Online Dating

Online dating is one of the most popular ways to find men. It's quick, it's easy, and it helps you find eligible men faster than offline dating.

Some women have great success with online dating. Others don't. Here you'll find out how to use online dating effectively to meet men who are good prospects for a relationship.

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Online Dating – The Hidden Dangers Of Online Dating

“Sometimes you get so swept up with online dating and the “relationship” you form with someone online that you forget that it’s not real. The reality is that you don’t know that person very well – if at all – in real life.” Blaine Barrington, Dating and Relationship Coach.8749939_s

Online dating is an effective way to find a great guy. And many women do have success finding a great guy using online dating..

But online dating does come with its hazards that you should be aware of.

Other than the usual romantic scams that I talk about there are other dangers with online dating.

Here’s how the typical scenario goes…

You throw up your online dating profile, add a couple of photos, and hope that someone will respond to your profile.

And, usually someone does.

In fact, you might have a number of guys who are interested in getting to know you.

Some of those guys you will “reject” quickly for various reasons – they’re too young, they’re too old, you don’t like their photo, you don’t think you have enough in common with them, or there’s something in their profile description that turns you off.

Sometimes, you’ll reject a guy simply because he doesn’t have a photo on his profile. Many women say in their description that they won’t correspond with guys who don’t have a photo. Now, the theory is that if there is no photo then the guy is hiding something. Many women assume he’s married or in a relationship – which may or may not be true.

Don’t instantly reject a guy just because there is no photo on his profile. He may be a very private person and be willing to send you his photos in an email if you ask him (just be careful that it’s not a scammer and he has a virus attached to his photos.)

Usually, though, after corresponding with these guys or talking to them on the phone you’ll know whether or not to continue with them to see if they’re boyfriend material.

Ultimately, you’ll very likely focus on two or three guys who have caught your interest.

These are the guys who warrant most of your time in your online search for a great guy.

These are the guys you’ve “qualified” to see if they’re boyfriend material.

But here’s the hidden danger of online dating…

Feelings Evolve

You start emailing back and forth with a great guy or two. Then you will probably use chat and move to the phone or go onto Skype.

When you meet someone online and start to email and/or chat back and forth there is what I call a virtual bond that occurs.

This person takes on an image in your mind of the perfect man. He’s funny. He’s fun. He’s interesting. He says the right things. He’s romantic. He becomes real to you even though you’ve never met him in real life.

What you don’t know is whether he’s saying those things to other women. You don’t know if he really is single and available.

And you see him at his best – at the prearranged time you both schedule to talk to each other. You don’t see him under pressure from the stresses at work. You don’t know what his health is like. You don’t know what his finances are like. In fact, you know very little about the real person.

Not surprisingly, many people – both men and women – “fall in love” online. First it’s hugs using emoticons. Then it’s hugs and kisses. And then at some point they say they “love” the person even though they’ve never met each other in person.

You might even get risque and share semi-nude or nude photos. Or you might start talking about sex and what you like and don’t like when it comes to sex and intimacy.

You start calling each other terms of endearment like “sweetie” or “honey” or “darling” just as you would in real life.

You’re smitten with him.

This is the infatuation stage where you start falling for him. And yet it’s not real because you haven’t even met him.

But here’s the trap you fall into:

The “relationship” is a virtual relationship – one that isn’t real except in your mind. It’s based on fantasy and driven by your hope that it works into something that is tangible and real.

You don’t even know if the photo you’ve seen on his online profile is accurate. And even if you talk to each other on Skype, you might be in for a surprise – he might be heavier or slimmer than you thought. In fact, you might even overlook things that normally would disqualify a guy from being boyfriend material.

Even so, you begin to get your hopes up that he’s the guy for you – especially if he’s funny and he has similar interests to yours.

Your feelings develop. He becomes important in your life even though you’ve never met.

And because your feelings develop you get emotional and upset if he doesn’t send you an email or he doesn’t phone you when you expect him to.

And chances are you become a “victim” of…

Male Posturing

In online dating, male posturing is where a guy tries to impress you. He could say things about his work, his hobbies, or his accomplishments, or things he’s particularly proud of.

It could also be about how he sees himself – if he’s a romantic his overtures to you will be romance based – cards, notes, sayings, terms of affection, terms of endearment.

His male posturing can also include future plans. For example, it might be where he plans to take you – a vacation spot or hotel or restaurant – when you meet.

This is all part of the courtship ritual.

But in the online dating world it has a powerful effect because it plays on your emotions and imagination.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing but it’s important to remember that it’s not reality because it’s not as though you’re a “couple” at this point. You don’t know how you will interact with him in real life.

