can diminish over time but a true friendship will last and endure through good and bad times.

This casual approach can lead to dating and, if it’s the right guy, a relationship…and even marriage.

Keep in mind that the men you meet might not be what you’re looking for. But some of those men might introduce you to The One because they may be friends with The One or related to him.

I realize that you lead a busy life with work and family and life and that online dating has its advantages – it’s convenient, you don’t have to dress up, and you can stay anonymous.

But there’s nothing like getting out and meeting guys and seeing them in their element. You’ll see them do things they are passionate about.

You’ll have an opportunity to talk to them and ask them questions and get to know them.

Not all of these places that I suggest will be available to you. And you don’t have to be involved in every one of the activities either.

The point is to be aware of the possibilities available and I want to motivate you to take action to meet great guys. The more guys you meet the better your chances of meeting the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Many of these events you’ll have to attend by yourself. With some of them you might want to take a wing woman with you, but it’s more difficult for guys to approach you if you’re with someone else.

And keep this in mind: Those activities or classes that involve instruction are some of the best places to get to know guys because guys love to show how much they know about a certain topic.

Here is a short list of places to meet single men:

1. Luxury car dealership parties – Talk to guys who go to these events even if they’re married. Married men have sons or friends who might be single and available.

2. Join or watch a co-ed softball, volleyball, or bowling league

3. Take a kayaking, (motor) boating, or sailing class

4. Realtor parties – These aren’t open houses. These are parties where realtors press the flesh and pitch prospective buyers. Talk to guys who go to these even if they’re married

5. Take a hunting, archery, or an automotive repair class. You might not know a thing about these topics but you’ll find guys willing to share their knowledge.

6. Golf – Take lessons, visit golf stores, attend golf tournaments and chat with guys whether single or not (the married ones might have a cute son or they might have single friends)

7. Home improvement stores – Home Depot and Lowes are two of the biggest stores for home improvements. Walk around the aisles especially the tools, plumbing, and lumber sections of the stores. Tradesmen are usually at these stores early in the morning. Do-it-yourselfers usually shop on the weekends.

8. Sporting goods stores – REI, L.L. Bean, and Mountain Equipment Co-op are a few of the big names in sporting goods in the U.S. and Canada. But there are many more specialty stores as well. Hang out where men are likely to be, especially the fishing, hunting, baseball, cycling, and camping sections

9. Investment, real estate, and business seminars – Sit next to or strike up a conversation with (single) guys

10. Attend local sporting events – especially baseball, soccer, hockey, and basketball

11. Go to the dog park – If you don’t have a dog, volunteer to take a friend’s dog to the park (or go with your friend) so you can meet (male) dog lovers

12. Visit computer and electronic stores or join a computer club and ask guys for their suggestions and recommendations about computers, hard drives, thumb drives, laptops, notebooks, cell phones, TVs, stereos, and other electronic equipment. This is geek and nerd territory but you’ll find nice guys who will be happy to help you.

13. Join a wine tasting club or attend an open house if they have one. Remember: This is to meet guys, not get drunk or get a DUI. So be sure to keep your drinking to a minimum. If in doubt, get a taxi or have a friend drive you home.

14. Join a political group or be a volunteer – You’ll meet enthusiastic men who share similar political views that you do

15. Attend Chamber of Commerce or business networking events and network with business owners. Attend their silent auctions and get involved in projects or be on committees.

16. Volunteer in your community to meet men who want to serve their community or contribute money to worthy causes. These can include charitable organizations, fund raisers for national campaigns, or local charities.

17. Join a skiing or snowboarding club. Dress the part in an attention-getting outfit.

18. Join a backpacking, travel, or camping group or club. This is a great opportunity to ask questions about equipment and places to travel to.

This list is just the beginning…

In the Girl Gets Great Guy System I show you many more places where you can find quality men who are looking for a wonderful woman like you.

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Signs Of Falling In Love With A Guy

26801107_s“Falling in love and being in love are two of the most wonderful feelings that can happen to a person.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach

You meet a new guy and you start dating him.

You try and keep it light and casual and upbeat but something starts changing with the way you feel about him.

It might be that you’re starting to fall for him.

In fact, you might even be smitten with him.

And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It’s such a wonderful feeling when you’re in love.

Here are 7 signs you’re falling in love with him…

1. You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him And About Having A Future Together

Virtually every new relationship has a certain excitement about it.

Things are new and fresh and interesting.

You think about him constantly.

You smile at the very thought of him.

You day dream about him.

And you wonder what it would be like to have him in your life every day – to wake up beside him and to look at him over breakfast or dinner.

2. You Miss Him And Feel Lonely When You’re Not With Him

You get used to having him in your life and you enjoy his company.

And you get used to talking to him and having fun with him.

You like sitting beside him and watching TV together…or going to the park with him…or pottering around the garden together.

You like his hugs and kisses and words of endearment.

You like holding hands with him.

You like the way he teases you and compliments you.

You like his jokes and you like laughing with him.

When you’re not with him – or he’s not with you – you feel lonely.

You want him around all the time – or at the very least you want to see him as much as possible to the exclusion of other things – so you can talk to him and do things with him and see his smile.

3. You Start Dating Him Exclusively

Other guys you’ve been dating pale in comparison to him. He just seems so manly and romantic and he makes you happy.

You want to focus all of your time on him and you plan to spend all of your free time with him.

This is a big step because it might even mean you are both exclusive at this point. Or it might mean you’re committed to him but he hasn’t made that commitment to you yet.

4. Your Life Seems Happier Since You’ve Met Him And Started Dating Him

Sometimes life seems to be full of hassles and you feel so stressed out.

But now…things don’t upset you as much as they used to because you’re “in love.”

Your outlook on life is happier and things just seem better now that you’ve met this great guy.

5. You Ignore Or Overlook His Faults

Admittedly you’re biased here because you’re into him and you’re attracted to him.

Even his quirks and the unusual things he does have a certain charm to them that endear him to you.

In fact, his faults might seem kind of cute to you at this point in the relationship.

