Knowing how to attract a man is a common problem many women have.
Surprisingly, attracting men isn’t really that hard to do.
Often the problem is not about knowing how to attract men.
It’s knowing how to attract a man who is right for you.
It’s knowing how to attract a great guy who you’d like to have a relationship with…and perhaps even marry down the road if things work out.
First, examine why you find it hard to attract a man because it might be something that you’re doing and you don’t even realize it.
Are You Finding It Difficult To Attract A Man?
When you say you can’t attract men you might mean that men don’t approach you.
If that’s the case then you need to think about WHY men don’t approach you.
It could be that you’re so attractive that men automatically think you’re unavailable.
As well, you should also consider whether you’re approachable.
If you hang out with a lot of guys or friends, then a guy who is interested in you won’t approach you because he’s intimidated. He wants to approach you when you’re alone, not when you’re with a friend or a group of friends.
Do you find that men don’t speak to you in a way that signals that they are interested in you?
If that’s the case, then you might be Friend Zoned – and that can be a difficult situation to break out of.
Usually, being Friend Zoned occurs when guys see you as one of them – not as an attractive woman…even though you are.
It might be the way you dress. It might be the way you speak. It might be the things you do that are masculine instead of feminine.
You might ride dirt bikes with the best of them.
You might fix cars and drive hot rods.
You might drive a 4×4 truck and go muddin’ in the back roads.
You might like going hunting and fishing with the guys.
If you’re doing things just like one of the boys, then guys usually won’t see you as a romantic interest but rather as a buddy.
It doesn’t mean you stop doing the things you love or stop hanging out with the guys.
It just means you have to be feminine and show to the guys you hang out with that you’re an attractive woman.
And finally, do you find you don’t know what to say when you meet a guy who you’re interested in?
Being tongue tied isn’t all that unusual – especially when you see an attractive man. If you’re tongue tied it hinders your ability to approach the guy and start a conversation – and that can lead to missed opportunities.
Turnoffs That Don’t Attract A Man
While it’s always good to know how to attract a man, you should also know some things that repel a man.
These are things he finds unattractive in a woman.
1. A woman who is needy or desperate is a huge turnoff to a man.
This is the woman who is too eager. She has no mystery. Everything is an open book – which is not necessarily a bad thing but it’s as though she wants an instant romance or love affair so she can be in a relationship.
This is the type of woman who needs a man in her life – either because she’s at that age where she wants to be married and have children or she’s insecure and needs a male presence in her life.
A guy might not know it from looking at her but once he’s talked to her for a while he’ll sense her desperation for wanting to have a man in her life.
(The secret? The needy woman has to be more independent but still be feminine.)
2. A woman who is too independent repels men.
This is the very opposite of a needy woman.
This can sometimes be the woman who says, “I’m attractive and I have a nice personality. And yet, men don’t approach me or ask me out on dates.”
The independent woman shows her masculine side.
She wears “masculine” clothes (like business suits or pant suits) or works in an industry or has a career that pits her against men all the time.
She’s proud of the fact that she can take care of herself and hold her own against men.
And there’s nothing wrong with that at all.
Trouble is, men want a woman who is feminine.
A woman who shows her feminine side.
A woman who dresses up in a sexy dress and high heels.
A woman who takes care of her hair and makeup.
That’s what attracts a man to a woman and what turns him on.
Not only that, men want to feel useful.
They want to feel that they can take care of a woman and please her.
The independent woman doesn’t show her femininity nor does she allow men to help her which is a BIG mistake.
(The secret? The independent woman has to switch off her “masculine” side and switch on her “feminine” side.)
3. Being a drama queen is unattractive to men.
Guys really don’t like drama at all.
They prefer a woman who is cool under pressure and remains positive and fun to be with.
The woman who complains about the smallest things or creates a scene or makes a fuss will find herself very quickly without a man.
(The secret? The drama queen has to chill out, remain cool, and not let things bother her.)
For the top 5 turnoffs for men you’re invited to download my FREE Dating Mistakes Special Report here.
Three Things You Can Do If You Want To Attract A Man
1. Make Yourself Approachable
Men look for signs before approaching a woman.
If she’s at a club with her friends most men are intimidated to approach a woman who they are attracted to.
If a woman is sitting alone a man is more likely to approach her.
But just being approachable isn’t always enough.
You might have to encourage a guy to approach you.
If you see someone you like or you’re interested in, look at him and smile at him.
This is a signal to him that you’re interested in him. (And hopefully he’ll take the hint and introduce himself.)
2. Build Your Confidence
Have you ever seen a confident woman around men? She talks. She flirts. She laughs. She has men hanging practically on her every word.
What makes this type of woman so confident around men is that she knows what to do and say.
And it’s that confidence that’s attractive to men – and attracts men to her.
Of course, some women are naturals when it comes to being confident. They know what to do to attract men.
They’ve learned their flirting skills.
They know what works and what doesn’t work.
If you feel unsure about your flirting skills then you have to develop them.
That involves learning how to approach men instead of waiting for them to approach you.
That means you also have to develop conversational skills.
3. Build Your Conversational Skills
Have you ever noticed that when you see a cute or attractive guy, you get tongue tied and you can’t think of a thing to talk about?
For many women, that’s perfectly normal.
The quickest and easiest way to overcome being tongue tied is to talk to men all the time – whether or not you’re attracted to them.
Talk to them in grocery stores, in lineups, at the bank, at the coffee shop. Make small talk just to get things started.
Talk about the weather. Talk about the items on the menu. Talk about something that strikes you as funny.
This gets you into the habit of being approachable and interesting because you’ve taken the initiative to start a conversation.
Then, when you do see an attractive guy you’re interested in you’ll be able to start a conversation quickly and easily and see where it goes from there.
In the Girl Gets Great Guy System, I talk about how to be approachable in greater depth because it’s one of the most important skills to have when you’re trying to attract the right man for you.
Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.
The Girl Gets Great Guy System is for the woman who wants to find her one true love.
It’s for the woman who:
– Is longing for a loving relationship
– Never seems to be able to keep a good man for long
– Always seems to pick losers and deadbeats
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