“Flirting techniques are some of the easiest and simplest ways to attract a cute guy’s attention. Be sure to practice your flirting techniques every opportunity you can get.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach
Knowing how to flirt is one of the most powerful ways to attract a guy.
Flirting is about coming across to a man as interesting, fun, and unique. It can even have mysterious undertones to it.
It can drive a guy crazy…in a good way.
Because it gets him interested in you and thinking about you.
Best of all, many flirting techniques can be done without saying a word!
Sometimes there is just no better way of getting a man’s attention than by flirting.
As I’ve said in the Girl Gets Great Guy System, there really is a man out there for you.
You just have to find him.
That means you don’t pass up an opportunity to connect with someone you find attractive.
Flirting is simply being yourself and showing your personality in a way that makes a guy interested in you.
You want to get his attention and see where it leads – hopefully it will lead to being asked out on a date so you can get to know him better.
Have you ever gone to a party or function and seen a woman with men vying for her attention? Chances are you have. And chances are you’ve noticed that in many cases she’s not the most beautiful woman in the room.
She has something about her that instantly attracts guys to her.
And that quality is that she’s perfected her flirting skills.
She’s fun to be with and guys like to be with her because she makes them feel good about themselves.
Flirting is your way of taking the initiative instead of waiting for the guy to make the first move.
Some flirting techniques are subtle signals that encourage a man to approach you.
Because, let’s be honest, as macho as many guys like to think they are, they still fear being rejected by an attractive woman like you.
Flirting 101 – The Smile
One of the most effective ways to flirt is with a smile.
If a guy shows an interest in you, your smile will signal to him that you’re interested in him.
If he picks up on that signal and approaches you, it’s a wonderful opportunity to get to know him to see if you’re interested in him.
It could lead to a date and even to a committed relationship.
And it all starts with flirting.
Other Flirting Techniques
There are many ways to flirt apart from smiling at a man.
For example, casually touching his arm as you’re talking to him or complimenting him in a flattering way are two other very effective flirting techniques.
Show your interest in him and bond with him by casually touching his arm as you’re talking to him:
Do this if you’re sharing a joke or letting him in on something like a tip or a secret or a confidence if you’re just trying to keep his attention.
Casually touching his arm is a more intimate gesture but it’s an instant way to bond with him.
And it signals that you like him and you’re interested in him.
(Keep in mind, though, that what is considered flirting – and totally innocent fun – in one country can be considered offensive – especially for religious reasons – in another country and could even lead to arrest. You should also be mindful of the fact that some men can interpret your flirting (including lightly touching his arm) as being sexually available – which should not be your intent when you meet someone new.)
Tossing your hair or running your fingers through your hair can also be flirting signals. They are ways to draw a man’s attention to you and can be effective when you combine them with a smile.
The Indirect Flirting Approach
The Indirect Approach is particularly effective when you’re out doing something, having fun, and you notice a cute guy you’re dying to talk to.
You need to be a happy, bubbly, and fun to make this work to your advantage.
That’s important because he then sees you as a fun person because you are having fun!
Your approach is to include him in what you’re doing in some way.
You can do this in one of several ways…
It might be to make a joke.
It might be to challenge him teasingly.
It might be as simple as saying to him, “I think I need to improve my (basketball) skills or technique.” and laughing at the same time.
Best Places To Flirt
An English study performed by The Social Issues Research Centre in 2004 found that the following were some of the best places to flirt:
2. Bars, pubs, night clubs
5. Universities and colleges
6. Academic and business conferences
7. Sports and hobbies (except those sports where participants are serious competitors)
8. Internet (chat rooms, instant messaging)
Two key commonalities with the above places is a shared experience or a fun environment.
Don’t let the above list deter you from flirting in other places, though.
You have to actively look for opportunities to use your flirting skills.
Build Your Confidence In Flirting
You can’t build confidence in flirting and approaching men without practice.
Because practice and confidence go hand in hand when it comes to flirting.
So get out there and flirt.
Talk to all types of guys – whether they’re married or not.
And whether they’re your “type” or not.
Your objective is to hone your flirting skills because one day you’ll need them for a guy you’re interested in meeting and getting to know better.
Guys who are interested in you will respond to your flirts and advances. Don’t get discouraged if a cute guy doesn’t respond – there may be a valid reason including he’s in a relationship or not ready for a relationship.
Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.
GirlGetsGreatGuy.com – the site that gives relationship and dating advice to women and helps them find their Mr. Right – wishes to thank John Nyberg for the beautiful photo in this article. Image credit: Couple In Sunset (c) John Nyberg #1038965 freeimages.com