What you’ve invariably learned about love is that a relationship that initially looks promising doesn’t mean it will last. Sometimes the chemistry isn’t as strong as you thought. Other times you discover you’re not as compatible as you thought.
The reality is that when it comes to love and relationships there are no guarantees.
But there are clues that increase your chances of finding a great guy…and knowing you have found a great guy.
It’s not that difficult to decide if a guy has boyfriend potential. Because if you’re feeling the chemistry and you like him and he’s nice then chances are he’s a great guy to have as a boyfriend.
Sometimes when you’re falling in love or you’re initially smitten with a guy, you need to take a step back to look at things objectively. If you feel deep down that something is not quite right then listen to your instincts because chances are something isn’t right.
You’ll generally have two situations with relationships:
1. You’re just getting to know a guy but you haven’t moved beyond that to be considered boyfriend and girlfriend in an exclusive relationship
2. You’re beyond the beginning stages of getting to know each other and you’re moving into or you’re already in an exclusive or monogamous relationship. By this time you should be boyfriend and girlfriend although there will be situations where it’s not as well defined even though you spend time together.
If you have any doubts that the guy you’re interested in is boyfriend material, then here are some signs a guy could make a good boyfriend.
1. He’s Not A Player And He Wants A Relationship
Players usually have a reputation for being a “player.” They could even be pickup artists.
They’re usually easy to spot once you get to know them a little bit.
They frequent clubs and bars for the night life and the action.
So if you’re into that scene as well, then chances are you’re going to run into a player.
They’re smooth. They have good pickup lines. They know what to say to “woo” women.
However, players usually have short(er) term relationships. They might play the field. They might be into one-night stands.
They might even have a large number of women who are their friends.
Players usually grow weary of their existing relationship and look for someone “better.” So their investment in the relationship might not be as much as yours because they know it will eventually end and they will move on.
A guy with boyfriend potential is a good guy. A nice guy. In a way, that might even seem boring.
But he’s definitely not a rebel or a bad boy.
He doesn’t play games and he wants to be in a relationship.
He doesn’t want to play the field and you’re not another notch in his bedpost.
2. You Can Rely On Him And Trust What He Says
His word is his bond. You can rely on what he says.
He’s not the type who says one thing and does the exact opposite.
If he says he’ll do something you can trust that he’ll keep his word.
3. He Makes You Feel Happy When You’re With Him
He has a calming influence on you. It’s exciting to be with him because he’s a fun guy and he makes you feel good about yourself.
He makes you feel safe and desired.
Best of all, there are no pretenses – you can be yourself around him and he’s himself around you.
4. Your Friends And Family Like Him
The rebel doesn’t care what others think about him. And that can cause unnecessary friction with those who are closest to you.
There’s nothing more stressful and upsetting than knowing your friends and family don’t like your boyfriend.
Sometimes they’re wrong. But chances are they see something about him that you don’t – and it’s not a good sign.
A great boyfriend will treat your friends and family well and get to know them.
You know you’ve got a keeper when your friends and family aren’t telling you to ditch him because he’s no good for you or you deserve better.
Better still if your girlfriends ask you to tell them if you and your guy ever break up because they think he’s hot.
5. He Knows What’s Important To You
He listens to you and knows what you like and don’t like.
He knows what’s important to you and he respects that. He doesn’t put you down, criticize you, or make you feel stupid or inadequate because you have certain beliefs or morals or tastes.
6. He Thinks You’re Hot Even When You’re Not Feeling (or Looking) Hot
Chances are you have those days when you feel fat or you just don’t feel pretty.
But a great guy makes you feel pretty by the way he treats you and the things he says to you. That’s the type of guy you want to have around.
He makes you feel good about yourself.
To him, you’re hot, no matter how you feel about yourself. And that’s a good thing.
7. He’s Your Friend
He’s the type of guy you can confide in.
He’s the type of guy you can talk to about (almost) anything.
He’s there for you when things get tough.
He’s there to encourage you and cheer you on.
He’s there to listen to you and give you advice if you ask for it.
8. He Cares
He cares about you.
He cares how you feel.
He cares about your feelings.
He cares about what’s important to you.
He’s there to support you.
He has your back.
And while that might at first not seem very important, how he feels about you is a major factor in determining whether he’ll make a great boyfriend.
You might not find all of these qualities in the guy you’re interested in. But the more qualities you do find, the better the chances are that he is boyfriend material and he is someone you should seriously consider to have in your life.
The next step, after dating for a while, is to decide whether he’s a keeper – the man you might want to eventually marry.
GirlGetsGreatGuy.com – the site that gives dating advice to women and shows them how to find their Mr. Right – wishes to thank Stephen Gibson for the beautiful photo used in this article. Image credit: Beautiful valentine chocolate hearts image #1254000 at freeimages.com