6. You Want To Be Intimate With Him

This can be a huge step for you.

You’re attracted to him, there’s that “spark,” and you want him.

But you have to be careful even if your desire for him is strong – you don’t give yourself to him just because he’s hot and there’s crackling chemistry between the two of you.

If he hasn’t made a commitment to you to date exclusively then this is one area where you hold back until he’s ready to make that commitment.

This isn’t about teasing him or frustrating him – it’s about being smart in catching a man and keeping him.

If you’re intimate with him too early in the relationship you risk losing him. That’s because his curiosity will be satisfied and he might move on to another woman.

7. You Start Changing Or Making Changes To Please Him

You might change the color of your hair or the length of your hair because he likes it a certain way and you want to please him.

You might dress a certain way to please him. You might wear certain lingerie that he’s particularly fond of seeing you wear.

You might start reading books or listening to music or watching movies that he likes or has mentioned or recommended to you.

You make him your priority rather than going to the gym or hanging out with your friends.

Any of these signs can mean you’re falling for a guy and that you’re in love with him.

The challenge though is to carry on with your life rather than making your new guy your whole life.

Falling in love is a wonderful feeling. But don’t overlook the signs that he has boyfriend potential instead of being just a short term distraction.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

Download Blaine’s FREE Special Report, 7 Best Places To Find Mr. Right, his exclusive list of places where great guys hang out.

Signs He’s Boyfriend Material

“Look for these signs he’s a great guy with boyfriend potential.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coachhearts

What you’ve invariably learned about love is that a relationship that initially looks promising doesn’t mean it will last. Sometimes the chemistry isn’t as strong as you thought. Other times you discover you’re not as compatible as you thought.

Just look at the Bachelorette TV Show as an example.

It’s so easy to fall in love with a handsome, funny, charismatic man.

The locations and settings are romantic.

There are candle-lit dinners.

There’s attraction.

There’s instant chemistry.

There’s passion.

There are fireworks.

There are private and public appearances with musicians, bands, and celebrities.

There are fun things to do either as a group or on a one-on-one date.

There’s the fantasy suite where the Bachelorette and her final choices “get to know each other” better.

It’s like you’re in a relationship bubble of romance and passion.

It’s so easy to fall in love when you feel the strong attraction and the chemistry.

The heart rules.

The reality, though can be totally different.

There’s the TV relationship that suddenly turns from seeing each other often to being in a long distance relationship because the Bachelorette and the “winner” live in different cities.

There can be the family dynamics where the parents and siblings are skeptical and don’t fully accept the Bachelorette’s new boyfriend.

There can be career situations where one has to give up their job or career to be with the other if they decide to live together.

The distance and time apart becomes a problem and decisions have to be made about who has to move so they can be together.

Invariably time will tell whether there’s a true connection and true compatibility and whether this is a lasting relationship or one that fizzles out.

As you know, when it comes to love and relationships there are no guarantees.

But there are clues that increase your chances of finding a great guy…and knowing you have found a great guy.

It’s not that difficult to decide if a guy has boyfriend potential. Because if you’re feeling the chemistry and you like him and he’s nice then chances are he’s a great guy to have as a boyfriend.

Sometimes when you’re falling in love or you’re initially smitten with a guy, you need to take a step back to look at things objectively. If you feel deep down that something is not quite right then listen to your instincts because chances are something isn’t right.

You’ll generally have two situations with relationships:

1. You’re just getting to know a guy but you haven’t moved beyond that to be considered boyfriend and girlfriend in an exclusive relationship

2. You’re beyond the beginning stages of getting to know each other and you’re moving into or you’re already in an exclusive or monogamous relationship. By this time you should be boyfriend and girlfriend although there will be situations where it’s not as well defined even though you spend time together.

If you have any doubts that the guy you’re interested in is boyfriend material, then here are some signs a guy could make a good boyfriend (think of this a your “boyfriend material checklist” or “good guy checklist”).

1. He’s Not A Player And He Wants A Relationship

Players usually have a reputation for being a “player.” They could even be pickup artists.

They’re usually easy to spot once you get to know them a little bit.

They frequent clubs and bars for the night life and the action.

So if you’re into that scene as well, then chances are you’re going to run into a player.

They’re smooth. They have good pickup lines. They know what to say to “woo” women.

However, players usually have short(er) term relationships. They might play the field. They might be into one-night stands.

They might even have a large number of women who are their friends.

Players usually grow weary of their existing relationship and look for someone “better.” So their investment in the relationship might not be as much as yours because they know it will eventually end and they will move on.

A guy with boyfriend potential is a good guy. A nice guy. In a way, that might even seem boring.

But he’s definitely not a rebel or a bad boy.

He doesn’t play games and he wants to be in a relationship.

He doesn’t want to play the field and you’re not another notch in his bedpost.

2. You Can Rely On Him And Trust What He Says

His word is his bond. You can rely on what he says.

He’s not the type who says one thing and does the exact opposite.

If he says he’ll do something you can trust that he’ll keep his word.

3. He Makes You Feel Happy When You’re With Him

He has a calming influence on you. It’s exciting to be with him because he’s a fun guy and he makes you feel good about yourself.

He makes you feel safe and desired.

Best of all, there are no pretenses – you can be yourself around him and he’s himself around you.

4. Your Friends And Family Like Him

The rebel doesn’t care what others think about him. And that can cause unnecessary friction with those who are closest to you.

There’s nothing more stressful and upsetting than knowing your friends and family don’t like your boyfriend.

Sometimes they’re wrong. But chances are they see something about him that you don’t – and it’s not a good sign.

A great boyfriend will treat your friends and family well and get to know them.

You know you’ve got a keeper when your friends and family aren’t telling you to ditch him because he’s no good for you or you deserve better.

Better still if your girlfriends ask you to tell them if you and your guy ever break up because they think he’s hot.

5. He Knows What’s Important To You

He listens to you and knows what you like and don’t like.

He knows what’s important to you and he respects that. He doesn’t put you down, criticize you, or make you feel stupid or inadequate because you have certain beliefs or morals or tastes.