He might even go into “hero” mode – where he’s so taken with you that he wants to impress you by doing things that make you feel closer to him or somewhat obligated to him.

For example, he might send you gifts.

Or he might arrange to take you away on a small vacation.

This is male posturing where he’s trying to win you over so that you see him as your hero.

You might even build him up so much that you begin to have doubts about whether you’re “good enough” for him and whether he’ll be happy with you. And in some cases, he reveals to you that he’s not sure he’s “good enough” for you.

But, the problem at this point – even if you’re emailing and chatting and talking on the phone and getting along famously – is that there is no real life chemistry.

You don’t really know much about this guy at this point other than what he’s told you.

You don’t know his habits or beliefs.

You don’t know his friends or his family.

You don’t know how he will treat you. In fact, what he shows you in his emails and chats could be only one facet of his total personality.

The Real Tests – Chemistry, Compatibility, and Time

The real tests to a beginning relationship are chemistry, compatibility, and time.

Chemistry is something that you can’t change. It’s either there or not. Your feelings for him might change over time but chemistry is still an important element in the relationship unless you’re not interested in having sex or being intimate with him in any way and you just want a companion and a friendship – which most people on online dating sites don’t want.

You have to see if there is compatibility – that you enjoy each other’s company and that you enjoy doing things together.

Time is the ultimate test.

It takes time to know someone. It takes time to see how they are around their friends, family, colleagues, and even strangers.

It takes time to see another person’s moods and how they react when they are stressed or frustrated.

It takes time to see how this new guy in your life will treat you – whether he helps you or looks after you when you’re sick with a cold or flu or other disease.

It takes time to see whether you’re happy with him – whether he supports you in what you do, whether he’s romantic, whether he’s a good lover.

Consider this:

You might not like the smell of his cologne.

You might not like his habits.

You might not like how he talks to you.

You might not like the way he cuts his hair…or trims his beard.

You might not like how he eats his food…or what seasonings and condiments he puts on his food.

You might not like the foods he eats.

Until you have spent time with him and you get to know him and his friends and his family, you won’t know what he is like. You have to see how he interacts with others – not just you.

And when you do meet, guess what?

The clock is wound back to zero. Because even though you know him well on the internet, you don’t know him at all in real life.

So, it’s like starting over. You start over by getting to know him. Only this time it’s in real life, not in virtual life.

It’s not like you are best friends where you can pick up from where you last saw each other as though there were no gap in time.

This is entirely different.

You “know” this man in a different – virtual – way.

Key Barriers To A Blossoming Relationship

There are two main barriers to a blossoming relationship when you’re involved with online dating.

First is the fact that you think you know a guy so well online that you trust him.

And that can lead to certain consequences.

For example, you might have sex with him too early – simply because you’ve been emailing and talking on the phone so much that you have a connection.

And if you have sex with him too early that could be a mistake and ruin a promising relationship.

Remember: Until you meet and spend time with each other you’re not in a relationship and you’re not exclusive.

It’s always wise to take normal safety precautions until you know who he is and what he’s all about.

Another barrier to a blossoming relationship is distance.

Online dating lends itself to both local and long distance relationships.

But long distance relationships can be the hardest to endure because once you meet in person you’ll want to see more and more of that person if you click and there is chemistry.

Jumping To Wrong Conclusions

Another very real danger of online dating is that it’s easy to jump to conclusions about someone.

And many of those conclusions usually don’t have any basis in fact. Instead, they’re your imaginings.

For example: He doesn’t come online when he says he will. He doesn’t send as many emails to you. He doesn’t express his feelings to you. Or he has other “friends” who he chats with online.

When that happens you begin to wonder if he’s “faithful” to you or whether he’s getting cold feet or whether things are cooling off between the two of you and he’s starting to lose interest in you.

In fact, chances are you want an instant relationship. Or, at the very least, you want to speed the process up. You want him to profess his undying love to you. And that’s not possible – particularly if you’ve never met him and you haven’t even spent time with him – except online.

Keep in mind that relationships take time to develop and mature. There are limits to what he will say to you when he doesn’t know you. You might “love” him, but he’ll probably be more cautious about using the “L” word until he’s sure about how he feels about you.

The true test of a blossoming relationship – especially one that started with online dating – is getting to know someone in person and seeing if you fit into his life and he fits into your life. And that is something that can’t be rushed.

Blaine Barrington is a Dating and Relationship coach who helps single women find their Mr. Right. He’s the author of the Girl Gets Great Guy System – The System That Cracks The “Guy Code” And Helps You Find The Man Of Your Dreams.

