Why Guys Don’t Text Back
One of the most common questions women ask is, “Why don’t guys text back?
I know how frustrating this can be. After all, you put in the effort to send a text and then you don’t hear from him. You might even start getting in your own head and overthinking when there’s a perfectly reasonable explanation.
Does This Sound Familiar When You Text A Guy?
>> He rarely texts and when he does they are short or one-or-two word messages.
>> He texts when he wants to meet up or asks you on a date or when he cancels or when he wants to have sex.
>> He doesn’t text back after a date.
>> He doesn’t text back all day but you see he’s on social media or on an online dating site.
>> He doesn’t text good morning or good night anymore like he used to.
>> He only texts when he feels like it, which isn’t very often.
>> He likes to sext or the texts turn to talk about sex.
>> You get into a routine of saying good morning and good night to each other and then one day he disappears. It makes you wonder whether he’s with someone else OR he’s not who he says he is.
>> You become obsessed and text him way too much – especially if he doesn’t respond to your text messages.
>> You text to keep in touch but he doesn’t initiate texts and takes his time responding, if he responds at all.
As you can see, there are so many situations where a guy doesn’t respond to your text.
And you want to know why he doesn’t text you back or why he doesn’t text back often or often enough or soon enough.
You want to know what’s a valid reason for him not texting back, especially if you went on a date with him and you both had a good date or a good first date and hit it off.
Questions That Might Run Through Your Mind When You Text A Guy And He Doesn’t Respond Immediately:
>> What does it mean when a guy doesn’t text you back for hours or days?
>> Why don’t guys text back right away?
>> How long should you wait if a guy doesn’t text back?
>> What should you do when he doesn’t text back for days?
Where Are You In The Relationship?
Before we look at reasons why or what it means, here are some things to consider:
1. Are you in an established relationship or is it a casual friendship (with perhaps sex thrown in)?
2. Are you in a new relationship where you’re still getting to know each other?
3. Are you trying to develop a relationship or get to know a guy you’ve just met?
4. Are you in a situation where you’ve NEVER met this guy in real life? In other words, you’ve only “met” online – on Tinder or another online dating site?
5. Are you in a long distance “relationship” but have never met, but only talked on the phone or Skyped or only met once or twice but live apart and rarely see each other?
Chances are you’re asking why he doesn’t text back because you like him and you want to get to know him to see if he’s boyfriend material.
What does it mean when a guy doesn’t text you back or doesn’t text you for a week?
There’s no easy answer to why a guy doesn’t text back but there can be reasons why he doesn’t return your messages.
1. He’s genuinely busy
> He’s got work to do or he’s in a meeting
> He travels a lot and is busy with work and has limited time
> He’s playing sports or doing his favorite hobby
> He’s got other commitments with his buddies and is socializing
> He’s studying for exams
You’re not a priority to him. When you text bomb him, it makes it look like you’re checking up on him and guys hate that and start feeling smothered.
2. He’s just not that into you
In other words, you’re not important to him and he has no intention of being in a relationship with you.
The more important you are to him, the more he will respond and the faster he will usually respond, at least in the initial stages of a relationship when he’s getting to know you, if he’s interested in dating you.
3. He has nothing to say
Sometimes, he just has nothing to say. And getting your “hey” in a message isn’t an incentive for him to respond.
4. He’s gotten used to you.
The relationship “honeymoon” is over and he doesn’t have to impress you with his attentiveness.
5. He doesn’t feel like “chatting” right now.
6. He has more important things to do than text.
7. He’s playing with you/manipulating you/toying or playing with your emotions.
Stay strong. There are plenty of guys out there who would love to have you as a girlfriend. You just have to find the guy who is right for you.
8. He’s found someone else, is already involved with someone else, or he’s gotten back with his ex.
9. He’s a jerk and he’s not worth your time. Move on.
10. He’s a SCAMMER.
You could be setting yourself up to have your phone hacked or, at the very least, your heart broken. Block him!
What To Do When A Guy Doesn’t Text You Back
1. Establish your boundaries.
If the type of behavior where he doesn’t text back within a reasonable time is unacceptable to you, either tell him or move on.
2. It’s okay to initiate but if it’s not reciprocated, move on.
If you’re hoping something will happen and he’ll wake up and confess his love for you, it’s not going to happen.
3. Be careful not to pursue.
Let him “earn” your affection. Don’t get me wrong here. Most guys love the attention. They like a woman who knows her mind, who goes after what she wants, who has confidence, and who has skills that prove she’s a gift to the man she loves.
But, in general, don’t chase him. If he’s not responding, he’s not interested and he’s not boyfriend material.
4. Don’t overthink things and fuel your insecurities.
When you overthink and fuel your insecurities you do things you wouldn’t normally do, like texting him too much. When you do that, you come across as “needy” or “clingy” and those qualities are a turn-off for a guy.
(TD;LR): Top 4 Reasons Why Guys Don’t Text Back
1. He’s just not that into you.
2. He’s genuinely busy.
3. He’s a scammer and he’s preying upon your emotions.
4. He’s a jerk and he’s not worth your time.
As you can see, there are many reasons why guys don’t text back but this should give you some idea on how to react and respond when you don’t hear from a guy.