6. He Thinks You’re Hot Even When You’re Not Feeling (or Looking) Hot

Chances are you have those days when you feel fat or you just don’t feel pretty.

But a great guy makes you feel pretty by the way he treats you and the things he says to you.  That’s the type of guy you want to have around.

He makes you feel good about yourself.

To him, you’re hot, no matter how you feel about yourself. And that’s a good thing.

7. He’s Your Friend

He’s the type of guy you can confide in.

He’s the type of guy you can talk to about (almost) anything.

He’s there for you when things get tough.

He’s there to encourage you and cheer you on.

He’s there to listen to you and give you advice if you ask for it.

8. He Cares

He cares about you.

He cares how you feel.

He cares about your feelings.

He cares about what’s important to you.

He’s there to support you.

He has your back.

And while all these little factors might at first not seem very important, how he feels about you (now and as time goes on) is a major factor in determining whether he’ll make a great boyfriend.

You might not find all of these qualities in the guy you’re interested in. But the more qualities you do find, the better the chances are that he IS boyfriend material and he is someone you should seriously consider to have in your life.

Is He Boyfriend Material That Can Lead To
Being Your Husband?

The next step, after dating for a while, and getting to know each other better, is to decide whether he’s a keeper – the man you might want to eventually marry.

Because in the early stages of dating everything is fresh and new.

It’s exciting.

It’s thrilling.

It’s exhilarating.

It’s about dreaming of a future with someone you fall in love with.

As times goes on though, you’ll discover things about him that you like and don’t like.

Things that were “cute” at first could become irritants later on.

Or they could just be things that you accept because your love for him grows deeper and deeper.

Most importantly, though, you’ll discover whether you’re compatible or not.

Compatibility is one of the keys to a lasting relationship.

It determines whether you can get along with each other, whether you enjoy being with each other, and whether you grow together as a couple.

In many cases, these early stages of a relationship can be the most challenging.

You see he has “boyfriend potential” but you get caught up in the attraction and the lust and passion.

That’s what Mother Nature intended to happen.

Are You And Your Boyfriend Compatible?

Of course, there’s another side to relationships.

It’s about getting to know each other and understanding who that person is at the very core of their being.

Ultimately, you have to determine whether he’s the person you want in your life.

You’ll be asking yourself questions (and looking for answers to questions) like…

Is he a nice person?

Is he kind?

Does he fly off the handle, get moody and start arguments, or show road rage?

Does he show empathy and gentleness to you and others?

Does he help others or is he selfish?

Would he be a good husband who would keep you safe and look after you?

Would he be a good father and raise children you’d be proud of?

In the initial stages of getting to know each other, things always seem so positive.

He’s your dream guy.

He can do no wrong.

But that’s because you don’t really know him very well.

What issues does he bring to the relationship from his past?

How was he raised?

How has he been treated by women in past relationships?

Why did his past relationships fail?

What lessons has he learned from his past relationships?

Is he looking for a partner or arm candy?

Will he be a fantastic provider but be so busy with his career that you always come second and feel lonely and unloved in your relationship (or marriage)?

Knowing how your man reacts in different situations is also important.

Does he pull away and withdraw?

Does he go cold and distant?

Does he push you away when you want to be amorous?

Is he controlling?

Does he do things that hurt or disturb you?

These are the questions that can only be answered with time as you interact with him and get to know him.

How To Make Your Boyfriend Adore You

If you’ve found a man you want as your boyfriend or you want to spend the rest of your life with, then you have to know how to KEEP him.

You have to be the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with.

Truth is, you’re in competition with other women who are vying for his attention and affection – even when he is in a committed relationship.

If he loses interest in you it might be because he’s more interested in other women.

But a man who loves, cherishes, appreciates and adores you has eyes only for you.

It’s not enough to be sexy.

It’s not enough to be a tigress in bed and be able to turn him on and inflame his desire.

Men not only think differently than women, they have a “checklist” of what is important to them when they select a life partner.

If you’ve ever wondered why a man breaks up with the woman he’s been dating for a long time and then marries someone else (usually shortly after), it’s because the “other woman” did something that made him choose her over all other women.

In fact, it’s very likely the woman he married knew the secrets to understanding her man so that he adored her.

If you want to increase your chances that your boyfriend will love you and adore you, then find out how to inspire him to love, cherish, appreciate and adore you here.

How To Make Your Man Adore You

 

GirlGetsGreatGuy.com – the site that gives dating advice to women and shows them how to find their Mr. Right – wishes to thank Stephen Gibson for the beautiful photo used in this article. Image credit: Beautiful valentine chocolate hearts image #1254000 at freeimages.com

Online Dating – The Hidden Dangers Of Online Dating

“Sometimes you get so swept up with online dating and the “relationship” you form with someone online that you forget that it’s not real. The reality is that you don’t know that person very well – if at all – in real life.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach.online dating

Online dating is an effective way to find a great guy. And many women do have success finding a great guy using online dating..

But online dating does come with its hazards that you should be aware of.

Other than the usual romantic scams that I talk about there are other dangers with online dating.

Here’s how the typical scenario goes…

You throw up your online dating profile, add a couple of photos, and hope that someone will respond to your profile.

And, usually someone does.

In fact, you might have a number of guys who are interested in getting to know you.

Some of those guys you will “reject” quickly for various reasons – they’re too young, they’re too old, you don’t like their photo, you don’t think you have enough in common with them, or there’s something in their profile description that turns you off.

Sometimes, you’ll reject a guy simply because he doesn’t have a photo on his profile. Many women say in their description that they won’t correspond with guys who don’t have a photo. Now, the theory is that if there is no photo then the guy is hiding something. Many women assume he’s married or in a relationship – which may or may not be true.

Don’t instantly reject a guy just because there is no photo on his profile. He may be a very private person and be willing to send you his photos in an email if you ask him (just be careful that it’s not a scammer and he has a virus attached to his photos.)

Usually, though, after corresponding with these guys or talking to them on the phone you’ll know whether or not to continue with them to see if they’re boyfriend material.