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HowAboutWe.com Dating Service

coupleholdinghandsbeachHowAboutWe.com is not your ordinary online dating service as you’ll discover shortly.

You see, with most online dating services – like Chemistry.com or Plenty of Fish – you create a profile and then search for matches based on your matching criteria.

Your matching parameters for most dating services usually start with location, age, gender, and interests.

Some dating sites – like PerfectMatch.com and eHarmony – match according to specific questions asked on an extensive personality questionnaire.

And sometimes, online dating services can be quicker and easier to find someone rather than the traditional way of meeting men.

There’s no need to get dressed up to go to a club or bar. And there’s little expense – at least initially – since most sites allow free online profiles and some services are totally free for contacting other members.

HowAboutWe.com

HowAboutWe.com was started in 2010 and now has more than one million members.

Average user age is between 29-35 and 98% of users have at least a bachelor’s degree. There have been more than 300,000 dates suggested on the site since it launched.

The service also has a twitter and Facebook presence as well as a blog to update members on dating advice and different topics.

HowAboutWe.com does something different when it comes to dating services.

And it’s an interesting concept which makes it unique in the dating world – at least for the moment.

It starts out by having members suggest an activity that they can do with other members.

The emphasis is on great dating ideas and having fun on the dates.

And the whole purpose is to get members to meet offline and see if there is a match.

According to HowAboutWe.com’s media director, Erin Scottberg, the “pick-a-date feature” is a wonderful way to get to know someone’s personality rather than through the traditional online dating profile.

It’s a great idea, isn’t it?

After all, dating is all about getting to know the other person and seeing if you have things in common and whether there is chemistry.

And what better way to do that than to go on fun dates.

Members post date ideas and then other members indicate whether they like the idea. The more members who like the idea, the more popular it is.

If you like a dating idea, the member’s profile looks interesting, and it’s someone you’d like to meet and get to know better then it’s a matter of contacting the member to arrange a date.

Some popular date ideas include…“How About We…write down a bunch of random questions, put them in a hat and get to know each other by pulling them out, one at a time.”

And…”How About We…do a progressive dinner – appetizers, entrees and dessert each at a different place.”

It’s suggested that members of HowAboutWe.com post at least 3 profile photos to increase their chances of connecting with other members.

Although browsing the site is free, you will need to subscribe to the dating service if you want to contact other members you’re interested in meeting.

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ELLE Magazine and HowAboutWe.com

ELLE Magazine has co-branded with HowAboutWe.com to offer the dating service to their members.

As you probably know, ELLE magazine is the number one fashion magazine brand in the world. In fact, this premier women’s magazine identifies with women who are proactive and successful.

And that’s what you need to be when you’re looking for love or you’re ready for love. You need to be proactive.

It’s no use waiting around for Mr. Right to drop into your lap. Because that won’t happen. Instead you have to get out and meet people and search online dating services for the right type of guy for you.

According to their press release in August 2013, ELLE dating members will also have exclusive access to a one-on-one matchmaking service.

This matchmaking service will be subscription based and will include among other things two dates a month, dating planning and feedback as well as consultation by phone from relationship expert, E. Jean Carroll.

AARP and HowAboutWe.com

AARP is a non-profit organization in the United States for men and women aged 50 and over. It offers many benefits to its large membership.

One of its newest benefits is online dating.

AARP has partnered with HowAboutWe.com to offer its members another way to meet potential partners and enjoy a wonderful, fun-filled relationship.

At the time of this writing, AARP members not only get a 7 day free trial but they also get a special discounted rate to the service.

Couples Portal Too

HowAboutWe.com isn’t just for singles. It also has a couples portal.

It’s similar to the singles site in that its purpose is to help couples enjoy exciting adventures together.

But chances are you’re single and you’re looking for dates.

And you probably want to know how to attract a man – a great guy – with whom you can have a wonderful relationship.

How To Attract Men

With HowAboutWe.com you contact men on the site and then you move to the offline world and go on dates.

But perhaps you want to meet guys offline because you’re not into the online dating scene.

If you want to meet great guys offline then be sure to check out the Girl Gets Great Guy System.

It’s specifically designed for women who want to meet guys in the real world instead of the virtual, online dating world.

It shows you where the great guys hang out. And it shows you how to attract them and catch them.

Best of all it shows you how to decide whether you’ve chosen your Mr. Right.

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How to Find the Best Online Dating Service

holdinghandssunsetWith so many dating sites available from which to choose it can be overwhelming when you want to know how to find the best online dating service. In fact, you might have difficulty deciding which dating service or site to use.

It’s just not a matter of which site to choose but also the features each site offers and whether they will help you in your search for a guy.