Ultimately, you’ll very likely focus on two or three guys who have caught your interest.

These are the guys who warrant most of your time in your online search for a great guy.

These are the guys you’ve “qualified” to see if they’re boyfriend material.

But here’s the hidden danger of online dating…

Feelings Evolve

You start emailing back and forth with a great guy or two. Then you will probably use chat and move to the phone or go onto Skype.

When you meet someone online and start to email and/or chat back and forth there is what I call a virtual bond that occurs.

This person takes on an image in your mind of the perfect man. He’s funny. He’s fun. He’s interesting. He says the right things. He’s romantic. He becomes real to you even though you’ve never met him in real life.

What you don’t know is whether he’s saying those things to other women. You don’t know if he really is single and available.

And you see him at his best – at the prearranged time you both schedule to talk to each other. You don’t see him under pressure from the stresses at work. You don’t know what his health is like. You don’t know what his finances are like. In fact, you know very little about the real person.

Not surprisingly, many people – both men and women – “fall in love” online. First it’s hugs using emoticons. Then it’s hugs and kisses. And then at some point they say they “love” the person even though they’ve never met each other in person.

You might even get risque and share semi-nude or nude photos. Or you might start talking about sex and what you like and don’t like when it comes to sex and intimacy.

You start calling each other terms of endearment like “sweetie” or “honey” or “darling” just as you would in real life.

You’re smitten with him.

This is the infatuation stage where you start falling for him. And yet it’s not real because you haven’t even met him.

But here’s the trap you fall into:

The “relationship” is a virtual relationship – one that isn’t real except in your mind. It’s based on fantasy and driven by your hope that it works into something that is tangible and real.

You don’t even know if the photo you’ve seen on his online profile is accurate. And even if you talk to each other on Skype, you might be in for a surprise – he might be heavier or slimmer than you thought. In fact, you might even overlook things that normally would disqualify a guy from being boyfriend material.

Even so, you begin to get your hopes up that he’s the guy for you – especially if he’s funny and he has similar interests to yours.

Your feelings develop. He becomes important in your life even though you’ve never met.

And because your feelings develop you get emotional and upset if he doesn’t send you an email or he doesn’t phone you when you expect him to.

And chances are you become a “victim” of…

Male Posturing

In online dating, male posturing is where a guy tries to impress you. He could say things about his work, his hobbies, or his accomplishments, or things he’s particularly proud of.

It could also be about how he sees himself – if he’s a romantic his overtures to you will be romance based – cards, notes, sayings, terms of affection, terms of endearment.

His male posturing can also include future plans. For example, it might be where he plans to take you – a vacation spot or hotel or restaurant – when you meet.

This is all part of the courtship ritual.

But in the online dating world it has a powerful effect because it plays on your emotions and imagination.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing but it’s important to remember that it’s not reality because it’s not as though you’re a “couple” at this point. You don’t know how you will interact with him in real life.

He might even go into “hero” mode – where he’s so taken with you that he wants to impress you by doing things that make you feel closer to him or somewhat obligated to him.

For example, he might send you gifts.

Or he might arrange to take you away on a small vacation.

This is male posturing where he’s trying to win you over so that you see him as your hero.

You might even build him up so much that you begin to have doubts about whether you’re “good enough” for him and whether he’ll be happy with you. And in some cases, he reveals to you that he’s not sure he’s “good enough” for you.

But, the problem at this point – even if you’re emailing and chatting and talking on the phone and getting along famously – is that there is no real life chemistry.

You don’t really know much about this guy at this point other than what he’s told you.

You don’t know his habits or beliefs.

You don’t know his friends or his family.

You don’t know how he will treat you. In fact, what he shows you in his emails and chats could be only one facet of his total personality.

The Real Tests – Chemistry, Compatibility, and Time

The real tests to a beginning relationship are chemistry, compatibility, and time.

Chemistry is something that you can’t change. It’s either there or not. Your feelings for him might change over time but chemistry is still an important element in the relationship unless you’re not interested in having sex or being intimate with him in any way and you just want a companion and a friendship – which most people on online dating sites don’t want.

You have to see if there is compatibility – that you enjoy each other’s company and that you enjoy doing things together.

Time is the ultimate test.

It takes time to know someone. It takes time to see how they are around their friends, family, colleagues, and even strangers.

It takes time to see another person’s moods and how they react when they are stressed or frustrated.

It takes time to see how this new guy in your life will treat you – whether he helps you or looks after you when you’re sick with a cold or flu or other disease.

It takes time to see whether you’re happy with him – whether he supports you in what you do, whether he’s romantic, whether he’s a good lover.

Consider this:

You might not like the smell of his cologne.

You might not like his habits.

You might not like how he talks to you.

You might not like the way he cuts his hair…or trims his beard.

You might not like how he eats his food…or what seasonings and condiments he puts on his food.

You might not like the foods he eats.

Until you have spent time with him and you get to know him and his friends and his family, you won’t know what he is like. You have to see how he interacts with others – not just you.

And when you do meet, guess what?

The clock is wound back to zero. Because even though you know him well on the internet, you don’t know him at all in real life.

So, it’s like starting over. You start over by getting to know him. Only this time it’s in real life, not in virtual life.

It’s not like you are best friends where you can pick up from where you last saw each other as though there were no gap in time.

This is entirely different.

You “know” this man in a different – virtual – way.

Key Barriers To A Blossoming Relationship

There are two main barriers to a blossoming relationship when you’re involved with online dating.

First is the fact that you think you know a guy so well online that you trust him.

And that can lead to certain consequences.

For example, you might have sex with him too early – simply because you’ve been emailing and talking on the phone so much that you have a connection.

And if you have sex with him too early that could be a mistake and ruin a promising relationship.

Remember: Until you meet and spend time with each other you’re not in a relationship and you’re not exclusive.

It’s always wise to take normal safety precautions until you know who he is and what he’s all about.

Another barrier to a blossoming relationship is distance.

Online dating lends itself to both local and long distance relationships.

But long distance relationships can be the hardest to endure because once you meet in person you’ll want to see more and more of that person if you click and there is chemistry.

Jumping To Wrong Conclusions

Another very real danger of online dating is that it’s easy to jump to conclusions about someone.

And many of those conclusions usually don’t have any basis in fact. Instead, they’re your imaginings.

For example: He doesn’t come online when he says he will. He doesn’t send as many emails to you. He doesn’t express his feelings to you. Or he has other “friends” who he chats with online.

When that happens you begin to wonder if he’s “faithful” to you or whether he’s getting cold feet or whether things are cooling off between the two of you and he’s starting to lose interest in you.

In fact, chances are you want an instant relationship. Or, at the very least, you want to speed the process up. You want him to profess his undying love to you. And that’s not possible – particularly if you’ve never met him and you haven’t even spent time with him – except online.

Keep in mind that relationships take time to develop and mature. There are limits to what he will say to you when he doesn’t know you. You might “love” him, but he’ll probably be more cautious about using the “L” word until he’s sure about how he feels about you.

The true test of a blossoming relationship – especially one that started with online dating – is getting to know someone in person and seeing if you fit into his life and he fits into your life. And that is something that can’t be rushed.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

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How To Respond If A Guy Phones You A Week Or Two After A Great First Date

how to inspire your man to adore you“Your attitude can make or break a promising relationship. In this dating advice for women article I explain your choices if a man doesn’t phone you shortly after going on a great date with you.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach.

What Every Woman Should Know About A Guy Who Doesn’t Phone After A Great Date

There are several reasons why a man doesn’t phone you after having a great first or second date with you.

If he does call a week or more after a great date then how you respond to him will determine whether there is potential for a relationship or not.

I’m going to give you ideas on how to react so you don’t blow your chances of missing out on a great guy.

When you meet a great guy and you’ve had a great first (or second) date you get your hopes up.

He seems to have many of the qualities you’re looking for in a guy. He’s attractive. He’s funny and personable. He’s interesting.

You think there’s a chance of a relationship and he might even be The One.

You’re willing to make him a priority and put most of your other activities on hold to get to know him better to see if things will develop.

Trouble is, you don’t know what he’s thinking. He may still be processing the date and trying to decide whether he wants to pursue things with you.

He might want to pursue things with you but his job (or other activity) takes precedence and time gets away from him.

And even if you think he could have picked up the phone or texted you or emailed you, some guys just don’t think that way. They put things off and before you know it a week or more has gone by.

You have to remember that with the first few dates – and until you’re in an exclusive relationship with him – you are NOT his number one priority unless he has virtually no life to speak of…or unless he is totally head-over-heels in love with you and completely infatuated with you (in which case he’d be contacting you a lot).

The first few weeks and even months are the “getting to know you” stage. Things are casual. And until things become more serious, you should assume he’s dating other women.

In the meantime, he has work. He has his friends. He has his activities and hobbies. He might even have a pet like a dog that comes before you (I’m sorry to say that, but that’s reality, because to some guys their dog is their best buddy and gets tons of attention.)

So you have to accept that you’re not a priority in his life (at least not right now) – you’re still someone he’s getting to know.

Admittedly, if he contacts you a week or two after a date, he’s either not showing much interest or he’s not very considerate or he’s inexperienced in dating.

But it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not attracted to you and doesn’t want to get to know you better.

Why He May Not Have Contacted You

It can be really confusing and frustrating can’t it? You go on a great date with a guy. You think there’s potential for something more and then you don’t hear from him. Or he promises to phone and then you don’t hear from him.

And a week or so later he resurfaces. It’s the classic “submarine syndrome” used by some guys.

There are at least six possible reasons why he hasn’t contacted you after a great date. Your difficulty is trying to determine what the REAL reason is.

1. He’s a lazy dater and wants you to contact him. This is a red flag. Don’t chase him. He’s the man and he should be chasing you. He could be egotistical and think he’s God’s gift to women and women should chase him. Or he could be lazy and doesn’t want to do the work that’s required to get to know you. Or he could be shy and be nervous about contacting you.

You have to decide which of these options applies to him. You should be able to tell that from your interaction with him on the date. How did he act? Was he outgoing? Did he drop hints that he went on lots of dates or lots of women were interested in him? Did he seem hesitant and shy? Or did he seem nonchalant or laid back to the point where he had a take it or leave it attitude and didn’t seem that interested unless you did all of the work?

2. He didn’t feel chemistry or a spark on the date and decides not to pursue you. (There’s nothing you can do in this situation and it’s best to move on)

Sometimes a guy will say that he had a great time with you but in truth he didn’t feel any connection and while he thought you were nice he really doesn’t want to pursue a relationship with you.

If there’s chemistry and a spark initially chances are he’s going to be into you. He’s going to be flirting and having fun and making sure you have fun. And, if he’s on the ball, he’s going to tell you he’s interested in you and he’d like to see you again.

3. You said or did something that turned him off. (Again, there’s nothing you can do so you might as well look for another guy)

You probably won’t know if you did this or what you did to turn him off, but if you’re not getting a lot of second or third dates that could be a clue you’re doing something wrong.

4. There is a legitimate reason why he hasn’t called.

An emergency or crazy work schedule or time conflict fall into this category.

Although rare, sometimes there are legitimate reasons why a guy hasn’t called. Be open to the idea that this might be one of those times.

Keep this in mind: A great date – and a promising relationship – can turn into a disaster depending on how you respond to him if he does contact you a week or two after the date.

5. You’re not right for him.

Sometimes you can have a great first or second date with a guy but things fizzle out. This happens because after the date he’s thinking about things. He’s future projecting a bit. He’s trying to figure out what it would be like to have you in his life.

Maybe you’re sociable and he’s not. Maybe you like to hang with friends and family and he doesn’t. Maybe you like adventure and you like to travel and he doesn’t.

He thinks of these things and they determine whether he thinks a relationship with you is worth pursuing. If, for some reason, he doesn’t feel you’re compatible with each other he’s not going to contact you.