Top of your list should be whether your privacy is protected, what search methods are available, and how easy it is to contact someone.

As well, pricing should be a consideration – you don’t want to pay for services you don’t use and you don’t want to spend more than necessary since you won’t use the dating service once you’ve found a guy you’re interested in.

Plus, you don’t know how long it will take to find a great guy. Sometimes you’ll be lucky and find one almost immediately. Other times it could take weeks or even months before you find someone you’re interested in.

Here are some features to check out when considering an online dating service:

Quick and Easy Registration

Most dating sites offer free registration.

Some will allow you to communicate with other members for free – these are the true “free dating sites.”

Plenty of Fish is one free dating site that allows free contact between members.

Some sites restrict your access until you fill out questionnaires or post photos. At the time of this writing, two sites that require you to fill out a questionnaire include eHarmony and PerfectMatch.

Chemistry.com and Plenty of Fish have a questionnaire that also helps with matching but is optional to fill out.

HowAboutWe.com has a different approach to online dating. Like many other dating sites it has upgrades that allow you to read all of your messages and send unlimited messages. But its search feature is geared towards the type of date you want rather than finding a particular type of person. (It targets an important matching component – having shared interests.) Plus it also has features for couples, not just singles.

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Do Research Before Signing Up

There are many sites that do online dating reviews. Usually the reviews are unbiased.

But you should be aware that many of the owners of these review sites are compensated if you sign up or pay for a dating service.

A simple search will turn up hundreds – if not thousands – of sites for online dating.

But there are several large, well known sites including eHarmony, PerfectMatch, Chemistry.com, Plenty of Fish, and Match.com.

That’s not to say they are the best online dating sites. But they do generally offer a larger pool of candidates to draw upon depending on your search criteria.

There are sites for virtually all types of interests – niche dating sites for pet owners, religion, people into alternative sex, adult dating sites, and sites for short term, long term, and casual relationships including sex and intimate encounters.

Niche sites that cater to specific interests may or may not have a large pool of members depending on their popularity and the specific interest.

Be especially careful of sites that have fake profiles and scammers. Since sites don’t ordinarily screen each member, fake profiles are easy to establish since there is no verification procedure.

Profile information – including photos – is not necessarily genuine. It can be completely false and made up to lure you into a false sense of security with the intention to steal your money.

One of the easiest ways to discover fake profiles is to check the grammar. But that’s not a foolproof method and even asking pointed questions may not help discover that someone is a scam artist. Some are consummate liars who have successfully bilked women of their money.

This is not to say that you shouldn’t use online dating services. It just means you have to use common sense and maintain a healthy skepticism until you get to know the guy better.

Use The Dating Site’s Free Trial Service

There’s no better way to learn about an online dating service than to actually use it.

If it’s a completely free service you’ll have immediate access to many of its features.

Some free sites may offer a paid upgrade but for the most part they will provide the basic services including being able to message other members without charge.

Paid sites will require payment before being able to contact other members and/or read their messages. It’s important in this case to ensure that the site contains quality profiles of guys you’d be interested in meeting.

Sometimes guys will post their profiles on both paid and free sites hoping to attract a larger number of women so you may be able to contact them on a free site if you happen to come across their profile.

Contact Options

A quality dating service will offer several messaging options including email, instant messaging, and chat.

While it’s not necessary to have a lot of messaging options, it is helpful if you’re not getting much success from one particular option alone. For example, you may not be getting much response from emailing guys but you might find better response when chatting.

Online Dating Profiles

Reading online dating profiles can be a lot of fun and even entertaining when you read some of the essays prospective boyfriends post.

But first you have to do a search that will narrow down the field. Use the online dating site’s matching criteria to begin with. Sometimes you can narrow down the search even more depending on the sophistication of the online dating site.

Most sites have at the very least geographic and age range searches – both of which are vital to your search since you’re looking for a guy who is within a certain age range and usually pretty close to where you live.

It’s best to cast a wide net to begin with and then narrow down your choices. If you’re younger you’ll probably find a pretty large pool of guys to choose from ranging in all ages.

Once you’ve narrowed your boyfriend candidates it’s time to check out the profiles. First you’ll probably skim the photos to see if anything catches your eye. Then you’ll click on specific profiles to look at personal interests and the profile essay to see what brilliant things the guy has to say to entice you to contact him – which for most online dating sites is through anonymous email.

Most sites will indicate specific areas on the profile for religion, whether he wants kids, hair color, and other personal particulars. Some will also indicate a personality type – for example whether he’s a night owl or morning person or a book worm or adventurer or supporter.