Keep in mind that a guy doesn’t like drama. It’s easier to fade away quietly than to come right out and say that he doesn’t think things will work out.

6. The timing is wrong 

You go on a few great dates with him and you get to know him. During those dates you discover things about each other.

It might have to do with future plans. It might have to do with where you both are in your life or careers. You might be planning on a major life change. Or he might have plans to travel or go to college or university or move to another town.

The potential for a relationship might be there but the circumstances just don’t work out. You’re at different stages in your lives and your lives wouldn’t mesh into a long term relationship.

3 Choices You Face If He Takes His Time To Phone You

You have three main choices if a man you’ve just dated doesn’t phone you within a day or two after a great date:

1. You can give him a piece of your mind, show him how angry you are, and blow him off. (Definitely a mood killer and a great way to ruin any chance of a relationship)

This is usually the reaction most women will have. They had their hopes pinned on this guy and he dashes those hopes away in an instant by appearing disinterested and taking his time to call again.

Maybe he’s playing it cool and doesn’t want to appear too eager.

Maybe he’s inexperienced with dating.

Or maybe he’s not that into you.

Getting your hopes up too much and too early is especially true with online dating – you develop a rapport with a guy, seem to be getting along well, message each other frequently so that it becomes an established routine, and then he disappears for a few days or his communication with you becomes intermittent.

You begin to wonder what’s up…and you get angry with him for “standing you up.”

2. You can ignore his call and not return his calls. (It’s a surefire way to get over him and move onto the next guy if you’re absolutely certain you don’t want to get to know him better.)

This usually signifies that you’re angry at the guy and don’t want anything more to do with him.

If that’s the case, it’s time to move on and look for another guy.

3. You can cut him some slack and pursue things with him to see where they lead. (Best choice if you’re interested in him.)

Sometimes it turns out that it’s worth giving a guy a second chance. Keep in mind that there may be a very valid reason why he took so long to get back to you – it could be work related. Or he could have been sick, or his children could have been sick.

How would you feel, for example, if you got angry with him and gave him a piece of your mind when in fact his father was gravely ill and he had to make an emergency trip to see his father?

Or what if he’s a medical student who’s on call at all hours of the day and night and when he’s free you’re not?

You have to show understanding about his circumstances. It’s not about making excuses for him, it’s about taking a step back and seeing things through his eyes.

Until you know the facts, don’t assume that he isn’t interested. Sure, maybe he is a lazy dater. If that’s the case then at some point you’ll have to politely tell him how you like to be treated…or look for another guy.

But don’t write him off completely – at least not yet – if you’re interested in him.

If the guy is a decent guy, you’re attracted to him, and it’s worth pursuing to see if he has signs he has boyfriend potential then when he phones be sweet and keep things light and fun.

What Most Guys Expect

Most guys expect that they will be chastised if they don’t phone soon after a date. If he does phone you and you cut him some slack and show him you welcome the opportunity to get to know him better you will stand out from the majority of other women.

If you chastise him, get angry with him, argue with him, try and teach him manners, or make him feel bad for taking so long to contact you after the date, then you won’t get a second chance with him.

If you are cold towards him and start playing games or you are not understanding, then you’ve lost him. He definitely won’t pursue you.

Of course, he might be the type of guy who has you “in reserve.” In this situation, he dates other women to see if there is a connection with them.

You’re his “alternate choice” if things don’t work out with another woman. While this might not be very flattering to you, it may turn out to be to your benefit in the long run if he chooses you over other women. After all, we all choose one person over another when we decide to be in an exclusive relationship. And at this point, he’s not in a committed relationship with you so he’s free to date other women, just as you’re free to date other men.

Next time a great guy doesn’t phone you a day or two after a wonderful date and leaves you cooling your heels for a while, consider whether you want to get to know him or not.

If you do, keep it light and upbeat when he phones and see if a relationship develops. (But the next time you meet, let him know in a nice way how you prefer to be treated in the future without him thinking you’ve been sitting by the phone waiting for him to call – which is a no-no.)

The key is not to jump to conclusions until you know the facts because sometimes your assumptions can be incorrect.

If he doesn’t phone you then move on unless you decide to take the initiative to contact him…and find out once and for all whether he’s interested in spending time with you. (Be prepared for him to tell you he’s not interested. And if you do phone him and you get a cool (as in disinterested) “Oh, hi” from him, chances are he’s not that into you.)

In fact, there’s nothing wrong in taking the initiative. It’s not “chasing” him like many people think. It’s showing interest and then letting him take the lead and show you how he feels about you.

If he’s not interested in you, it’s okay to be disappointed. But it’s not the end of the world. In fact, he’s done you a favor – you can now concentrate on finding your Mr. Right – someone who will move Heaven and Earth to be with you and show you he adores you.

How To Avoid Guessing Whether He’s
“The One” And Mr. Right For You

Chances are, if he hasn’t phoned or texted you within a day or two after going on a great first or second date, he’s not into you as much as you’re into him.

After all, a guy who is interested in you will go to great lengths and crawl a mile over broken glass to see you again – unless there’s a valid reason he couldn’t text or call.

You see, when a guy is interested in you he’s going to romance you and woo you.

He’s going to be hot for you.

Because he’s attracted to you.

If he doesn’t text, call, or romance you, then he’s probably not the guy for you because there are a lot of men out there who are single and available who still romance women and show their interest in her.

He has to show his interest, even if it’s with just a text.

It shouldn’t be just one text, either.

It should be continued contact to show that he wants to be on your mind all the time.

A guy who wants to be romantically involved with you will usually do romantic things.

He might write poems.

Or he might send you romantic texts.

Or he might flirt with you.

Or he might buy you flowers.

He might take you on a romantic date.

These are all signs a man is interested in you.

If you’re getting a different vibe – and he’s only interested in a one night stand or a booty call – then he’s a pass.

He’s not interested in a relationship with you. And you won’t change his mind by sleeping with him.

That’s when you need to try something different and attract a man who’s looking for a wonderful woman like you and wants to be in a long term relationship.