Be on the lookout for craftily disguised wording with double meanings:

“Loves his work” could mean he’s either a workaholic or has a controlling personality.

A “sensitive” guy could mean he’s a sissy or is actually sensitive.

A guy with a “sense of humor” could mean he’s a bore or he thinks he’s funny, even if he’s not.

“Looking for a best friend” could mean he really is or maybe he’s looking for a sex kitten who is into intimate encounters or a friend with benefits arrangement.

But please don’t prejudge or jump to conclusions – which could be wrong. It’s only by meeting and getting to know the guy that you will know for sure whether you like his personality and whether you’re compatible.

If you prejudge a guy before getting to know him – which many women do – you could be passing on a quality guy who would make a wonderful boyfriend or husband.

And just because he says he has particular interests that don’t align with yours doesn’t mean you’re not compatible.

You don’t have to answer questions that you think invade your privacy. Income questions are really no-one’s business but your own.

The weight questions are always tricky – you don’t want to put a great guy off but at the same time you want to be truthful. After all, there’s no point in saying you’re athletic when in fact you have a few extra pounds or you’re rubenesque. It’s usually best to be truthful in the weight category since he’s going to find out what your build is if you meet or if you post a full body photo.

One of the usual questions is whether to include a photo or not. Some sites indicate that your success in getting responses will increase by up to 10 times if you include a photo. If you’re a very attractive woman you’ll find you’ll get a lot of responses simply because guys like your photo, not because they’ve read your profile.

Obviously, people with a photo are more likely to get a response if the photo is flattering and you’re attractive. If you’re reluctant to post a photo for privacy reasons then indicate you’ll send one to those who you think you’re compatible with.

Keep in mind that if you don’t display a photo some sites will limit their functionality until you do. As well, the issue will come up once you start corresponding with guys because a photo is one of the first things they ask for.

Take a good photo with your digital camera or smartphone. Each dating site has instructions on the file format and size and how to upload photos to your profile. Unless it’s an adult oriented dating site there usually are conditions about what photos are acceptable.

Be sure to crop photos with other people in them – especially if you’re hanging off the arm of a man (even if he’s your son). Where you don’t crop photos with men in them, be sure to explain who the man is – your son, your brother-in-law, your brother, your father.

Show photos with head and full body shots as well as those that show you in your favorite activities to give the reader a sense of who you are and what you enjoy doing. Photos don’t have to be professionally done studio shots but avoid uploading blurry photos or photos where you have sunglasses on or those where you’re so far away no-one can see what you really look like.

How successful you are on an online dating service depends on several factors including quality of profile, size of membership, messaging options, how diligent you are in combing through profiles, and how proactive you are in contacting guys who interest you.

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Best Online Dating Services

coupleholdinghandsOnline Dating Sites have become increasingly popular over the past decade or more.

And rightly so.

There are literally hundreds of Online Dating Sites that cater to the busy woman who wants to meet a great guy but who hasn’t got the time or inclination to go out to meet him.

There are several online dating sites that have very large memberships including PerfectMatch, Plenty of Fish, and eHarmony. The advantage of these types of services is wider choice of eligible men to date and have a relationship with.

Here’s a brief overview of popular questions many women ask about online dating services and dating online.

What Is The Advantage Of Online Dating Sites?

Online dating sites are an excellent way to meet men who you would normally not meet otherwise.

Many women don’t have the time to go to bars or clubs. Others don’t want to spend the money involved with offline dating – at least initially.

And others find it intimidating to approach men before getting to know them a little better – which you can do with a dating site.

Instead, they find online dating sites to be a quick and easy way to make contact with others who have diverse or similar interests.

Most dating sites make it very easy to get started. Some, however, are more involved initially since you have to answer detailed questionnaires in order to get matches that suit your personality or criteria.

How Much Success Can I Anticipate From Dating Services?

Simply put, dating sites DO work for many women as well as men.

Millions of people visit both free and paid dating sites each day to make contact and to hookup for dates and fun activities and intimate encounters.

Most sites even provide success stories of couples who have met and gotten married. POF (Plenty of Fish) is a free dating site that includes success stories.

The key to success with a dating site is patience and being proactive. Which means you have to contact men and search profiles – almost on a daily basis. In addition, it helps your chances if you have a well written profile and attractive photo.

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How Safe Are Dating Sites?

While online dating sites are generally safe, it’s still wise to follow a few guidelines to ensure your personal safety when meeting someone.

Be aware that sites don’t usually do background checks so it’s your responsibility to protect yourself from unsavory men.

Reputable sites provide a safe environment for anonymity. Your contact details and personal information are safe and with some sites you can message back and forth without revealing your email address or personal details until you’re ready to do so. As well, many sites have an option to “block” other users if they are rude or harass you. You can also report these site abusers to the site’s administrators.

Some online dating sites safety rules include: Meet in a public place. Make sure someone is aware of your date and where you will be. Never take a stranger back to your home or have him meet you at your home. And never accept an offer to be driven anywhere unless you know the person.

Most sites have detailed lists of safety rules for their members.

What Are Some of The Best Online Dating Sites?

Everyone has their own opinion on the best online dating sites. Usually they will recommend a site if they have had success.

It also depends on whether you’re looking for a free or paid site.

One of the most popular free dating sites is POF (Plenty of Fish). It offers concise profiles as well as the ability to contact men for free.

Some paid sites also allow women to contact men for free. Many, though, will allow you to post a free profile but charge for communicating with other members.

Popular paid dating sites include eHarmony, Chemistry.com, and Perfect Match.

Your best strategy is to sign up for a few sites to see what response you’re getting. Most paid dating sites will allow you to post a free profile although you usually won’t be able to contact other members unless you pay.

There are also dating sites for specific niches including pets, sports and fitness, religion, and activities.

Are Paid Sites Better Than Free Online Dating Sites?

Again, this is a matter of personal experience. There’s no guarantee that a paid site will be any better than a free site for contacting someone and making a connection or getting into a relationship.

Some free sites – particularly niche dating sites – will have a smaller number of members which makes it harder to find your True Love.

Sometimes free sites won’t have as many features as a paid site but generally if they provide a way to contact someone for free it’s worth giving a free site a try.

Some people post their profiles on both paid and free sites for better exposure.

Generally people gravitate to sites with high membership since it gives them more options and opportunity to meet someone to have a relationship with.

You should be aware that some sites have been accused of “beefing up” their membership numbers with fake profiles. And some members have more than one profile which can also distort the membership figures. Also be on the lookout for members who are scammers.

People who pay for a membership with an online dating site are definitely serious about finding someone for a relationship. But just because someone signs up for a free site doesn’t mean they’re not serious about wanting to be in a relationship.

Also be aware that some sites will email you to say that someone is interested in you or has contacted you. But in order to read the email you have to have a paid subscription. Sometimes this is a legitimate inquiry from someone who is genuinely interested in knowing more about you. And sometimes it’s a scammer who is trying to fleece you of your money.

How Do I Use An Online Dating Site To My Best Advantage?

First, create a good profile – one that is interesting and invites guys to contact you.

Include an attractive photo – or several photos.

Don’t wait for guys to contact you – even though it’s likely you’ll get a number of enquiries. Instead, do your own searches and look for guys who might interest you.

If you’re on a paid site you may have to upgrade to contact guys and initiate a conversation. Also be aware that just because you contact someone doesn’t mean you’ll get a reply.

That’s why it’s a good idea to sign up on several sites and to also pick sites with large memberships.

What Types of Online Dating Sites Are There Out There?

The internet is filled with sites that cater to all types of people who have different interests and tastes.

There are dating sites for those of the Jewish faith, sites for Single Parents, Christian dating sites, and sites that cater to scuba diving, pets, and other interests. There are also sites for those who are Big Beautiful Women and large men.

I’m Seeking A Casual Relationship Leading To A Serious Relationship. Which Dating Sites Are Good Choices?

In no particular order, you could try PerfectMatch, eHarmony, and PlentyofFish.

If you’re looking for “hookups” and one night stands or you want to make friends with someone so you have a FWB (Friend With Benefits) relationship then AdultFriendFinder.com or Passion.com are two sites to consider.

What Should I Say In My Dating Profile?

Your dating profile is an opportunity to put yourself in front of hundreds of potential men – and dates.

Hopefully it will lead to finding the man of your dreams.

It’s your task to sift through responses and profiles of eligible men before deciding to meet them for a date.

Make your profile interesting. There’s no need to give a lot of details – just enough to arouse curiosity and invite a guy to correspond with you.

A shorter profile is usually better than a long profile simply because men are scanning your profile looking to see if there are things you both have in common.

Say something about your interests and also indicate what type of guy you’re looking for. Some profiles also indicate that they won’t respond unless the guy has an update photo. Still others say they won’t respond if they don’t think there is a match – usually because they don’t find the guy attractive or because there aren’t a lot of similar interests.

Avoid saying anything about past relationships or that you’ve kissed a lot of frogs or dated a lot of losers. It puts you in a bad light and makes you look bitter.

Also avoid inviting guys to ask you anything. Instead fill out your profile as much as you can. And avoid saying that you’re just looking – it makes you look insincere in your search and many guys will think you’re a trifler or tire kicker instead of having serious dating potential.