There’s no point in hanging around waiting for love to happen, sitting by the phone waiting for a guy to call, and passing up opportunities with other men, wishing and hoping this one guy you went on a great date with – who hasn’t shown enough interest in you – will come around, change his mind, and want to be in a relationship with you.

If you’re ready for love and you want a great man in your life, you have to take the initiative and look for a man who will love, cherish, appreciate and adore you.

This isn’t about “rules.”

Instead, it’s about having the tools to help you find and catch the man of your dreams.

If you want to “up your dating game” then there’s a wonderful way to do that with this special system that cracks the “Guy Code” and shows you how to meet new, single and available men.

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HowAboutWe.com Dating Service

coupleholdinghandsbeachHowAboutWe.com is not your ordinary online dating service as you’ll discover shortly.

You see, with most online dating services – like Chemistry.com or Plenty of Fish – you create a profile and then search for matches based on your matching criteria.

Your matching parameters for most dating services usually start with location, age, gender, and interests.

Some dating sites – like PerfectMatch.com and eHarmony – match according to specific questions asked on an extensive personality questionnaire.

And sometimes, online dating services can be quicker and easier to find someone rather than the traditional way of meeting men.

There’s no need to get dressed up to go to a club or bar. And there’s little expense – at least initially – since most sites allow free online profiles and some services are totally free for contacting other members.

HowAboutWe.com

HowAboutWe.com was started in 2010 and now has more than one million members.

Average user age is between 29-35 and 98% of users have at least a bachelor’s degree. There have been more than 300,000 dates suggested on the site since it launched.

The service also has a twitter and Facebook presence as well as a blog to update members on dating advice and different topics.

HowAboutWe.com does something different when it comes to dating services.

And it’s an interesting concept which makes it unique in the dating world – at least for the moment.

It starts out by having members suggest an activity that they can do with other members.

The emphasis is on great dating ideas and having fun on the dates.

And the whole purpose is to get members to meet offline and see if there is a match.

According to HowAboutWe.com’s media director, Erin Scottberg, the “pick-a-date feature” is a wonderful way to get to know someone’s personality rather than through the traditional online dating profile.

It’s a great idea, isn’t it?

After all, dating is all about getting to know the other person and seeing if you have things in common and whether there is chemistry.

And what better way to do that than to go on fun dates.

Members post date ideas and then other members indicate whether they like the idea. The more members who like the idea, the more popular it is.

If you like a dating idea, the member’s profile looks interesting, and it’s someone you’d like to meet and get to know better then it’s a matter of contacting the member to arrange a date.

Some popular date ideas include…“How About We…write down a bunch of random questions, put them in a hat and get to know each other by pulling them out, one at a time.”

And…”How About We…do a progressive dinner – appetizers, entrees and dessert each at a different place.”

It’s suggested that members of HowAboutWe.com post at least 3 profile photos to increase their chances of connecting with other members.

Although browsing the site is free, you will need to subscribe to the dating service if you want to contact other members you’re interested in meeting.

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ELLE Magazine and HowAboutWe.com

ELLE Magazine has co-branded with HowAboutWe.com to offer the dating service to their members.

As you probably know, ELLE magazine is the number one fashion magazine brand in the world. In fact, this premier women’s magazine identifies with women who are proactive and successful.

And that’s what you need to be when you’re looking for love or you’re ready for love. You need to be proactive.

It’s no use waiting around for Mr. Right to drop into your lap. Because that won’t happen. Instead you have to get out and meet people and search online dating services for the right type of guy for you.

According to their press release in August 2013, ELLE dating members will also have exclusive access to a one-on-one matchmaking service.

This matchmaking service will be subscription based and will include among other things two dates a month, dating planning and feedback as well as consultation by phone from relationship expert, E. Jean Carroll.

AARP and HowAboutWe.com

AARP is a non-profit organization in the United States for men and women aged 50 and over. It offers many benefits to its large membership.

One of its newest benefits is online dating.

AARP has partnered with HowAboutWe.com to offer its members another way to meet potential partners and enjoy a wonderful, fun-filled relationship.

At the time of this writing, AARP members not only get a 7 day free trial but they also get a special discounted rate to the service.

Couples Portal Too

HowAboutWe.com isn’t just for singles. It also has a couples portal.

It’s similar to the singles site in that its purpose is to help couples enjoy exciting adventures together.

But chances are you’re single and you’re looking for dates.

And you probably want to know how to attract a man – a great guy – with whom you can have a wonderful relationship.

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With HowAboutWe.com you contact men on the site and then you move to the offline world and go on dates.

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How to Find the Best Online Dating Service

holdinghandssunsetWith so many dating sites available from which to choose it can be overwhelming when you want to know how to find the best online dating service. In fact, you might have difficulty deciding which dating service or site to use.

It’s just not a matter of which site to choose but also the features each site offers and whether they will help you in your search for a guy.

Top of your list should be whether your privacy is protected, what search methods are available, and how easy it is to contact someone.

As well, pricing should be a consideration – you don’t want to pay for services you don’t use and you don’t want to spend more than necessary since you won’t use the dating service once you’ve found a guy you’re interested in.

Plus, you don’t know how long it will take to find a great guy. Sometimes you’ll be lucky and find one almost immediately. Other times it could take weeks or even months before you find someone you’re interested in.

Here are some features to check out when considering an online dating service:

Quick and Easy Registration

Most dating sites offer free registration.

Some will allow you to communicate with other members for free – these are the true “free dating sites.”

Plenty of Fish is one free dating site that allows free contact between members.

Some sites restrict your access until you fill out questionnaires or post photos. At the time of this writing, two sites that require you to fill out a questionnaire include eHarmony and PerfectMatch.

Chemistry.com and Plenty of Fish have a questionnaire that also helps with matching but is optional to fill out.

HowAboutWe.com has a different approach to online dating. Like many other dating sites it has upgrades that allow you to read all of your messages and send unlimited messages. But its search feature is geared towards the type of date you want rather than finding a particular type of person. (It targets an important matching component – having shared interests.) Plus it also has features for couples, not just singles.