Should I Include A Photo On My Online Dating Profile?

This is a common question that most people ask especially with online dating.

A photo will, in many cases, increase your chances of getting replies. However, sometimes it can work against you if you’re not photogenic.

It’s a good idea to add at least a couple of good photos so a guy can get a sense of who you are. Studio shots are not required – in fact they can look rather uninviting. And don’t consider using other photos like passport photos or driver’s license photos.

Head shots and full body shots are the best. If you’re interested in attracting a guy who likes boating, for example, show a shot of yourself on a sailboat or kayak or fishing boat.

Bikini, bathing suit, and beach shots can be particularly attractive to guys especially if you like to travel to warm climates and you’re looking for a guy who also likes to travel.

From your own experience you know that you’re more likely to read a profile that has a photo instead of one that doesn’t.

If you’re a very attractive woman who doesn’t want to be inundated with emails from every guy on the planet – or you value your privacy – you can indicate you’ll provide a photo only to those men you think you could have a connection with.

How Long Should I Correspond With A Guy Before Meeting Him?

This depends entirely on the connection you have with the guy and how interested you both are in meeting.

A normal progression is to correspond and then talk on the phone although there is no set rule to this.

Many times it’s better to meet in person relatively quickly since you might be falling in love with the concept of being in a loving relationship rather than being in love with the guy himself – which is impossible since you haven’t met him in person.

How Can I Weed Out The Losers and The Scammers?

No matter what you put in your profile you’ll always get people who aren’t suitable for you. Some simply wouldn’t be a match. Others are scammers trying to get your money.

Having said that, it’s always a good idea to say what type of guy you’re looking for and what interests you have that should be shared by him.

Scammers are usually easy to spot – their grammar isn’t very good, their spelling isn’t always very good, and they don’t answer your questions (or they avoid giving you a complete answer.) While poor spelling doesn’t automatically disqualify a guy, be wary of someone with poor spelling or grammar – they are red flags.

How Can I Attract A Man?

If you’re tired of being single and you’re ready for love, then the Girl Gets Great Guy System can help you.

The Girl Gets Great Guy System is about finding the right guy for you.

It applies to both online dating and to offline dating – although it shows in detail how you can get a guy offline.

But many of the techniques and principles can be used whether you find a guy online or offline.

As well, it’s not just about finding a guy. It’s about having a relationship with a guy and deciding whether he’s the right man for you and whether you’d like to eventually marry him.

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Online Dating: Internet Dating Scams

loverssunInternet dating scams are not a myth. And they don’t necessarily happen to other women. They could just as easily happen to you.

The online dating world has its fair share of con artists who prey upon the innocent, gullible, and unwary.

So it shouldn’t come as any surprise to you that scammers will try and trick you to “part” you from your money.

It’s easy to be tricked if you’re not vigilant or if you’re unaware of these dating scams.

Immediate red flags for internet dating scams include:

1. Poor or unusual grammar.

2. A request for your email address or Skype or home phone number even though he just “met” you online and you don’t know anything about him.

3. Inability to or taking too long to answer simple questions about themselves.

4. Evasive answers that don’t tell you anything.

5. Facebook friend requests from strangers.

Here are three internet dating scams or “Romance Scams” to be on the look out for:

1. The “Cam” Romance Scam

He’s hot. He’s handsome. He’s enticing. And he’s looking for someone just like you.

At least that’s what he says in his dating profile.

In reality, you could be his next victim. Because he’s not looking for a relationship, he’s looking to separate you from some of your hard earned money.

Here’s how the cam scam works…

He initiates contact with you or he responds to your email.

You’re flattered with the attention – especially since he’s so handsome.

He’s so charming you’re dazzled.

Of course, you’re falling in love with him.

And eventually – when you’ve shared lots of personal details – he asks you to turn on your cam and let him see you.

Since you’re “in love” with him you want to share some intimate time with him – even though it can’t be in person.

First he asks you to wave to him.

Then he asks you to blow him a kiss.

Then he asks you to be flirty and tantalize him.

Before you know it, and feeling quite adventurous, you start taking off your clothes to show the love of your life what you look like naked.

Little do you know, he’s filming all of this and then making photos of you naked.

And naturally, when he asks to be your friend on Facebook you readily agree.

After all, you want to show all of your friends your “new guy.”

Next thing you know he’s threatening to use your cam shots and show them to other people – even your friends and family on Facebook – because by this time you’ve shared a lot of information with him.

He might even know where you work.

It could be embarrassing to say the least, or even worse, lead to your dismissal at work if your employer saw your video/photos.