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Do Research Before Signing Up

There are many sites that do online dating reviews. Usually the reviews are unbiased.

But you should be aware that many of the owners of these review sites are compensated if you sign up or pay for a dating service.

A simple search will turn up hundreds – if not thousands – of sites for online dating.

But there are several large, well known sites including eHarmony, PerfectMatch, Chemistry.com, Plenty of Fish, and Match.com.

That’s not to say they are the best online dating sites. But they do generally offer a larger pool of candidates to draw upon depending on your search criteria.

There are sites for virtually all types of interests – niche dating sites for pet owners, religion, people into alternative sex, adult dating sites, and sites for short term, long term, and casual relationships including sex and intimate encounters.

Niche sites that cater to specific interests may or may not have a large pool of members depending on their popularity and the specific interest.

Be especially careful of sites that have fake profiles and scammers. Since sites don’t ordinarily screen each member, fake profiles are easy to establish since there is no verification procedure.

Profile information – including photos – is not necessarily genuine. It can be completely false and made up to lure you into a false sense of security with the intention to steal your money.

One of the easiest ways to discover fake profiles is to check the grammar. But that’s not a foolproof method and even asking pointed questions may not help discover that someone is a scam artist. Some are consummate liars who have successfully bilked women of their money.

This is not to say that you shouldn’t use online dating services. It just means you have to use common sense and maintain a healthy skepticism until you get to know the guy better.

Use The Dating Site’s Free Trial Service

There’s no better way to learn about an online dating service than to actually use it.

If it’s a completely free service you’ll have immediate access to many of its features.

Some free sites may offer a paid upgrade but for the most part they will provide the basic services including being able to message other members without charge.

Paid sites will require payment before being able to contact other members and/or read their messages. It’s important in this case to ensure that the site contains quality profiles of guys you’d be interested in meeting.

Sometimes guys will post their profiles on both paid and free sites hoping to attract a larger number of women so you may be able to contact them on a free site if you happen to come across their profile.

Contact Options

A quality dating service will offer several messaging options including email, instant messaging, and chat.

While it’s not necessary to have a lot of messaging options, it is helpful if you’re not getting much success from one particular option alone. For example, you may not be getting much response from emailing guys but you might find better response when chatting.

Online Dating Profiles

Reading online dating profiles can be a lot of fun and even entertaining when you read some of the essays prospective boyfriends post.

But first you have to do a search that will narrow down the field. Use the online dating site’s matching criteria to begin with. Sometimes you can narrow down the search even more depending on the sophistication of the online dating site.

Most sites have at the very least geographic and age range searches – both of which are vital to your search since you’re looking for a guy who is within a certain age range and usually pretty close to where you live.

It’s best to cast a wide net to begin with and then narrow down your choices. If you’re younger you’ll probably find a pretty large pool of guys to choose from ranging in all ages.

Once you’ve narrowed your boyfriend candidates it’s time to check out the profiles. First you’ll probably skim the photos to see if anything catches your eye. Then you’ll click on specific profiles to look at personal interests and the profile essay to see what brilliant things the guy has to say to entice you to contact him – which for most online dating sites is through anonymous email.

Most sites will indicate specific areas on the profile for religion, whether he wants kids, hair color, and other personal particulars. Some will also indicate a personality type – for example whether he’s a night owl or morning person or a book worm or adventurer or supporter.

Be on the lookout for craftily disguised wording with double meanings:

“Loves his work” could mean he’s either a workaholic or has a controlling personality.

A “sensitive” guy could mean he’s a sissy or is actually sensitive.

A guy with a “sense of humor” could mean he’s a bore or he thinks he’s funny, even if he’s not.

“Looking for a best friend” could mean he really is or maybe he’s looking for a sex kitten who is into intimate encounters or a friend with benefits arrangement.

But please don’t prejudge or jump to conclusions – which could be wrong. It’s only by meeting and getting to know the guy that you will know for sure whether you like his personality and whether you’re compatible.

If you prejudge a guy before getting to know him – which many women do – you could be passing on a quality guy who would make a wonderful boyfriend or husband.

And just because he says he has particular interests that don’t align with yours doesn’t mean you’re not compatible.

You don’t have to answer questions that you think invade your privacy. Income questions are really no-one’s business but your own.

The weight questions are always tricky – you don’t want to put a great guy off but at the same time you want to be truthful. After all, there’s no point in saying you’re athletic when in fact you have a few extra pounds or you’re rubenesque. It’s usually best to be truthful in the weight category since he’s going to find out what your build is if you meet or if you post a full body photo.

One of the usual questions is whether to include a photo or not. Some sites indicate that your success in getting responses will increase by up to 10 times if you include a photo. If you’re a very attractive woman you’ll find you’ll get a lot of responses simply because guys like your photo, not because they’ve read your profile.

Obviously, people with a photo are more likely to get a response if the photo is flattering and you’re attractive. If you’re reluctant to post a photo for privacy reasons then indicate you’ll send one to those who you think you’re compatible with.

Keep in mind that if you don’t display a photo some sites will limit their functionality until you do. As well, the issue will come up once you start corresponding with guys because a photo is one of the first things they ask for.

Take a good photo with your digital camera or smartphone. Each dating site has instructions on the file format and size and how to upload photos to your profile. Unless it’s an adult oriented dating site there usually are conditions about what photos are acceptable.

Be sure to crop photos with other people in them – especially if you’re hanging off the arm of a man (even if he’s your son). Where you don’t crop photos with men in them, be sure to explain who the man is – your son, your brother-in-law, your brother, your father.

Show photos with head and full body shots as well as those that show you in your favorite activities to give the reader a sense of who you are and what you enjoy doing. Photos don’t have to be professionally done studio shots but avoid uploading blurry photos or photos where you have sunglasses on or those where you’re so far away no-one can see what you really look like.

How successful you are on an online dating service depends on several factors including quality of profile, size of membership, messaging options, how diligent you are in combing through profiles, and how proactive you are in contacting guys who interest you.

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