Of course, he says that if you pay him money you’ll be safe and he won’t distribute the video or photos.

In a word: it’s blackmail.

So, if you’re looking for a wonderful man to have a relationship with…then this is one “hot number” you’ll definitely want to cross off your list.

Internet Dating Scams – Tip #1: Camming can be dangerous to your reputation and even your job.

You can be the victim of blackmail or even identity theft.

Avoid at all costs strangers asking you to go on cam and taking your clothes off. (If your grandmother wouldn’t approve, you know it’s wrong.)

2. “Send Me Money” Romance Scam

Every day, unsuspecting women are conned into sending money to strangers they “met” and “fell in love with” online through a dating web site.

They’ve never met these strangers and they never will.

Because these men pose as someone else and are con artists.

They’re inventive with their stories. They post phony pictures. And they go by several names.

They could be from Nigeria…Africa…England…France…or any other country in the world.

They could even be from your own state or province.

Their tale of woe goes something like this…

“My mother needs urgent surgery…”

“My child is sick and needs an urgent operation or medical attention…”

“I’m in hospital and I need money…”

“I’ve been stranded overseas and I don’t have enough money to get home…”

“I don’t have enough money for a passport…”

“I want to come and visit you because I’m so in love with you but I can’t afford the plane ticket…”

“I desperately need your help…”

It doesn’t matter how urgent the plea…how pitiful or heartbreaking the story…how convincing the promises…or how sincere their expressions of love seem…if you get a request for money from someone you’ve “met” online or through an online dating web site, it’s time to walk away immediately and block that person from contacting you again.

No matter how you rationalize it…you’re being set up to be a victim of fraud.

Remember…the photos they send aren’t theirs. Their stories aren’t true. The promises they make are false.

And they’re pros at what they do. That’s why they do it – because they’ve been successful in fleecing lonely, desperate, trusting, innocent women of their money with false stories and promises.

They’re not in love with you…and never will be. They are not your “soul mate” no matter how much they sound like it. There is no “connection” or “chemistry.” They are simply telling you what you want to hear. And your situation is no different from that of any of their other victims.

These people are not a part of your life – they are a part of your imagination. There’s no reason to feel guilty that you can’t help them. They are simply preying on your emotions. They’re appealing to your kind nature. And their only goal is to bilk you of your money.

So step away from the fantasy world that they have created, come back to your senses, and rejoin the real world. All they want is your money. And the moment you send them money they’ll ask for more. And when you’re unable to send more they’ll disappear into thin air.

Your situation is no different from the hundreds of other stories from people who have been victimized. So don’t be the next victim.

One final thought and reality check: If they need money that desperately, they’re not the type of person you’re looking for anyway.

Internet Dating Scams – Tip #2: If they ask for money, walk away from them immediately and discontinue all communication with them. No second chances. No making excuses. No rationalizing your actions. No, “But my situation is different.” No, “But I’m in love with him.”

3. “I’ll Send You My Check” Romance Scam

If you thought being conned out of your money was bad enough, this scam could very well land you in jail!

Your online “sweetheart” is so busy he can’t get to the bank to deposit his pay checks. But he trusts you because he “loves” you.

He wants to arrange to send you “his” checks (or money orders) to you so you can cash them for him.

All you have to do is send him his money.

Sounds simple enough, right? No harm in helping out your “sweetheart,” right?

Wrong!

It turns out those “pay checks” or “money orders” (or any other type of “check”) are phony. And if you negotiate them you’ll have committed a criminal offense and be charged with a crime.

And guess what?

Your “sweetheart” won’t be around to help you. He’ll just move onto the next victim.

And you’ll be left with a criminal record and a ruined life.

Internet Dating Scams – Tip #3: Don’t cash a stranger’s check. If he’s too busy to get his own money then there’s something wrong and he should be avoided at all costs.

Meeting someone from an online dating web site can be a wonderful and rewarding experience that leads to finding your true love.

But online dating has its own particular hazards that you should be aware of.

As with any dealings with strangers – especially on the internet – use common sense…take a few simple precautions…check things out…and listen to your intuition and instincts. Don’t let your heart and imagination override your common sense.

If you do come across any of these online dating scammers, block their profile immediately, report them to the online dating service, and consider blocking international profiles since they are probably of no interest to you anyway.

By being aware of these internet dating scams you’ll be much more likely to enjoy your online dating experience instead of being the next online dating romance scam victim.

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Whether you find a guy online or offline, the Girl Gets Great Guy System can help you find your Mr. Right.

There are LOTS of great guys just waiting to meet you. But you have to know where they hang out, how to attract them, and how to seduce them.

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